I've heard that one thing that happens pretty consistently at weddings is everyone is already asking if the bride is pregnant, when she will be pregnant, when the couple plans on having kids, etc. We've already been receiving some pressure from both our families, so I talked to my fiance and he understands that I am pretty adamant about not having to deal with guests pressuring me about having babies or if I'm pregnant (we're not having alcohol, so sometimes this leads people to assume things about the bride, I guess?..) and he agrees that we shouldn't have to deal with that. We had already talked about that before he even proposed so we're on the same page about our relationship, but we really don't think other people have any business prying into such personal stuff, especially on our wedding day. I did some thinking, and we are considering putting something like this in our programs:
"A Note From the Couple
First comes love, then comes marriage, then comes a……
...whole bunch of fun, laughs, and memories made! Please don’t ask if the bride is pregnant/when we’re planning on having kids/if we’ll have a family someday.
Instead, we’d like to spend today focusing on the newly-forged union between us and all the fun we will have together! Chat with us about honeymoon plans, our careers and aspirations, or our story so far (that’s what we’re celebrating today!). Thanks in advance!
Who wants to spend time talking about other people’s babies, anyway? Let’s have some fun!"
"FAQ (so you don’t have to)
When are you having kids? -- We don't know!
Are you planning to have a family someday? -- Maybe
When will the bride get pregnant? -- N/A
Why aren’t you having alcohol at your reception? -- Didn't want to pay for it/don't like it that much/family-friendly atmosphere
Would you rather focus on your wedding and celebrate your relationship with all of your closest family and friends today than talk about having kids? -- Absolutely! Let's have some fun!"
Thoughts? Is this too abrasive? Other ideas?