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Savvy March 2017

Bridal get acquainted night

Brittany, on February 24, 2016 at 2:39 PM Posted in Planning 0 93
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Okay everyone I have a question.

My bridesmaid lied to me.

My fiancé and I are having a "get acquainted night" with our bridal parties at a restaurant and a after party at a condo. Really it's like a "fun night" ...

We are paying for the after party drinks Etc but left everyone responsible for their own dinner at the "fun night"

First , is that rude ?

Secondly my BM said she would be working but my cousin is her new boss and told me she is off. My fiancé found out through her husband the real reason she doesn't want to come and said she wasn't coming is because she didn't want to pay for her own food and complained about the prices. (The most expensive thing there is like a steak and shrimp plate for $15. )

I am lost. Do I confront her or just don't worry about it.

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  • Lauren B.
    Master October 2015
    Lauren B. ·
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    Planning an event for everyone to get acquainted and then having them pay for it?


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  • Nonna T
    Master April 2014
    Nonna T ·
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    Yes, it's rude.

    Don't confront.

    Worry a little: about what kind of a host you are being.

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  • Katrina
    VIP July 2017
    Katrina ·
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    When someone agrees to be in your bridal party that does not put an invisible shackle and chain around their ankle. Just gracefully accept her decline regardless of her reason and carry on with your fun night.

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  • JessicaIsTotallySmithen
    Super April 2017
    JessicaIsTotallySmithen ·
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    Honestly, I wouldn't worry about it. If she doesn't want to come because of the prices fine, I would just extend the invite for her to come to the after party when she is done working. And just let her know that you really hope she'll stop by so she can meet and get to know everyone a little better.

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  • Heather
    Devoted October 2016
    Heather ·
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    In all honesty if you're making them pay for it, you can't be mad they don't come. It's no different than inviting friends out to a movie and dinner and then them saying they cannot make it because it's too expensive.

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  • Emmy
    Master January 2015
    Emmy ·
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    Why don't you just have the party that you are paying for....

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  • SimpleSeamstress
    Master June 2015
    SimpleSeamstress ·
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    I would leave it alone. She gave an excuse because no one wants to say "sorry I can't afford that". Have compassion for your BMs. Being in a wedding can really add up. It honestly gets overwhelming with extra events like this added that are for fun but still centered around you getting married. Good luck.

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  • Heather
    Devoted October 2016
    Heather ·
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    Why can't you do a pizza and game night or something like that for everyone to get acquainted? It wouldn't be too expensive and more intimate as well

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  • B
    Savvy March 2017
    Brittany ·
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    Okay if it's rude fine that's why I asked

    But your response don't have to be rude

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  • B
    Savvy March 2017
    Brittany ·
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    Goodness !

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  • B
    Savvy March 2017
    Brittany ·
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    Thanks Jessica

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  • Lauren B.
    Master October 2015
    Lauren B. ·
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    Are you sure you know the definition of rude?

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  • Nonna T
    Master April 2014
    Nonna T ·
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    She does Lauren, that's why she called us rude Smiley smile

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  • B
    Savvy March 2017
    Brittany ·
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    Don't insult my intelligence

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  • B
    Savvy March 2017
    Brittany ·
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    I asked a simple question and didn't need a overly rude response Ms. Lauren . Thanks anyway

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  • B
    Savvy March 2017
    Brittany ·
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    I have the answers I need thanks to Jessica ....hiding this now

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  • M
    Master July 2015
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    The only person being rude here is you. We don't have to help.

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  • B
    Savvy March 2017
    Brittany ·
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    Well don't help next time

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  • SoontobeMrsRivas
    Super December 2016
    SoontobeMrsRivas ·
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    My honest opinion, no thats not rude. You're not expected to pay for everything just because she's part of your wedding. I've been in a lot of weddings. Besides the rehearsal dinner that a parent of a bride or groom or even them pay for, I've paid for my own meal at get togethers whether it was a fun night or get acquainted night. If she doesn't come than ok.... But lieing about it???? Tacky.

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  • B
    Savvy March 2017
    Brittany ·
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    Simple

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