Yea, I don't see the need to make a calendar for them. For things like dress shopping, I just would text/email them a few dates and see what worked for the majority of the girls and go with that day. Typically, the bride doesn't have any involvement in shower/bachelorette planning, but there are a few exceptions to that rule. For example, I have to work weekends pretty regularly, so my mom and sisters had to ask me for some dates that I knew I wasn't working so they could plan those events. You can't really throw a bridal shower without the bride in attendance lol. So I think if you have a situation like that (or a lot of your girls work weekends), it's not really that bad if you at least throw some dates around to try to find times that work for everyone.
One timeline I do recommend making and sending to your bridesmaids is a wedding weekend/day of timeline. Me and a few of my girlfriends have all been in each other's weddings, and we always do this and it is SO helpful...include information like mani/pedi appt time (if you are inviting your girls to come with you), rehearsal dinner time/place/location, start time for hair and makeup, etc. I like to have all the info easily accessible when I'm in the wedding party, and really appreciate it when the bride keeps me updated on the plans.
The only thing I wish I had as a bridesmaid in a document was when to show up to rehearsal dinner and when/where to be at the day of the wedding. The bride got irritated that none of us seemed to know where we were supposed to be when on the day of the wedding, but it was buried in Facebook messenger. Also the plans changed because of transportation change, so it was hard to keep up with. So aside from when to order the dress by, when and where rehearsal is, and when and where to meet the day of the wedding I don't think you should add extra stuff. Everything else is optional for them to attend or plan
One of my BMs keeps a written calender with her at all times. She's the mother of my Jr BM and MOH, so it really helps when we plan days together. My other BM gets updates through our guest chat, and Facebook messenger allows you to set up reminders. It's neat
I only have a moh and she has twins so im glad she even has time for me to do anything so i dont expect her at anything but my wedding
Really the only thing I have/will tell my BMs is the last day to place their order for their dress, and what time to show up the day of to get ready. I did not include my BMs in finding my dress, only my mom and grandma. Then of course all but one BM went with me to find their dress.
No calendar needed. All the have to do is buy a dress and show up!
My MOHs (I have two) have kept calendars on Facebook where they discuss days they are available and what not... I have a timeline for that day that I'm working on just to try and have everyone on the same page for pictures and intros- specially intros for the banquet hall because they're all getting introduced individually by the DJ and it would really suck to be called someone else...
I guess i approach wedding planning as a fun bonding time with my bffs, so when I say events and etc, I don't mean it as an expectation but like days we can hang out while all getting things accomplished for my big day. They want to participate in everything. So far, we've done the food tasting, venue visits , and Bridal expo together. just looking for new ways to include them. That's all ladies. Thanks for the feedback.
I clearly said calendar/timeline of events and this because everyone is busy and asked for it. As I've nneverplanned a wedding before Idk what they should come to that's why I asked what you all are inviting them to.
If they're available and the salon allows it they could come dress shop with you.
You have nothing to do with the bach/shower if they plan one.
Why are they going to tastings and venues with you? I sense you must be younger if you and all your friends have time to do that, none of my friends have time for that- And it's me and FH's responsibility anyway.
I'd suggest being more go with the flow. You'll drive yourself crazy over scheduling everything.