Weird question...my fiancé and I got engaged on December 21st 2017 and we picked the date of our wedding the day after. We have already told everyone that date and posted our engagement pictures with the date included in a few shots. My step-cousin and her fiancé got engaged a couple of weeks ago. I’m a little nervous she might pick that date without realizing and I didn’t know if it was weird to message her something? I don’t want to come off as rude or anything, but I’m being overly cautious and don’t want anything to happen 😂😅
We have the venue booked. I don’t know when she’s planning on getting married, I just know fall is popular and I want us each to have our own special day. I know this is probably silly to worry about 🙈😂
If you already have your venue booked for October, then I probably would reach out and let her know the date, and you just want to make sure there's no conflict so your family doesn't have to choose sides. Make it about your family, not about you, and I'm sure she'll appreciate the head's up. October is one of the most popular months to get married in right now, so it's not crazy to think that she could end up booking for then too.
I got engaged around the same time my cousin did. I just asked her what time of year she and her now husband were thinking about getting married, in the interest of making sure we weren't thinking about the same time of year. They were thinking fall, and we we're thinking late winter/early spring. No big deal. I'd just reach out to congratulate her and ask if they've thought about when they'd like to get married. She'll tell you if they've talked about that, yet, and will likely then ask you, and you can tell her the when you're shooting for.
I would, however, consider that your date is not set in stone until you have a venue booked. What if none are available on the date you'd like to get married? I'd hold off on telling people you've set a date until you actually have a venue booked.
I wouldn't worry about it. Odds are someone else she talks to knows your date and would say something if she was leaning towards then. Otherwise, you could follow some PPs advice and casually reach out to congratulate her.
That being said, I was in the same position as you... worrying about one of FH's cousins picking our date even though they got engaged five months after us. Didn't pick our date, but they did end up picking 2 weeks before us .
I had like 5 cousins get engaged so I got on sending out Save the Dates. My cousin’s fiancé totally forgot about when our wedding but luckily they set their six weeks after ours which is no problem. I do feel bad for my brother- our 1 cousin set her date the weekend right before his!
Could you message her your congratulations, say something about how exciting it is to plan a wedding and then mention that you and FH are getting married October XX and can't wait for the date to arrive?
Make it friendly and don't phrase it in a manner that she will think you are warning her off a date.