Kids at bridal shower?

Just like any other invitation, if the kids names aren't on it they aren't invited. The hostess really is the one who should be dealing with this issue not you. If you want to deal with it just tell them that your own isn't going to be there so you don't expect any other chilldren to be there either.

I agree that the hostess should be dealing with this info. I would tell the hostess you prefer no kids, and then tell the people asking that you aren't sure and that they should ask the hostess about the specifics.

I think it would depend on teh age of the kids though. i think if they are small children (just starting to crawl/move around) then I would allow them. But no 2 year olds.

A 3-year-old and a 9-year-old.

I think it's such a strange question/assumption. lol

My hostess is dealing with it. She told them she'd ask me though so now I feel like a jerk. Ugh

I would still just say no, my kids not there, so no others please

i don't think thats being a jerk at all

You could say it would embarrass you to have them there in case you got any fund things for the honeymoon....

I went to bridal shower once where there were kids. It was kind of annoying because the kids weren't so little (babies) that they were out of the way and they weren't old enough to know to sit the hell down and be quiet. I know that kids are kids, but they were running around inside this small restaurant. They were lucky they didn't crack their heads on the edge of a table. It didn't help that the mother of the kids (MOH who planned the shower) did nothing to discipline them. It really took away from the day.

FH's family usually has their kids at bridal and baby showers. However, I must say their children are all well behaved. They will be at my bridal shower and I don't have a problem with it. Your shower is your choice and ppl shouldn't make you feel bad for wanting only adults. GL!

I had this same problem. People just assumed they could bring kids and my MOH had to tell people it was an adult only shower. My Mom thought it was the strangest thing too as she never heard of kids at a Bridal Shower. My shower was Sunday and I will tell you that the people who wanted to bring kids came and had a great time and nobody seemed mad or to be missing their kids Good luck!!

I'm in the minority, I guess, but like other posters have stated, if you prefer no kids then there's nothing wrong with that. I think it just depends on how close you are to the children etc.

I let my family bring their children because I don't live at home so I love the opportunity to see the family (1st and 2nd cousins!). In fact, my Grandma Millie (my mom's step mom) came and I haven't seen her in almost a decade... and one of my 2nd cousins who is 3 walked up to her and gave her a hug even though they are from different sides of the family. My grandmother's smile could have melt your heart!!! So cute. >.<

Wow. Thanks for the heads up. I didn't even think of this and will swiftly make it clear with my host that kids aren't welcome.

Wow. Thanks for the heads up. I didn't even think of this and will swiftly make it clear with my host that kids aren't welcome.

I have a 10month old and a 3 year old and let me tell you, I would NOT want them there. I love my kids and I love my nieces and nephews/friends kids, but its so hard to focus when you have children running around, fussy, the whole deal. I would just politely say you only get one shower and you want to enjoy it with your ADULT friends. No children please

My aunt brought her granddaughter to the shower, who is 5, because my cousin worked and couldnt find a babysitter. My cousin threw a hissy fit when I wouldn't let her help me open presents! I was pissssssssseeeeeeeed! Kids and showers don't really go together, I didn't take my kids to the shower, they came later with FH to say Hi and that was it!

My friend , who lived across from my folsk brought her 3 year and was deemed as my little helper. They only stayed for 30 mins and left.

If you don't want kids there tell whoever is hosting the bridal shower to call and tell them no kids.

Just let her know that you prefer not to have kids on the bridal shower because there might be games/activities and gifts that may not be good for kids - who knows, somebody may be surprising you with an adult toy as a gift and having curious kids around may not be a good thing. Just politely tell her that you don't want awkward moments like that on your bridal shower.

I am so kid friendly for the wedding, but for the bridal shower it's nice to just be all the ladies, talking, laughing, drinking.... share stories... with out kids getting fussy, plus mine is hitting the terrible twos...just let them know with advance!

I welcomed kids because my friends & family don't always have a babysitter. so if they had to choose between coming or staying home with the kids.. i apted for them bringing the kids. there were 4 kids at my shower. we still had fun. we had to sensor some of it but it was ok for me. my bachlorette party will be adult so i'm good with that. we also had co-ed shower. it worked out well.

If you don't have the setting for that & are ok that some folks can't come due to not being able to get babysitters than just let them know. It's an adult only shower. You can't be upset that they can't come. Everyone do not have the same resources.

I ran into this issue, yay or nay? Well they are coming.

Most are in the teen years so it should be fine but two are on the younger side. We thought as to not "rock the boat" we would just allow it.

I hope they want wine bottle stoppers!

I like Shellie's approach, if they've backed you into a corner where you feel you need an excuse to save face.

Infants and older kids are probably fine but I would say hellz no to the over-1 and under-10 crowd. I love kids, but kids at showers drive me nuts b/c most young kids are (age-appropriately) self-centered. When they see presents they get excited and assume it's their birthday and it takes a lot of restraint and minding for them to leave the bride alone without a tantrum. Love you, little Susie, but it's not your party. *@#%.

Not to mention........that bride probably gave up half her Saturday a while back to focus on your baby shower. I'd be understanding if people can't attend b/c they don't have childcare, but give the bride the same attention she gave you.

Sorry. It chaps my a@@ when people expect their cherubs to be welcomed any and everywhere. Time and place, people. Time and place.

I think she should be understanding of the no kids..people I think generally know that often kids shouldn't be around a shower if the bride doesn't want them there (also in general)..My little cousin is 8 and I invited her, she is well behaved and did well at the shower..but 3 is a bit young and definitely would be grabbing for the gifts lol..Does the mother have anyone to watch the kids?