Sorry y'all, third post today. My parents are paying for the ceremony and bulk of the reception. FIL's are paying for the rehersal dinner and just told us they will also pay for a favor at the end (King of Pops popsicles to come in and give popsicles as everyone leaves). We were going to do invites with my parents names only. However, now that FILs are contributing a little should we have their names as well or something like "together with their families"? Thanks y'all!
My parents are paying for the bulk of the wedding, and we only just found out (after having the invitations printed) that FH's will pay for the rehearsal dinner. We wanted to include their names out of respect but still show that my parents are hosting the wedding.
It just depends on what you want, I'm putting "together with their families" since stepparents are involved and only my fiance's dad and stepmom are helping, not his mom. We are also putting money towards it, so the shorter line just seems less stressful!
Our invites will say "Together with their parents..." because both of our families are contributing to different things. No matter what, even if they gave you a small amount to help with the wedding, you should still include them. Has FMIL helped you pick your dress? Is she helping set up? They're still involved in some way so I'd still include them but I wanted to honor my parents in that way. If you don't want to add their names, you should take your parents names off as well.
Alternatively you could address the invite like "Mr. and Mrs. Smith invite you to the wedding of their daughter, Jane Smith to John Doe, son of Mr. and Mrs. Doe..." blah blah blah.
We also did together with their families even though my FH and I and my parents are the only ones paying for the wedding. My FHs parents dont have the money to help out but they are still his parents and super excited for the big day.
I'm still on the fence about my invitations. Currently my saved draft has Dr. and Mrs. request the honor of your presence at the marriage of their daughter to XXX. My parents are contributing to the ceremony/reception, we are paying for the additional items, and his mother is sending us on a cruise for our honeymoon. His father and step mother have not contributed.