Just Said Yes December 2018

Overcoming my eating disorder...

WeirdoWithACat, on December 4, 2017 at 10:41 AM Posted in Fitness and Health

I've been struggling with a binge eating disorder ever since I could remember. My home that I grew up in wasn't the easiest. My father's an alcoholic and has a gambling addiction, my mother is bedridden from severe depression and my brother is mentally disabled has some behavior issues. I looked for comfort in food (mostly sweets and fast food) at thirteen and that's where my eating addiction began. I am now 23.

I didn't think I had a problems until my eating disorder took a very wrong turn for the worst this year and I gained nearly forty pounds after I bought my clearance wedding dress in July. Even though I have an entire year to lose that weight and I am finally getting my eating habits under control (My fiance and I both have eating disorders and will be going to therapy today), I am still ashamed I went from 190 to 230 (I am 6'3 in height and the dress is a size fourteen...)

I am not looking for pity, but advice on how to safety lose weight and overcome my sugar addiction.



  • cantwait4thedate
    VIP November 2017
    cantwait4thedate ·

    I am very sorry you are having these issues, as well. Do not dwell on "being ashamed", just realize that you had gained weight. Just recognize it, and work from there. Dwelling on it will only make it harder to get past it and move forward.

    I highly recognize seeing a nutritionist that specializes in eating disorders, and if there are any groups you can go to, I would recommend that too. One of my daughters developed anorexia when she went off to college, and was extremely sick before she recognized it. She had to see an eating disorder specialist quite often in the beginning, and still struggles, but is much better, though not healed. It is like being an alcoholic, in that you need to take "one day at a time".

  • Stephanie
    Super May 2018
    Stephanie ·

    First off you have nothing to be ashamed of. I am very glad you and your FH are seeking therapy. Like the others have suggested I would talk to a nutritionist. The biggest thing for my FH and I as far as weight loss goes is to not bring junk or sugar into the house. If it isn't in the house we don't get temped as easily! Best of luck

  • Jennifer M
    Devoted April 2018
    Jennifer M ·

    I agree with PP. I also think that, through therapy, a nutritionist, and a fitness coach you can make lifestyle changes. That's the biggie. Don't call it a diet. And hopefully they will help you realize that food isn't your enemy and you shouldn't feel ashamed to eat- even cake. Just not the whole cake.

    Hopefully you can find a fitness routine that helps you de-stress. I'm a huge fan of yoga to de-stress. (I LOVE the Yoga Studio app by Gaiam. Best $5 ever!) I wasn't a huge runner, but I've found that, after making myself run until I actually started to like it, that it helps wear me out when I'm a bundle of energy and I can't sit still for a slow, measured yoga. So I encourage you try out some local classes of a variety of things. Check out Groupon- they usually have a lot of discounts for local gyms. You can try out Pilates, weights, Zumba, yoga, spin... find one that speaks to you. Bonus points if it speaks to your FH. Couples are usually much more successful when they commit to lifestyle changes together. You can encourage each other and lean on each other for support.

    Take the junk out of your house. Start a meal journal. Just like budgeting money, you'll be surprised at how much you eat when you start writing it down. Apps like MyFitnessPal are useful tools for this because you can scan in the bar code of stuff and it automatically fills in the nutritional information. You can journal a recipe and save it for future use so you don't have to re-enter all of the ingredients again.

    Stay strong and best of luck to you and your FH!

  • Laura
    Devoted August 2018
    Laura ·

    You are taking the first step and starting counseling. Eating disorders are our responses to emotional triggers and finding new responses via counseling is key. At this point worry less about the weight and just focus on healthy behaviors. If you begin replacing your unhealthy behaviors with say healthy snacks and exercise, the weight will come off.

    For basics don't buy or keep unhealthy or trigger foods in the house (for me I cannot even think of having Oreos in the house because I can not control myself with them). Try a variety of workouts and stick with what you enjoy!! Use you FH as support and you guys can help each other get healthy and build a better healthier happier life together.

    You got this!!!

  • RustyTheDog
    Dedicated December 2017
    RustyTheDog ·

    Don't be ashamed. We all have addictions or issues we are proud of ourselves for. Get support for this lifestyle change- you can't do it alone. Hold you and FH accountble to each other, and a therapist and nutritionist if possible. Don't beat yourself up in setbacks. Focus on the positive and focus on loving yourself. You can do it! We believe in you!

  • Giovanna
    Just Said Yes June 2017
    Giovanna ·

    You are not alone. Love the self you are in now. Don't focus on the dress or losing the weight. You and your FH would really benefit from joining OA (overeaters annoymous). Dietitians and nutritionists can tell you what to eat. But that's not the problem. You need the support from OA that no councelor or nutritionist can provide. I'm a nutritionist and a personal trainer. It's not about losing weight for you. It's about getting the support you REALLY need. You will be a beautiful and happy couple, no matter what!

  • Charis
    Devoted June 2018
    Charis ·

    I 100% get it. I'm a former drug addict with 9 years clean but food was my first drug. I've struggled with bing eating for as long as I can reminder.

    A few months ago I started the Keto diet. Partly to loose weight, part for health benefits, but a big part because I heard it was good for food addicts. It was amazing! I wasn't hungry my cravings were gone. Granted this was after the adjustment period so do your research.

    Then I went cake tasting and my my mom was in town and made my favorite meal... I've been in full food relapse for the last 2 weeks. I feel horrible. I plan on going back to keto this week because my body hates me right now for eating crap. It's amazing how I can tell such a difference now that I've done keto.

    Even if you don't try this just know that you aren't alone! Years ago I also did a 12 step program called CEA-HOW. If they have meetings near you then you may want to try it. It really opened my eyes to why I ate. I'm a huge fan of the 12 steps!

  • Leila
    Super October 2017
    Leila ·

    I think you need to have mental clarity in order to help you address your food addiction. Seek out a therapist.

  • Spaghetti
    VIP November 2018
    Spaghetti ·

    I just saw a nutritionist and would 100% recommend it to everybody. Just a one hour visit really helped shift my mind into a healthier perspective. Maybe it's just hearing it from a professional that makes it stick better but it was much more effective than any plan I've come up with on my own. I'm paying close attention to my food groups, eating balanced and listening to my body (I have IBS so it's a challenge).

    There is no judgement, no shame and no reason to feel guilty in a professional's office. I am not counting calories, macros or anything like that - just basic food groups (dairy, protein, starch, veggie, fruit). It's the least stressed I have ever felt about my diet and I've already gotten compliments about how I look better just because I'm not bloated! My appointment was on Black Friday so those are some quick results!

  • Jennifer
    Super May 2018
    Jennifer ·

    I'm sorry for the pain life has caused you. I struggled with bulimia for over 5 years. There is no magic fix, but I can tell you what worked best for me. First, it was a desire to get better. Not pressure from anyone but myself. It took quite a long time for that desire to develop, but once it did the hard work to heal became worth it. I joined a 12 step program and was able to hear from and share with other people who had similar and even different struggles, there I found an accountability partner. This became essential! Secrets really do keep us sick so having that one person to open up to and keep me accountable was monumental in my recovery. I also went to counseling and highly recommend that. I wish you nothing but healing and happiness. Find hobbies to get you out of the house and away from triggers that may cause you to binge. God bless!

  • Soon2bMrsG
    Savvy February 2018
    Soon2bMrsG ·

    Please see a Registered Dietitian (RD) or Registered Dietitian Nutritionist (RDN). RD is the same as an RDN, just different names-both are dietitians, and have gone to college, done internships, taken board exams, and maintain continuing education. DO NOT GO SEE A NUTRITIONIST. A dietitian has formal education and is trained and legally certified/licensed to work with you. A nutritionist is NOT credentialled and could very well cause more harm. They do not NEED any education to say they are a nutritionist. Id recommend seeing both a therapist and dietitian.

  • caitlin
    Super May 2017
    caitlin ·

    I'm so sorry for what you've been through but so proud of you for speaking out and taking back your power by deciding to make a change. i struggled with bulimia and anorexia for many years and in some ways those disorders will always be a part of me. talk to a therapist who specializes in EDs (it sounds like you have already done this), find a nutritionist who can help you with setting some new patterns and goals, and take it one day at a time. to supplement your talk therapy you might also try a fitness app and a mindfulness app--meditation and mindfulness can be so helpful as you work on breaking out of old habits. hugs and solidarity to you!

  • MnmsMonique
    Super June 2018
    MnmsMonique ·

    I think you're on the right track by seeing a therapist. Once you get that going, it'll be easier for you to follow a nutrition plan. I commend you for taking those steps and sharing your story with us. I know it wasn't easy. I wish you the best.

  • Katie
    Dedicated June 2018
    Katie ·

    I struggled for half my life with eating disorders and just want to say it gets soooo much better. Please consult with your doctor and find a nutritionist! You don't have to do it alone. There are so many resources- books groups and things you can utilize.

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