How to ask for money instead of gifts for wedding

You don't (because, yes, it is considered rude). Simply don't register anywhere and the vast majority of people will get the hint and give cash.

Agree with CR. No registry needed. If someone insists on throwing you a shower, you can register for things that you can upgrade easily, like sheets, towels, bathroom accessories,etc. You could also forgo a shower altogether. We own a home. For my shower, I registered for things stated above and also lowes gift cards for renovation. We actually got a lot of gift cards! Where I live, it is not common to give physical gifts for the wedding.

Yes, it's considered rude to ask for money. I just wouldn't register and if someone asks where you are registered I'd just let them know that you've chosen not to register anywhere as you don't need anything currently to fill the house but you're planning on building a new house next summer and they should come visit. Two birds, one stone.

Yes, just don’t do a registry and don’t ask for anything. IF someone’s asking you if you have a registry, I’d just say “oh we’re not doing one as we’re saving up to build a house next summer” — this informs the gifter in question both that you could use money and that you don’t really have a place for housewares yet

Just don't register and people will get the hint.

There's no polite way to ask for money, or any other gift. Don't register and people will default to a cash or check gift.

Make Zola registry! They have plenty of options for money gifts, like honeymoon fund, travel fund, experiences (ex. dinner vouchers, concert tickets, or anything else really that you can imagine). There is an option for joint gift, where for ex. 5 people can contribute to one large fund.

Many people here will tell you that this is rude & blah blah blah. But there is really no difference between registering for gifts (and let’s face it, most of the gifts on registry are for the couple’s HOUSE anyway) & registering for money. Having a registry, as we all know, doesn’t force people to get you anything. It is merely your wishlist. Some people do prefer to give physical gifts, so you can always put few physical things on your Zola registry for them.

Last two weddings we’ve been to, couples registered for honeymoon fund using Zola & nobody had any issue with it, or thought it was rude. One couple lives in a tiny NYC apartment & they don’t need or want any stuff, they want experiences. Nothing wrong with it. I personally always prefer to give bride & groom what they need or want, rather than to focus on what some people might think, or what someone once upon a time said is not according to wedding etiquette 🤷🏻‍♀️

I don’t necessarily agree that people will get the hint if you don’t have a registry, but definitely don’t make one if you don’t want gift items. Hopefully your guests will ask and you won’t end up with a bunch of things you don’t want, but there is no way to guarantee that!

People won’t necessarily “get the hint” if you don’t register. That has been discussed on the forums a lot. You can’t ask for cash, but you can register for gift cards from home improvement stores, Amazon, and other places that can help provide things you’ll need for building and accessorizing your new home and yard. You can register for some of those specific things as well. (Kitchen and bathroom sinks, faucets, vanities, lighting, flooring, etc). Those things add up and getting help with them will make a big difference.

I agree with the others. I just wouldn't register. To be honest most people give cash anyway. At my first wedding I got two gifts and the rest was cash. The gifts were sentimental ones so I loved them.

I disagree with all these people. I don't get why everyone thinks it's so "rude". I've seen several invitations that they put "we have no registry, but if you feel the need, we'll take money towards our honeymoon indeed!" Something along those lines, IF YOU FEEL THE NEED. Not "HEY give me money!!!!!!!!" 🤦 I cannot handle some of the people on here sometimes. I will be asking for money towards completing our house, because we've lived together for 4 years and have been remodeling our place. It's not a huge deal.

View Quoted Comment Different strokes for different folks lol. I've been invited to weddings with Zola registries too. I didn't get offended but I'd rather just give a check or cash! There was one Zola registry that had categories for wedding flowers, catering, etc. All wedding day expenses. I don't know if she got any gifts in those categories haha! It's a couple's choice to ask for what they want, just like it's the guests choice to give what they want. I am definitely not a stuff person. I wouldn't even want one physical gift if I lived in a tiny apt lol.

View Quoted Comment I asked for lowes gift cards and I got a ton. So I don't think anyone was offended lol.

View Quoted Comment Lol... yes, I agree. Different things work for different people. I just think it’s silly being judgmental about someone wanting “money fund” on their registry 🤷🏻‍♀️ Nobody is obligated to buy anything. We are all hopefully inviting our guests because we want to celebrate with them & not because we want their gifts lol. But if people are bringing gifts, I personally prefer to get what couple needs, rather than spend my $ on something they’ll throw out, or donate, or never use. It’s just creating waste & I don’t like waste.
I don’t know about registering for wedding expenses haha 😆 But again, I wouldn’t call it rude, I would just have a really good laugh lol.

View Quoted Comment Yup! It definitely made me giggle. Can't knock the hustle, I guess lol!

Wedding websites I'm not sure if the registry on wedding wire does it because I have not got that far yet..but you can set up like a honeymoon fund they can just donate to that..i know zola does it.. that is what we are doing because we are in the same boat has you we have everything..so we are just doing a honeymoon fund

So my FH are not doing gifts. Our bridal shower is in PA and we live in Denver, CO. We knew we wanted new furniture and looked at a couple of stores and decided to get gift cards for that store. The people coming to your shower should understand especially when you are building your dream home.

If you just don't register (and don't have a shower), people will most likely give cash or checks.

You will get a lot of grief on here about this one. Seems to be the most hated topic on WW lol but I totally get it! My FH and I will be getting married on our 8th anniversary and literally want or need nothing. We will not have a registry and regardless of what people say on here, just not registering and people will get the hint to give you money doesn't work for everyone. I know that I will still be getting random gifts on wedding day because that is just how my family rolls. I would suggest maybe doing a small registry or even registering at Home Depot, Lowes, Floor and Decor or Amazon. See some light fixtures you love, how about that ceiling fan or new living room set.....register for them! Yes you may not need them now, but you will. That would probably be more of a hint than anything and if you luck out, you will just get a bunch of cards with cash or checks or maybe even some gift cards!

If you create a registry on Amazon, you can register for gift cards. That way, you can indirectly ask for money where you know you want to spend it. Be it restaurants, home improvement stores, or retail. Amazon sells gift cards to basically everywhere! You can also ask for highly expensive items but make it so that people can just contribute to the purchase of that item.