January 2020

Who is walking me down the aisle?

Daeiona, on April 9, 2019 at 4:17 PM Posted in Family and Relationships 0 8
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Hi Everyone,
So I’m unsure about who is going to walk me down the aisle. I know the wedding tradition is the bride’s father but I’m not inviting my father.

Quick story time:
So my dad hasn’t been involved in my life too much. The main reason was him being a drug dealer. We just came in contact 2 years ago and have an on and off relationship. I haven’t seen him since I was a little girl due to him being incarcerated and living in another state now. Word around town, my dad is pretty much in hot water with some fellow street members in the state I currently live in.

I decided not to invite him since he do pose a threat to anyone who is around him. Am I wrong for excluding him from the wedding? Who is the next person I go to to walk me down the aisle?


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    Mim ·
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    You can have any one you want walk you down. Mom, sibling, grandparent, aunt, uncle, friend, your fs, are all options. You can always walk by yourself.
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  • FutureMrsCardona
    Beginner June 2020
    FutureMrsCardona ·
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    I don’t think your wrong! Do you have a step dad? Then maybe ask him. Or your mother.
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  • Jeanie
    Super February 2020
    Jeanie ·
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    I'm sorry to hear that your relationship with your father is so complicated, to say the least. I hope you don't feel bad about your decision, and by all means there is no reason why he should have that honor. Do you have any brothers or cousins you are close with? How about a stepfather or uncle? My friends father passed away when we were younger, and she had her grandfather walk her down the isle. I will be having my son walk me down the isle. Choose someone who is close to your heart. If you are close with your mother, that would be a special moment for her to take and would be a very sweet gesture. If no one seems right, walk yourself down that isle. You have managed to get through life without your father, and if no other father figure comes to mind, you deserve the spotlight to yourself! There is no rule that the bride has to be escorted down the isle by anyone.

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  • Danielle
    Master June 2019
    Danielle ·
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    Do you have anyone else in your life that it would be meaningful: mother, brother, uncle, son? If not, you can always walk yourself...nothing wrong with that.

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  • Melissa
    VIP October 2018
    Melissa ·
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    No one should be invited to your wedding who you do not want at your wedding - family or not. Good for you for doing what you feel is best for you.

    As far as who will walk with you - it can be anyone you would like, or no one at all! Who would you say (outside of your fiance(e), obviously) is someone you are very close to? Ask them.

    If you have a close relationship with a sibling, uncle, friend, mother, someone who had served in that "father figure" role, there's your answer. For me, if it wasn't my dad for whatever reason, there would have been no hesitation in choosing my mom.

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  • Marie
    Savvy September 2019
    Marie ·
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    Never feel bad about your choice not to include him. It's your and your husbands most special day, and only the most special should be there! I understand your situation, I'm in it myself. I chose to walk myself down. My mother and I are close but walking myself just feels right, and impowering. You do what you feel is best, and stick with jt
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  • Cynthia
    Devoted November 2019
    Cynthia ·
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    I’m having my mom and grandma who raised me walk me down the isle since my dad is also not really in my life. I prefer it that way I haven’t yet decided if I will invite him or not.
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  • Keyona
    Devoted March 2020
    Keyona ·
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    I agree with everyone that if you have another meaningful person they can walk you or you could walk alone. My dad and I had a strained relationship for sometime as well, so initially i preferred to walk alone. But my FH has been a active part in helping me rebuilding that relationship with my dad. But I am all for walking alone -- all eyes on you girl! Smiley smile

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