After Wedding Questionable Housing

My FH and I won’t live together until 6 months after we get married. I’m in law school in a different state and it didn’t make sense for him to quit his job to come with me for only 3 years when I plan on going back to our home state. It sucks, and I’m super sad, but I just try and remind myself it’s only for 6 months and then we have the rest of our lives!

My FH and I won't live together after the wedding for another year. His job is in another part of the state and neither of us are in a position to move jobs yet. So it sucks, but we're gonna get through it!

I can’t speak to living apart before marriage, but can tell you that I’m sort of in the same industry as your FH. I highly recommend he moves to one of those cities, mainly LA or NYC now if possible. It’s easier to get interviews and better if you are local. He’s probably not getting any cause companies only want locals (I recruited in some past companies), out of state resumes and reels get past on for locals.

Have you (or anyone) looked at his re’sume’ to see what could be wrong with it?

I'm in a similar situation. And me and my FH are in the same industry as your FH. I understand your FH's situation very much because I've moved to NYC for work and then Texas. I currently live in San Antonio and have been trying to get a job in the industry in Austin for a long time. My FH is applying in Austin too but he's living in NY all this time. We decided to go for getting an apartment in Austin, since that's where the companies and jobs are even though we haven't landed anything yet, and moving in a month before the wedding.
It's hard to make that decision of moving to a certain location when you never know where your next job will be. One place you didn't list as a possibility for both of you is Toronto. I know several game companies have studios there and many films and shows film there. However, it's better to let him keep the options open for a while, it would suck the moment you just move to LA, he gets a good offer in Seattle, just with no relocation benefit, and that whole situation would be very expensive.
Also just be supportive. Don't imply something is wrong with his resume or the way he interviews. The video game industry is a tough industry to get into, even with a masters in game design (I know, I have one). And it's a rocky industry at best, so many layoffs. Good luck to the both of you.

Is there a reason that one of you can’t move in with the other (at one of the places you’re living in now) until something more permanent works out?

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Thank you for sharing. Best of luck with the rest of your law school journey! I totally understand you on the whole sad feelings bit. But like you said, this struggle is only temporary. I needed that reminder 😊. Thanks so much!