Backstory: my FH is an identical twin and him and his brother are very close. I am also really close with his twin. They also have an older brother as well (who is married) Identical twin used to be in a serious relationship with my best friend, but they broke up almost 4 years ago. Her and I were friends before they got together (we’ve been friends since 7th grade) and we have continued to be friends since they broke up. In fact, I considered her to be my maid of honor but ultimately chose my cousin.
FH’s twin, has been dating someone new for almost 3 years now. I am not a fan of her, for a multitude of reasons, the biggest being she is all drama and has to make everything about her. Anyway, I was told today by my future sister in law (FH’s older brothers wife) and my 16 year old sister (she babysits new girlfriends son) that she has been saying it makes her feel uncomfortable that I am having my best friend (identical twins ex) in my wedding and that she thinks it’s rude of me not to think of her feelings about the situation!!!! Umm what?! I am not going to not have my best friend in my wedding to spare her feelings. Identical twin and best friend have been broken up for 4 years. Best friend is married and expecting their first child. I didn’t even know there was a “situation” i should be considerate of, wtf. I don’t even like her anyway, but I thought we were all adults? My bestie is married now and expecting their first child so it’s not as if she is trying to get back with my FH’s twin. I just cannot get over this and especially that she is trying to confide in my 16 year old sister, who is obviously going to tell me what she said.
My first instinct is to send her a text and tell her how i feel, but I know I’m upset right now and will probably say things I shouldn’t. My question is, should I eventually address the issue with her and tell her that I expect zero drama on my wedding day and she better not be mean to my bestie or else she will be asked to leave? Or should I just let it pass? She is totally the type of person who will pout and be pissy and dramatic because she isn’t getting her way and things aren’t about her. She is already beyond jealous that FH and I are engaged and she isn’t.