Activity for Cathy

One of my bridesmaids has a 12 year old son who is on the autism spectrum. He is high functioning, but I am worried that all the chaos and the unfamiliar setting/faces will overwhelm him. (Weddings tend to overwhelm even neurotypical people!) There...

A friend is letting us use his classic wooden yacht for the wedding ceremony. I want to give this couple a special thank you gift for allowing us to use his boat. These people are "old school money," and have a lot of nice things, so I don't want to...

We already have all the housewares that we need, so we are setting up a honeymoon fund. (Yes, I know everyone says this is tacky, but, lighten up!) So far, I've looked at Honeyfund, TheKnot fund, MyRegistry (cash set up). Which of these do you think...

I was single for a long time before my guy popped the question. I have a lot of "embarassing" personal things (i.e. DVDs of favorite childhood movies or TV shows) that I don't know if I should dump or keep. These were DVDs of shows that, when I was...

(Touchy subject here) My mother is teeny, and even 1 glass of wine can get her totally drunk. When she gets drunk, she has no filter, and no inhibitions. Sometimes, she can get nasty, and I don’t want her to embarrass me, or ruin the day. Is there...

So I'm looking at rehearsal dinner venues and options. The weddings I have attended have usually included the bridal party--does this include the bridesmaids' spouses and the groomsmen's spouses? It seems weird to invite just the person who is in the...

So, what do you plan to call your MIL or FIL? I feel weird calling them Mom and Dad, because that’s what I call my own parents. Also, encore wedding kids (21 and 23) : what do they call you? I feel like “Mom” should be reserved for their bio Mom (Ex...

My fiancé and I found a really cool band that works with the vibe of our wedding. The problem is, they have a very limited repertoire, and none of them have DJ experience. We are looking for someone who can keep the party going and kind of knows the...

I see a lot of items that have proposals like “will you be my bridesmaid? “ is this a new thing? Do we have to give a proposal to be a bridesmaid and give gifts as well? I always thought the bridesmaid gift was towards the end of the wedding. That,...

So, this is the situation: my fiancé and I just found ourselves in a slight financial bind-a bunchnof unexpected expenses came up. i was thinking of taking a part time job (Starbucks or retail) on the side just to help get money for the wedding and...

My fiancé and I are both avid sailors (he is a licensed captain), and we would love to include a sailing trip as part of our honeymoon. Most of the packages I’ve seen are one or the other (land based in a bungalow or sailing on a cruise). We went to...

I was just going through my list of friends, and I just came to a sad realization: I don’t really know enough people to make it worthwhile for my fMOH to throw me a shower. Too many people live out of state, and I am not close to anyone at work. The...

My fiancé and I are getting married on a boat, and having the reception at the yacht club where we are members. Due to space limitations, not everyone can be on the dock or boat, but we want to invite our friends for the club as well. Its not a...

One of my bridesmaids is a lesbian, and I know she will not wear a dress. I am totally cool with her wearing a pantsuit or skorts or something like that. I am planning to go with Davids Bridal for budget reasons and because all the maids live in...

So, my fiancé makes more money than I do. He has 2 kids in college, both over 21. I have no kids or dependents. Once we are married, should we file jointly? Or married and file separately? What are the benefits to each one? ive looked all over for...

I don't know if this is the right forum for this, but here it goes... My future FIL had a stroke 1 day after I got engaged to his son. (no, the announcement was NOT what caused it!) Now FH has been by his Dad's side for 3 weeks in another state. I...