Long post. Kind of just need to vent.
I new early on in the planning process that I needed to hire a wedding planner. I am an out-of-state bride and the first of my family and most of my friends to get married and I felt that having someone to guide me through the process would help. I was deciding between two planners: a very experienced, expensive, traditional planner that didn’t seem to make the event “personal”; and a planner that was cheaper, pretty new to planning, but had more time to devote to us and I vibed much better with. I chose the 2nd.
I am am getting married July 2019 and am starting to get frustrated. I hired my (full service) planner Aug 2018 and I feel like we should be a lot farther along in the process than we should be. When I first talked to her and signed a contract, I gave her a budget (a pretty large one) and said that I was somewhat flexible but didn’t want to spend a fortune on one day. I really expected her to break down the budget for different areas immediately and keep it updated as I selected and paid for different vendors. She has not. when I asked if she could do a budget breakdown (because I’ve never even been in a wedding before- I have NO idea how much things should cost) she did. BUT, based it off of what we had planned to spend on the reception at 45% of the total budget (I know we are allocating a little more of our budget to the reception so 45% doesn’t seem right). Which put the budget she made total $20,000!!!!!!!! over the budget I initially gave her.
After looking on here at what others are paying for DJ, flowers, etc. I’m starting to panic and feel that some of the prices she told me were “fair” are way too high.
I know I obviously need to speak with her about this. I struggle with confronting people but this is stressing me out pretty much daily. At 7mo away, I feel like I should be confident about the amount of money I’m willing to pay for things and the definite budget.
How do I bring this up to her and fix this issue?