So this isn't really wedding related, but y'all give the best advice which I could really use right now. I apologize for how long this is.
I've been really lucky in the last year... got my dream job, FH and I are finally financially stable, we went on a dream vacation, got engaged, are planning our wedding, and now we are hoping to purchase our first home (which we haven't told anyone about because we are waiting on our mortgage approval first).
My family has been so supportive, but my older sister is having a bit of a hard time lately and while she doesn't like to say it often is a bit jealous. I completely understand where her feelings are coming from, because to her it feels like she's stuck where she is while I check off all of the big milestones before her even though she is older than I am.
I try not to discuss the wedding or jobs/ finances, etc. when we talk unless she brings it up because I know that she always thought she would get married first being the older sibling. But I know that eventually if we get the house we are hoping to buy, I will have to tell her about it. I know she will be excited for us, but I don't want to add to the tension because I know that it will be a bit of an emotional blow for her.
I don't know how to tell her about this while trying to minimize the impact it will have on her emotionally. I definitely don't want to rub her nose in it, but I can't just avoid telling her. Any advice on how to handle this situation gently?