The story: I went impromptu wedding shopping at David’s bridal with my MoH on a snow day from work where they just happened to have an open appointment spot. The dress I went in theminking I wanted ended up being a big disappointment. So, I kept trying a few more dresses and emded up IN LOVE with an Oleg Cassini dress. I haven’t said “yes” but I was pretty sure I was. I sent my sisters a picture of me in the dress without context and they said “that dress is hideous” and the other said “it makes you look fat and old”. Needless to say I was in tears. My sisters are both my bridesmaids along with a long time friend and my best friend as my MoH. I’m heart broken that they would say such terrible things. I guess I’m really just ranting and need some other feedback. Thank you!
I'm so sorry they said that. Honestly, I would never say that to anyone (even someone I hated) even if that's what I thought. Having said that, I think they are being dramatic. Can you post a picture of the dress?
That's incredibly rude and insensitive of them. I think the dress is gorgeous. I'm not sure how it would make you look old or fat as it's a very modern style of dress with a mix of classic style and a forgiving skirt. Don't let what they say get to you. Speaking from experience sisters can say things they don't mean especially if they are jealous so they may in fact love the dress but are experiencing jealous feelings which come out as hurtful words to you. I think I would either let it go or speak to them about it.
I started out trying to help them understand like “there’s an unfitting corset underneath” “you weren’t there” “it’s so comfortable” but then I just told them I was going to bed.. I did not expect that kind of treatment from them! My venue is an historic Inn in a downtown and I thought it fit the theme perfectly and I’ve always wanted an ivory dress. They are both younger than I am and my “bigger” sister said “you’re skinny you should show it off” and started sending me all these google image screenshots of trumpet and form fitting dresses..
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This is actually some great insight. They are young, single moms. I love them dearly! But they have made poor choices. They actually quoted those poor choices when I asked them about the planning of other parties(bridal/bachelorette) sayid “well I have a 2/3 year old to take care of by myself, your MoH will have to do/plan/pay for everything” makes me think I shouldn’t have them as bridesmaids and that breaks my heart.
The dress is beautiful and looks great on you. It certainly does not make you look "fat or old". Your sisters don't sound very nice. I would ignore them and also possibly consider keeping them out of the planning for your wedding. I wouldn't send them any photos or tell them anything specific...just your MOH. There's no need for extra stress or tears!
Fat WHERE?? I'm sorry that you had to receive such insensitive comments! I think the dress is very nice and if that's your dress, then you go ahead and get it. On your wedding day, you'll look and feel great! Don't go against what you want for anyone.
How awful, I am sorry that they weren't supportive. You look gorgeous in that dress! If you love it, then that's all that counts! I get it though, my younger sister didn't love the dress that I picked out. Although she was more delicate with her words she let me know that she didn't love it. It sucked to hear, but I loved it and it was the perfect choice for me.
I think that dress is beautiful!!! How could they say you look fat? You're gorgeous!! It seems to really suit your body, and if you LOVE it, just try to ignore what they are saying. I don't know your sisters, but some people never have anything positive to say. It's like if it isn't all about them, then it's bad.
btw, I checked out the link you posted, and saw the dress from the website. But then you posted this pic of you wearing it, and I like it even better on you!!! Go for it!!!