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Just Said Yes October 2016

After wedding sadness

Julie, on October 17, 2016 at 8:35 PM Posted in Married Life 0 2

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So don't get me wrong. I'm soooo happy to be married to the man of my dreams.

But we just got home from our honeymoon and I feel an intense feeling of sadness.

I just can't believe the wedding of my dreams is over. Plus just some day of regrets/things bothering me. It rained on my wedding day and we had to have it inside which was fine but I just keep thinking about little things like my necklace was too long. We didn't get some of the photos I wanted. I didn't use the photo booth or see all the decor. I didn't talk to everyone. My dress bustled weird. All small things but I keep thinking about it.

Now I'm stressed about getting photos and video back. Photographer is confusing me with what we get.

I have cried like 5 times and we have only been home from Mexico for three hours. I don't even want to look at the honeymoon photos because I get too sad.

Is this normal? What can I do? I don't want to feel like this!

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Latest activity by Catie, on October 17, 2016 at 8:52 PM

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O&L · on October 17, 2016 at 8:51 PM
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I heard that post wedding blues are very normal. I have not feel that way yet but I also can't help but looking back and wish some of the things went differently.
There's nothing to be done about now so you just need to focus on the positive aspect of the wedding day.
They also say you should pick up a new hobby to fill the void.
I have been busy catching up with work after the wedding but I think that help with coping.
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Catie · on October 17, 2016 at 8:52 PM
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From one rained out bride to another, I feel you. It poured a hour before our ceremony and didn't stop until Sunday- ceremony was supposed to be outside but I was more sad we didn't get to do a cocktail hour on the water. Our bus driver for the guests left half of the guests at the hotel, and the pickups to go home he was more than a hour late each time- the last pickup was over a hour late- 'my venue was nice enough to keep the bar open. I was ready to put it all past me and celebrate at the hospitality suite- when my MOH locked herself in the bathroom drunk and crying. My bridesmaids were taking care of her but my mom insisted I was the one that had to. After we got her to bed, I left the after party and sobbed from 4:30am to morning. All I could see were the disasters and not the whole picture.

Here's what helped-- focusing on the moments of the weekend that made me smile. Practicing to dance with my dad in the bridal suite. Hearing about my mom when she was younger from her best friend of 50 years. Dancing to "timber" with my bridal party waiting for the wedding to start as the guests made their way to the ceremony. And after seeing people and them empathatically how great a time they had, I started to turn it around. The guests left at 2am were THRILLED they had an extra hour of free liquor. Everyone said my DJ was the best and the food was incredible. And when I got back our pictures and saw how awesome it really was, despite the hiccups, I look at our wedding in a much rosier light. I still side eye that every Saturday since then has been nearly perfect weather but at the end of the day, I'm married and had a perfectly imperfect wedding.
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