lyla
Master July 2017

Question About Gifts/Cards for Wedding Guest

lyla, on April 4, 2017 at 5:54 PM Posted in Community Conversations 0 20
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FH and I are going to a wedding this weekend. We bought a kitchenaid mixer and a blender for the couple from their registry. Since it was an online registry, we didn't give a card with it. It had a place to write 100 characters and we just wrote "Love, our names." We know they already got it because they send us a text thanks.

Are we supposed to also give them a card at the wedding with well wishes in it since our registry gift didn't have a real card?

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  • MMB
    Master January 2017
    MMB ·
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    I'm really not sure what the etiquette is on this.

    But we had guests ship us gifts from our registry and they did not bring a card, FWIW.

    However, they did write their well wishes in our guestbook.

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  • StPaulGal
    Master July 2017
    StPaulGal ·
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    I would definitely give a card! Pick out something cute and write a nice message.

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  • GymRat
    Master May 2017
    GymRat ·
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    Yes, I think you should bring a card.

    Personally, I always give money at the wedding, and registry items I give at the shower (if I'm invited). I know that wasn't the point of your post though.

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  • annakay511
    Master July 2015
    annakay511 ·
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    Shew, that is a pricey gift! I would personally bring a card, because I like writing well-wishes. But I am sure they won't be slighted if you don't.

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  • Danielle
    VIP March 2017
    Danielle ·
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    We had guests do this and I kinda thought it was strange they didn't bring a card. Some of them mailed the gift the week after the wedding and it was so nice of them to give a gift. But when we were opening gifts and cards the day after we couldn't help but feel slightly offended that quite a few guests didn't even bring a card. You already gave a generous gift but I think a nice card of well wishes at the wedding would be a nice gesture and be very appreciated by them!

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  • Jenna
    Super November 2017
    Jenna ·
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    It's a great option to give a card but not imperative. I am sure the gift with the love XXX is good Smiley smile I would be happy!!!!

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  • Erin Wood
    Master July 2017
    Erin Wood ·
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    You can definitely give a card if you want. I think it's kind of a waste of money though. You already gave them a great gift and the card will most likely end up in the trash. I like getting cards but it's kind of like "oh that was really sweet" then I throw it away.

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  • BlueHenBride
    Master March 2017
    BlueHenBride ·
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    Personally, I'd bring a card to the wedding despite having already ordered a gift off the registry, and this is what I have done in a situation where DH and I ordered a registry gift for a couple.

    We had people both order gifts online and bring cards to the wedding and people that didn't bring a separate card after ordering a gift online. I don't think it's wrong not to bring a separate card, but I do think it's a nice touch.

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  • MTB
    Master May 2017
    MTB ·
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    I would also get a card.

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  • Vianna
    Dedicated January 2019
    Vianna ·
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    Honestly, unless there's a beautiful hand written note in the card I don't usually keep them. It always feels impersonal when I open a card and after the hallmark message there's just a "Love, soandso." Those just take up space in my keepsake box. So I'd say unless you're pretty close to them and are going to write a heartfelt message, I wouldn't worry about a card.

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  • Stacy
    Super September 2017
    Stacy ·
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    If someone got me a 300+ dollar gift I wouldn't feel at all offended that I didn't receive a card. That being said, I don't feel entitled to cards or gifts in general and this it would be ridiculous to feel slighted. I wouldn't give bring one, but that's just me.

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  • kirackle
    Super September 2017
    kirackle ·
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    I can't believe people feel slighted that someone who had the foresight to pre-ship a nice wedding gift did not also bring a card to the wedding. Talk about entitlement.

    I always send wedding gifts well in advance. At the wedding, I write a few sentences in the guest book. I have never brought a card with me. Apparently that means I am a rude and terrible guest.

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  • snowangel
    Super March 2017
    snowangel ·
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    We had several guests send us generous gifts before the wedding. These guests didn't bring cards to the reception, and I wasn't offended at all.

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  • Hopeless Romantic
    Expert April 2017
    Hopeless Romantic ·
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    Wow 2 big gifts is almost too generous! It would be nice to give them a card though too.

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  • Grace
    VIP June 2018
    Grace ·
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    I honestly don't think I would be offended, maybe a little sad for nothing a little more personal like a nice handwritten best wishes, but no offense would be taken. Not everyone is eloquent with words or wants to spend even more.. you're also already buying them one a hell of a gift! I would say if they are close friends I would buy them one, if not I probably still would but wouldn't feel nearly as obligated to. I guess I just feel really awkward showing up with nothing even if I already bought them something off the registry.

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  • Natalie
    VIP March 2017
    Natalie ·
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    We had a lot of guests who bought something from our Amazon registry and brought a card with a nice note to the wedding.

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  • A. L.
    Master July 2017
    A. L. ·
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    I wouldn't think to bring a card after buying such a nice gift off of the registry.

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  • MissGtoMrsG
    Expert July 2017
    MissGtoMrsG ·
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    If I give a gift at a shower I don't bring a card to the wedding. Some people love greeting cards but I think they're a waste of money.

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  • ShanynL
    VIP September 2017
    ShanynL ·
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    I would still do a card

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  • Danielle
    VIP March 2017
    Danielle ·
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    Speaking for at least my comment- I was saying i thought it was really thoughtful of people to send it early and your gift is super generous. I said I think a card would be a nice gesture (I always save cards and my husband and I enjoyed reading them after the wedding).

    What I meant (which doesn't apply to you as you already did) was there were a lot of people who didnt give a card or gift. Don't care at all about getting a gift from everyone. But when it's someone who's pretty close to you I feel like it's a normal human reaction to feel a tiny bit bummed about people close to you not even bringing an empty card. Later a couple of them did send something in the mail which was really nice. My whole point was you can't go wrong with a nice card ever so when in doubt, do a card! Not sure how that's entitlement.

    ETA. Reread my comment and it was definitely not clear on this. Oops.

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