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gratia01
Devoted January 2021

Who to ask as bridesmaids

gratia01, on December 23, 2019 at 8:32 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 6
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Hi all,

I am pretty confidant on my plan for wedding party. I have not officially asked anyone yet. This past summer my cousin got married and I was a bridesmaid. I was not planning to ask her to be a bridesmaid for me, but I'm wondering if that would be rude. We have gone through a few phases in our degrees of closeness, we lived together for a year and then didn't really talk for several months and now only speak occasionally. Should I feel obligated to ask her to be in my wedding?

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Latest activity by Cher Horowitz, on December 26, 2019 at 7:45 PM
  • Kristen
    Master November 2020
    Kristen ·
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    Only ask who you want to ask. I have seen situations where someone was a bridesmaid in someone's wedding but not the same the other way around. I would ask the people you want by your side the day of.

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  • Samantha
    Dedicated January 2022
    Samantha ·
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    I can totally understand if you feel obligated but at the end of the day you have to chose people that you know will be there for you without any issues. Not saying she'd cause issues but I just feel if you have to think about it or feel some sort of obligation...you already know the answer. Congratulations and good luck!!
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  • Caytlyn
    Legend November 2019
    Caytlyn ·
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    You’re not obligated to have anyone in your wedding, even if you were in theirs.
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  • Emily
    Devoted May 2021
    Emily ·
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    I went through the same thing! I was my MOH at my sisters wedding. I knew I wanted her to be a BM but I felt obligated to make her my MOH.


    I ended up not and asking my cousin to be my MOH.
    My sister and great grandma are my BMs and my male cousin is my bridesman
    My sister was not at all mad/upset at me! Pick who you want to!!


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  • Jennifer
    VIP August 2021
    Jennifer ·
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    Never ask someone because you feel obligated! Smiley smile

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  • Cher Horowitz
    Master December 2019
    Cher Horowitz ·
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    Being a BM in your cousin's wedding does not mean she has to be one in yours! Ask whoever you're closest to! I would wait until a year out to ask anyone

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