So my mom tells me not to do rsvp cards because they will just be thrown away, so i was thinking on the invitations put please rsvp on our wedding site. Is that okay or should I just go ahead and do the rsvp
Most of our guests didn't use the rsvp cards we included with our invitations, and the few who did wrote things like 'Yay!!! out of 2' or 'Can't wait!!! out of 3' would be attending. The majority who didn't respond wouldn't have used an online rsvp, either. We mostly found out who was coming via text message, in person, and through other guests who had talked to them about it.
I did online only because there are no non-internet savvy people on our list, other than our grandmothers who we already know will not be attending. I think one or the other is fine. No need to have both as an option.
I mailed two pieces of paper. The invitation, and a rsvp insert. The rsvp card asked people to visit our website to rsvp. The only people who would have trouble with that is our grandmothers, and my mom is helping mine and his uncle is helping his. His grandma has already responded.
My main reason for doing it this way is to help "Save the planet" by not having a million pieces of paper, but other benefits include ease for guests - they don't have to remember to do something after they've filled it out, and can even rsvp on mobile; the saved cost of return postage; I don't have to keep track of 80 little cards or transfer information to a spreadsheet; I can obsessively check the app to see who's rsvp'd and read messages they've left.
So it was worth it for me.
Some people like the formality of tradition, and older guests expect cards to mail back.
We have the physical RSVP cards as well as the option to reply online. I do feel that the formal response cards set the tone for the wedding. If I receive an invitation without one, my assumption is that it's a less formal affair.
We had a separate RSVP card and it gave them options...website, call us, or mail card back. Most people in conversations are telling us they are coming. I'm not counting much on getting cards back or online RSVPs
Everyone used my RSVP cards!! I don't have a website, but there are very few I didn't get back!
I did this and it's been great so far. No problems with guests going on the site
I did not give my guests the option to rsvp through a card - they had to call or go online and only one person called and a bunch have gone online
Get the card. Yes, there will be some people who don't send them back, but I think the majority will. It will save you a lot of hassle. We plan to use RSVP cards, but have the website on them as well so people can RSVP online if they would like.
I definitely think you should include a traditional RSVP card unless your wedding is very small and casual. Two weddings I was invited to last summer had the option to RSVP online and I still went the traditional route. It just seemed right to me.
@thatonechick- That is my biggest fear!!! I assume you're not having a sit down dinner. If I have to text people with meal options repeatedly and tell them to go ask their SO and kids what they want as well, I'm going to lose my shit. Lol!