No kids at the reception!

I am having an adults only as well. If it is an evening reception (7pm to 12am is ours) it sort of implys that already. However according to ettiquet it is the BM and MOH that spread the word. That is a bit harder now a days with guests so spread out. I suggest putting:

Reception to follow at.....

Adults Only Please

A funny way my mom denotes that kids aren't invited to her parties is that on the invitation she puts

"Adults: Free

Kids: $2000"

lol

@ALN, great wording.

Thank you, our wedding is at 5 p.m. but that doesn't matter to some people they will still bring their kids.

I love it Jennifer...I might use that one...lol

At the bottom of the invite where it says "Reception to follow" put "Adult reception to follow".

1.Address the invite to "Mr. & Mrs. John Smith" no "and family". That alone is SUPPOSED to be sufficient, with regards to etiquette.

2. However, practically, that won't work with everyone. We were worried our family would bring their kids (one cousin has 10!) So, we worded our RSVP card as follows: " _ seats have been reserved in your honour: and then filled that number in for them (2 for a couple). I think this was a polite way to get your point across, especially when that couple has kids.

3. On our wedding website under guest info, we said something along the lines that "due to space constraints, we regret to inform you that we will not be able to accomodate any children under 17".

4. If possible, have your parents and bridal party discreetly spread the word.

This worked for us! No kids arrived. Thank goodness!

We did get one snarky, passive aggressive reply on our RSVP cards- "We send our regrets. Hubby and I would love to come. However, since we would be traveling with our kids, we would have to bring them with us". Our wedding lasted from 12p-5p and they have preteens! As if they couldn't watch themselves in a hotel room for that long. I didn't reply to the bait.

If the wedding invitation isn't addressed with the child's name or and family, that means they aren't invited! Or you can say : Adult Reception to Follow

We just addressed the invitations to only those people invited (the adults). I only had one friend RSVP including her 9 year old son. I called and apologized that we were not having kids at the wedding and offered to help find her a sitter. She said, no problem, and we were set!

@ Patricia I am hoping that it will work the way you did it, because I am going to try it...Thanks A LOT!!

Everyone has great advice on here!!! I found a website that may help you as well (I posted it in my profile)

http://www.ehow.com/how_2321990_say-no-someone-asks-bring.html

You know I was going to put Adults Only Reception to Follow but a few people told me it was tacky. I also only addressed to Mr. & Mrs. and my reply cards are Mr. & Mrs. and the singles are Mr. or Ms.

But I have a feeling I am also going to have an issue with some of my pushy family.

We are also doing the "_____ seats have been reserved in your honor". We want some kids to come, others we don't want but HAVE to come, and then the ones we don't want to come are getting this RSVP.

Since we are DIY our own RSVPs we can do some like above and then some the traditional Yes Attending, No attending way.