My husband asked my dad for permission to marry me! My family is not traditional, but it was important to my hubby that he ask my dad first because we moved from Canada to the USA. I think my dad appreciated the display of respect but he would have never been insulted if my hubby hadn't asked.
Yup, my FH asked my mom and step dad prior. I forget when but they knew about the "surprise" engagement and all. He even showed my mom the ring the day before the engagement right under my nose, i didnt know what was going on. I never stated that i specifically needed him to ask for my hand in marriage as it tends to be outdated but i always said it would be a nice gesture. My FH thought it was important to do so, also especially because he hadn't met my step dad in person before.
He asked for my dad’s blessing. I have an extremely close relationship with my dad and am from the south and pretty traditional, so I told my FH he wasn’t allowed to purchase the ring until he had my dad’s blessing. Not really permission per se.
It all depends on you and your relationship with your family. If you and you're family are close or even if you respect one another then I think the curtesy thing to do is either ask or let them know and get advice. If you're not close to your family I wouldn't worry about it but I would invite them to the engagement party to celebrate your happiness.
He didn't ask them because I told him not to, which he was happy because it's not a tradition he likes. I said, "I choose my own school, career, and boyfriend, I will also choose my own husband. I should know about engagement before they do because it's my life." But that's me. To each their own.
He did ask for my dad’s permission and he cherished that moment. My FH still have the receipt from lunch that day!
Nope. Standing out on the patio of the apartment we had just finished moving into, H started asking me a bunch cryptic (to me) questions that apparently were aimed at determining whether him asking my dad/parents for permission to marry me would be something I'd want (because tradition), something I'd resent (because I'm an independent adult, dammit), or something I didn't really give a hoot about (because whatever). Once he figured out that the answer was #3, he dropped to one knee right then and there.
My FH did not ask my parents’ permission. I had a hunch he was going to ask me so they knew it was more than likely going to happen. But he did not approach them about it and I’m okay with that. I don’t have a close relationship with either of them so their “acceptance” doesn’t mean much to me