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Elise Abigail Photo

Elise Abigail Photo

Saint Louis, MO
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WeddingWire Couples' Choice Awards 2020 Winner
WeddingWire Couples' Choice Awards 2019 Winner
WeddingWire Couples' Choice Awards 2018 Winner
WeddingWire Couples' Choice Awards 2017 Winner
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WeddingWire Couples' Choice Awards 2015 Winner
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    Lindsey B. Sent on 01/01/2024
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    Wedding Experience of our Dreams

    It’s hard to put into words how incredible this experience with Elise and Ethan was! Elise was extremely responsive, helpful, knowledgeable, supportive and SO kind. Any person who is getting married would DREAM of this experience with their wedding photographer.

    The day of the wedding felt like we were sharing it with true friends. The energy that radiates from these two is so contagious and comforting.

    The photos they took tell the most beautiful story of our wedding. I had NO doubts in my mind with how well these photos would turn out. Elise has a special touch with capturing the beauty in humans. Her photos show the real moments and love shared.

    When Elise delivered our pictures to us she created the most MAGICAL experience to look back on the day. We genuinely relived that day through the pictures they had taken. We laughed and cried for hours looking at these STUNNING photos. The playlist she creates for you to listen to while looking at them only amplified the feelings!

    So much thought and care is shown in her work. I feel truly grateful and honored that our wedding was shot and shared with them. Thank you for your astounding work, sharing our wedding day with us and for being you :)
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    Logan S. Sent on 12/08/2022
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    Scott Wedding

    Elise and her team are such a pleasure to work with. They were so accepting of the LGBTQ community and they shot our perfectly. We could not be happier with how everything was handled and how the pictures turned out!
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    Kevin S. Sent on 12/21/2022
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    Simply the best

    Elise and Ethan are simply the best people you could possibly choose to photograph your wedding (or anything really!). They are such kind humans who truly make your day feel special that even if they didn’t take a single photo it would be worth having them there. As it is, they deliver amazing photography. Both candid and portraits are superb. They truly have an eye for catching everyone at your wedding’s natural beauty and essence. We also love the “analog” style of their photography. When we went through the slideshow with our family, I lost track of how many times they said “I think these are the best wedding photos I’ve ever seen.” It is impossible to overstate how thankful we are to have had them photograph our wedding.
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    Shae K. Sent on 09/13/2021
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    Absolutely Incredible!

    I cannot recommend Elise and Ethan's services enough! Not only were the pictures incredbile, but they as people are too! They went above and beyond and functioned as more than just photographers for us! They kept our mental state in check throughout the day, they kept events going, they even changed a couple of things last minute to ensure things ran smoothly for us when rain threatened our picture taking time!

    It is absolutely worth it to have them there on your special day. They were so much fun, so easy to work with, and they have great communication about their services, prices, and all the other odds and ends that go with it. Thank you guys again so much for being so great!
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    Sarah P. Sent on 01/06/2022
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    Best photographers in Southern Missouri

    Wow where to start.....after several days and weeks of extensive research, I found Elise online. Her "moody" vibe to her photography is what initially drew me in. After talking with her on the phone, it was her sweet nature and depth that closed the deal for me. We met her and her husband for the first time at our engagement photoshoot, which turned out amazing. They are the sweetest couple and I truly admire how well they work together. On the day of our wedding, Elise and Ethan both were so helpful- interacting with guests, holding things for us, telling us where to go and what to do etc.. Everyone loved them! We received our wedding photos the other day and I am completely stunned! She made a personalized playlist for my husband and I to listen to as we looked through the album and let's just say we were both crying throughout. She has a unique ability to capture the little moments that mean the most. You can really tell she puts her heart and soul into her work. Thank you Elise and Ethan!!
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    Adrianna E. Sent on 12/14/2020
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    Wonderful - from beginning to end

    Elise and Ethan are simply the best of the best. We had to reschedule our wedding date (like many this year) and they were so supportive and accommodating throughout the whole process. As for our photos, they turned out BEAUTIFULLY. I cannot put into words how great of a job they did. They both captured moments that my husband and I looked back on and were wowed by. Simply put, Elise and Ethan have all the skills and professionalism of a top tier business, while also making you feel like friends. We couldn’t have asked for a better duo to shoot our special day. Our thanks and love to you both!
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    Eli A. Sent on 11/12/2020
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    The Very Best

    My sister-in-law is a professional photographer and sent us about 20 recommendations and Elise was her #1 pick for our wedding. Amazingly we were able to work with her.

    Covid struck and threw our magical day into chaos. Elise stuck with us and doubled as a wedding planner and made our small ceremony so special.

    It doesn't end there. Elise came 5 months later to shoot our reception. This was not asked or expected. She did it out the love and we are forever grateful. She is absolutely the best.
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    Taylor Sent on 08/19/2018
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    Oh my goodness, words do not even begin to describe the love I have for Elise and her husband Ethan! They were so gracious to adventure down with us to the backwoods of Ponca, Arkansas to capture our love in one of our favorite rockclimbing locations. Our engagement photo's were nothing but spectacular and we cannot wait for them to shoot our wedding next fall.
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    Emily M. Sent on 10/17/2019
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    Amazing. Incredible. Hire them.

    Elise and Ethan are the best decision for photographers you can make. They will make your day the best and you’ll be blown away by their talent. From day one they made us feel welcomed and became our friends. Photos felt comfortable and natural because Ethan and Elise are so easy to instantly feel comfortable around. They are genuine, light hearted, so fun and will instantly be your best friends. 10/10 would recommend!!!
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    Kara Sent on 09/25/2019
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    Beyond incredible

    Elise and Ethan are just amazing! Hiring them for our wedding was one of the best decisions we made! They are so fun and kind and just some of the best people to be around. Our photos turned out GORGEOUS and I truly believe it’s because they have this way of making you feel so incredibly comfortable and beautiful when taking photos! I will cherish these photos for the rest of my life thanks to Elise! I truly could not imagine spending our wedding day with anyone else!
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    Gillian D. Sent on 10/04/2019
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    Elise and Ethan (and the moments they capture) are an absolute dream!

    If you’re looking for a photographer who is creative and kind, who cares about her craft and has a heart for marriage, then stop looking. You’ve found her. Elise has such a talent for capturing the true feeling of your wedding day, and it’s been an incredible joy to look back at our photos again and again and be able to really live it all again. You don’t realize how important that is until suddenly the day you’ve been planning has come and gone (everyone warns you it goes fast and it DOES). But, even though the day went quickly, I can’t imagine how much faster it would’ve seemed if Elise and Ethan hadn’t been there to remind us to just relax and enjoy the day, to slow down and be present with our people. Working with a married couple who are just so freaking fun (and are more than willing to get on the dance floor with you) made the day even better—they perfectly balanced being professional and personable. In fact, everyone who interacted with Elise and Ethan at our wedding said how great they were. We couldn't agree more! From the first phone call when Elise helped map out a timeline to making us feel at ease at our engagement session to the final shot of our wedding day, we felt so well taken care of and we’re so incredibly thankful to have such beautiful images to cherish. So, Elise and Ethan, thank you for doing what you do and being a part of our big day!
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    Shai V. Sent on 08/15/2019
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    Dreams are made of these photos

    Elise and Ethan were absolutely wonderful. They were everything we could have wanted, and so much more. We knew that we wanted them to shoot our wedding as soon as we got engaged, and they did SUCH a phenomenal job. They are extremely professional, and get shit done without being pushy. It was great, as we have some family that can be difficult. They both were so great with everyone, and incredibly kind. Elise and Ethan were also so much fun to have around. They were radiating positivity, and were damn dreams. She made sure that my husband and I were soaking in every moment, and not to take anything for granted. She slowed us down and grounded us in the day. The day of she was everywhere at once it seemed, and captured everything perfectly. Every tiny detail was beautiful and perfectly captured. 10/10 would recommend them to anyone looking for a photographer, because they are simply the best. There is so much love put into every single picture, and you can tell.
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    Taylor H. Sent on 08/27/2019
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    Elise and Ethan will be the best friends you never knew you needed

    My husband and I could not be more satisfied with our experience with Elise and Ethan as our wedding photographers. From the moment we booked them for our wedding they were so intentional about making sure they knew who we were, what we wanted our day to look like and making sure we were enjoying the whole process. Looking back at our wedding day I can't help but feel so blessed to have had Elise and Ethan there for our whole day. Elise made me feel so comfortable, beautiful and heard. And Ethan meshed so well with my husband and his groomsmen. Not only are they both absolutely incredible photographers, they are even more incredible people! We couldn't be more pleased with our wedding photos. The Randolph's were able to capture moments we didn't even know happened, details that I didn't even realize were going to be details we'd want to remember and emotions that feel like you re-live them when looking at the photos. I can't say enough about these two and who they are and what talent they have. Our wedding day wouldn't have been the same without Elise and Ethan!
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    Leah W. Sent on 07/15/2019
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    Absolute Magic

    Wow. We are absolutely speechless, in the best of ways.

    Our wedding was backyard, bohemian, laid back and earthy. When looking for a photographer, I truly wanted to find someone who jived with that. Someone who could capture the true essence of who we are. Someone who loves to create absolute magic. Elise and Ethan did that and so much more. From the very beginning, Elise was beyond helpful in the intricate planning of our day - timeline and all. Both Elise and Ethan went above and beyond in getting to know us as a couple, and as a family - something that truly came through in all of our photos. They had a keen sense of awareness and mindfulness throughout the entire process. They truly understood and captured all that was important to us. We get to relive our special day forever - the exact way I remember it - because of Elise and Ethan. So much love for them and all that is Elise Abigail Photo!
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    Joanna Sent on 07/05/2019
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    Above and Beyond!

    Elise and her husband are amazing! My husband and I had a nontraditional reception and were nervous about finding a photographer that could handle something unique. Not only did Elise handle it, she went above and beyond our expectations. Both she and Ethan were immediately able to pick up on the things that were important to us, and highlight them in the most beautiful way. They were a joy to have at our wedding. Elise was able to be a calm presence during special moments and a clear guide during chaotic ones. When needed, she was able to direct my guests with a kind efficiency that I greatly appreciated. Our pictures were returned and we were blown away. They are professional, kind and above all genuinely care about making your experience wonderful.
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    Melissa Sent on 06/17/2019
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    Beautiful photos, lovely photographer!

    I knew I wanted to go with Elise after seeing her work for a few friends' weddings! It was one of the best decisions I made for my big day! Elise was very detail-oriented providing a timeline for the day (i.e. who needs to be ready and where when) to ensure that all the photos we wanted could be done! I felt confident that I could let her take the reins and I would end up with beautiful memories of the day, which I did. The results were flawless as I expected. You can tell she spends TIME on each and every photo ensuring that each little piece pops and is filtered perfectly. In summary, Elise (and Ethan) are both professional and kind, and gave me photos I will cherish for a lifetime! Someone told me before our wedding that photos are one of the most important decision you make, because the photos will hang in your house for years to come...Elise came through!
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    Ashley Sent on 01/09/2019
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    Purely amazing

    Elise and her husband photographed our wedding on 10/20/2018. They are simply the best. Elise and Ethan are an amazing team that work together flawlessly. Elise photos of our wedding are absolutely stunning, romantic, and capture all the best moments of the day! We had a large wedding party and they knew how to organize everyone and contain the chaos so my husband and I got to enjoy the day instead of stressing! Hands down the best decision I made for our wedding was hiring Elise!
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    Hannah Sent on 01/01/2019
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    Five stars isn’t enough!

    We are so thankful Elise was the photographer for our engagement and wedding. She and her husband, Ethan, are not only incredibly talented and have impeccable attention to detail, they were also able to capture the most intimate moments in a noninvasive way. My husband and I felt we were able to truly be in the moment on one of our biggest days. Elise is equally good at commanding a room when needed, but also observing and capturing the details you won’t want to forget. You will not only be more than pleased with your photos, but you’ll also be thankful for their lighthearted, goofy companionship on your wedding day. Elise and Ethan are an incredibly talented duo and we would hands down hire them again.
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    HANDS DOWN AMAZING. Elise has an impeccable attention to detail which is evident in every single photo she captures. Her photography is truly a work of art. My husband and I haven't stopped looking at our wedding photos since the day we got them! We will cherish each and every moment she captured for the rest of our lives. Not only are our photos amazing, but Elise and Ethan have a special way of making everyone feel so relaxed and comfortable throughout the wedding process. They make an extraordinary team!
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    Kayla Sent on 08/04/2018
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    Where do I even begin?! Elise and Ethan are the sweetest, most talented and professional photographers ever! Elise Abigail Photo did an AMAZING job with our engagement and wedding pictures. We will cherish all our pictures for the rest of our lives. Elise and Ethan make you feel completely comfortable during photo shoots, and they truly capture the best moments in time. You can genuinely re-live a day through the pictures they take. My husband and I just received our wedding pictures, and we continuously look back through all of them. We honestly can’t play the slideshow without crying each time. Our big day went by so fast, but we get the chance to live each moment through our beautiful photos. I will never get professional pictures done by anyone else! If you are looking for the best pictures to capture your special day—look no further than Elise Abigail Photo!
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    We used Elise for both our engagement photos and the wedding day. From the very beginning, Elise was so great to work with! She spent time getting to know us as a couple prior to the photoshoots. She has a great eye for those special/creative shots and really knows how to make you comfortable, even in those awkward scenarios! She and Ethan make a great team, and we couldn't be happier with our decision to use them!
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    Georgeta G. Sent on 10/24/2018
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    Why you should choose Elise and Ethan!!!!

    Ethan and Elise are incredible photographers, the proof is in all their beautiful photos they have captured. If you are lucky enough to be in their presence they are not only good at what they do, they are just a beautiful couple inside and out. When we first booked Elise and Ethan, the first thing Elise asked is how we met; she wanted to know our love story. She want's to connect with all her couple's, and i love that. That's when we knew we made the right decision. My husband and I aren't ones to take a lot of photo's. We are awkward when it comes to taking picture's. So the day came for Elise and Ethan to shoot our photo's, well let me tell ya, it was hot as hell and we were sweating our butt's off. None the less Ethan and Elise had such great energy that day. Guiding us through all the poses and we were all making jokes and laughing it was like we had known each other for years. We had forgotten at time's she was even taking photo's of us, those moments they captured when we were least expecting were our favorites. My husband and I have been married a year now, and he's my better half. I can truly say we have so many adventures ahead of us. For our 1 year anniversary i made a video with all of of our wedding photo's, and let me tell you.. I balled like a baby when i looked back at all the great photo's Elise captured!! It was like i was reliving that day all over again. That's how everyone should feel when they look back at their photo's from special time's in their lives. So thank you to Elise and Ethan we will forever be grateful for the incredible photo's can't wait to share them with our children and grandchildren. So to everyone out there please don't wait to book Elise and Ethan, and jump on it as soon as you can!!! It's one of the best decisions you can ever make, it's something you will have forever to share with your loved ones!

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    Ashton Sent on 11/20/2017
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    Elise and Ethan were PERFECT. They photographed our October wedding at a state park. Our friend recommended Elise and I knew it was meant to be after my first conversation with her. We reviewed the packages and booked as soon as we could. We met before the wedding to discuss logistics and expectations. I felt at ease after that meeting. A timeline was created and all of my requests were met. They made us feel super comfortable during the wedding. They were professional, respectful, confident, kind, and enthusiastic. We received the photographs last week and they are breathtaking. I'm beyond happy.
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    Elise is ah-maz-ing! I knew right after being engaged that I had to have her as our photographer and believe me she is worth every. single. penny and MUCH more! Go ahead and do your self a huge favor, and book her, like NOW! Her photos are phenomenal. She has an amazing eye and knows just how to capture you in the best way. Plus her and Ethan are about as down to earth and friendly people as it gets. They make it so fun, just like hanging out - in our case the 4 of us just laughing the whole time.
    Wedding day was amazing. Elise is so great with ideas and timelines for the day of. I was planning our wedding myself and had tons of questions for her - after talking for 15-20 mins we had it all figured out! Shes an expert and I really appreciated being able to have her guidance and expertise. We got married at Chaumette Winery which was a venue she hadn't been to before. Between that and the fact that everything there is so spread out I hoped that I wasn't overwhelming her and Ethan too much. Wasted worry because they knew exactly where to go and when. This was so helpful because we were on a tight timeline but yet executed everything perfectly.
    That's the great thing about them. YOU are their priority! From giving you their own water and snacks they bring while shooting, to helping family members get placed, to making sure you have a private toast with your husband after the ceremony, and all the personal interactions inbetween. They want to make sure you have the best day! I was worried about not having a videographer but after getting our photos back I don't care one bit. Every single moment was captured and I could not be more happy! (oh and Elise even sent me a playlist to listen to while I looked at our pictures for the first time - talk about ALL THE FEELS)
    Elise is a true talent! I had her for engagment/wedding but she does amazing photography for any purpose! I fully recommend her! Best decision you can make! :)
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    Samantha Sent on 11/09/2017
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    My husband and I️ just received our wedding photos and I️ am crying all over again. To be able to relive this beautiful day but with Elise’s attention to detail is the greatest gift. From day one she was phenomenal to work with. Professional and hands down my best vendor. I️ know she would kill it and she did. Elise, thank you for showing us our wedding through your beautiful eyes, you truly have a special gift.
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