So my wedding is May 17th. We sent out save the dates with our Christmas Cards this year. I think I know the etiquette for timing...even though we were late on the Save the Dates. Please correct me if I am wrong:
- Save the Dates 6-8 months before wedding?
- Invitations 6-8 weeks before the wedding?
So if I am correct we would send them out late March?
Ok that is the first question....my FMIL wants us to send them out Feb 1st!! I think too soon.
2nd question - Do the parents name have to go on the invitation? We haven't fully decided but my FMIL apparently did....she also wants their names on top...mainly I think bc they are paying for the wedding. I honestly don't care whose name goes first. Was just a bit hurt she made a point to say "your mothers name is not going on top". She also went further talking about my father who has been gone for 12 yrs. She said I have to have his name on there saying "the late......" I use humor a lot to deflect uncomfortable situations. I just kept saying...I know he is late, like 12 years late but don't worry he will be on time that day. I know my father will be there. She is catholic and I am not really any practicing religion but I had to keep saying he will be there. I was really getting annoyed by that.
Any advice on etiquette and dealing with overbearing FMIL? Anything I say to her is wrong or not accepted. I am the most laid back bride you will ever meet and she is making me crazy.