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MrsDitlow
Super September 2015

RSVP- and so it begins

MrsDitlow, on August 10, 2015 at 11:18 AM Posted in Planning 0 24
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Today is our rsvp deadline. I gave myself two weeks to track down all the people who didn't and thank god. I have to seek out half of my guests. I know I should have waited until after today to start but I've already started. What really irritates me is 90% of these guests are married themselves. Didn't they have to go thru the same thing? Shouldn't they know how frustrating it is to track down the rsvps and take a minute to send theirs? I had two options, send in the rsvp card that was sent with the invitation or go to our wedding website. But still I'm tracking down rsvps for half of my 150 guests and of the ones I do have most were just facebook messages or one family member asking another to tell me they were coming. I'm kinda stuck until I have a headcount and would like to move on with things because I will be out of town the week before my wedding and I have my bridal shower, bach party and another wedding to attend in between now and then. UGH! I know you guys can relate.

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  • Trisha
    Master August 2015
    Trisha ·
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    I was also super annoyed with our recently married friends that didn't RSVP.

    Our RSVP date was 2 1/2 weeks ago and I JUST got one Saturday. Seriously?

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  • Ashley771
    Super October 2016
    Ashley771 ·
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    People suck with this stuff! I don't know how people don't know how to RSVP!

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  • jomabago
    Super September 2017
    jomabago ·
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    I'm dreading this part! I can't believe you have to call that many people. They are grown ups, and like you said most are married, how do they just not RSVP?

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  • ALH
    VIP October 2016
    ALH ·
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    That is really frustrating and does suck! Maybe they've been married so long they forgot what it was like? I don't know. I am sending mine out the earliest that is socially acceptable so that when the rsvp deadline comes, I won't feel guilty about hunting people down to make sure I know that correct numbers.

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  • FutureMrsBrbr
    Master September 2016
    FutureMrsBrbr ·
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    I am always baffled by this. As soon as I get invited to something I need to RSVP to, I send it in as soon as I know if I am able to attend... people suck lol

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  • Lynnie
    WeddingWire Administrator October 2016
    Lynnie ·
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    People stink! Hopefully you'll have more trickle in over the next few days!

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  • tkdmommy22
    Dedicated November 2015
    tkdmommy22 ·
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    I am seriously not looking forward to waiting for RSVPs. My FH and I have the kinds of family where we don't know who to expect and who will be a surprise that they are not coming and I know I will have some huge surprises. I am so sorry you have to contact so many people! Good luck!

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  • Allison W
    Dedicated September 2015
    Allison W ·
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    People are the worst at the RSVP concept. Today is my RVSP deadline as well. Out of the 50 invitations we sent out. We have only received 20 RSVPs. I gave myself alot of cushion because I know my people and his people.. They are not very etiquette conscious. Most of them will probably drop them in the mail today. So I will wait 2 days before I start calling people. What really irks me is the people who think that just telling me verbally is enough..... UMM no! All you have to do is check "attending or not", write your name, lick the envelope and drop it in the mail. It takes 5 seconds. Why must people be so lazy!?

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  • MrsDitlow
    Super September 2015
    MrsDitlow ·
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    My cousin is getting married two weeks before me and when we got their invitation I didn't even sit down between opening it and walking back down to the mailbox with the rsvp. It's really that easy. You rsvp as soon as you get it unless you need to verify your work schedule or something and in that case you take care of it at the very next available moment. There are so many things in life that you have to rsvp for and I don't understand why it's so hard at this point. I don't even really care that I'm getting responses over facebook, at least they are telling me.

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  • Brenda
    Super September 2015
    Brenda ·
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    My deadline is this friday and I'm like a lion waiting to pounce on these people. I also have half that haven't said a word. some people like family I just heard through my mom so I counted them in but I have to confirm with a them too. the people that did RSVP are my FH friends! I'm so surprised that they did and I'm so grateful!

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  • MrsDitlow
    Super September 2015
    MrsDitlow ·
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    I tried to track people down for my bridal shower this weekend and one friend said she didn't respond because she thinks declining is so mean. Ok? Then what is not responding and making me wonder and call you to find out? If you can't make it, declining isn't mean, it's just true. So your baby has her three month check up that afternoon and you can't reschedule? I understand you can't make it, please just tell me.

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  • annakay511
    Master July 2015
    annakay511 ·
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    Give them a couple days, a lot of people will probably put the RSVP in the mail today. BUT- yea RSVPs suck!

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  • Laura Marie
    VIP September 2015
    Laura Marie ·
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    We had people rsvp who e-mailed us and were like "OOPS SORRY JUST KIDDING"

    I mean I guess I'm glad they told me but one of them was a person who cornered me at my friends wedding and was like "WHY AM I NOT INVITED"...........

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  • KD
    Super December 2015
    KD ·
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    Can someone clarify this for me?: if someone rsvps late (like a week+) and you did a follow up, is it OK to tell them "No, you missed the final numbers, you can't come"

    I'll give people maybe 3 extra days but I feel like I need to move on.... Please let me know the final etiquette on this, thanks!!

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  • Lauren B.
    Master October 2015
    Lauren B. ·
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    Your guests-


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  • MrsPlasters
    Super September 2015
    MrsPlasters ·
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    Our deadline is this Saturday and we haven't heard from the bulk of our invitees yet. It's frustrating. I want to finish my super time consuming favors but I'm not making 40 if only 20 are needed. Do yo think sending a little reminder e-mail is inappropriate?

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  • MrsDitlow
    Super September 2015
    MrsDitlow ·
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    I love that meme. My moh sent that to me a couple months ago and every time I see it, I laugh.

    KD- I am by no means an etiquette expert, but as far as I'm concerned, as long as you can feasibly add them to the guest list, you should. If you can't change your headcount with your venue or caterer without extra fees, if you'd have to add an extra table and come up with a centerpiece, if you'd have to completely redesign your seating arrangement, or if you've already ordered escort cards, something along those lines, then by all means say no sorry, you're too late (if you tried to follow up). But if its just because you are annoyed with them for being so irresponsible, you should probably add them and fake smile. Again, not an expert, this is just my opinion.

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  • Kelly
    Expert April 2016
    Kelly ·
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    If I have to call you...gimmie my stamp back!

    Email, call, FB, wedding website, mail in the card, which I pre-stamped for you...Its so easy.

    Good luck!

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  • Hannah
    Super September 2015
    Hannah ·
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    Yeah. I'm not looking forward to this. I know I will be chasing people as at least half of them come from a culture where RSVPs don't exist and my guests are 99% family who will just expect me to know they are coming. The 2 non-family members I invited have already RSVP'ed.

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  • Reggie
    Master September 2015
    Reggie ·
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    I don't get it. I always send in an RSVP pretty much the day I get the invite. Esp if there was a STD involved so I already was able to plan ahead. I don't think I've ever even waited until close to the deadline. I don't want to risk forgetting! Worse case if there wasn't a STD I have FH see if he can get off work and then send it in right after that which is usually a few days. I am only a week from our deadline and I have a grand total of 6 in so far. NOT looking forward to calling all these people.

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