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Would you consider this cheating?

So, at my wedding, one of the groomsmen (who is married but his wife was not able to come to the wedding) was sort-of hitting on one of my BMs. Apparently at the end of the night, the two of them walked home from the after-party together and he was holding her hand. She told me about this and I was like WTF?! She didn't know he was married and was pretty surprised when I told her! Not only that, but he just got married a few months ago! Anyway, I told my fiance about this, and he tried to make excuses like that GM was drunk or whatever. I told my fiance that it would be completely unacceptable for him to EVER do anything like that, and that I would consider it cheating. What do you think? What would you do in that situation (if you were the guy's wife?) Would you consider it cheating, or not a huge deal?

Posted On: Nov 2, 2009 at 3:02 PM | Vendors are allowed to participate

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yadayada

Married: 10/30/2009
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Bayridgeqt

Wedding: 07/02/2010

Posted On: Nov 02, 2009 at 3:12 PM \| Flag As Inappropriate
I wouldn't consider it cheating if he didn't actually do anything with her but I would completely flip out. That behavior is completely unacceptable with another woman that isn't your wife.

Crystal L.

Wedding: 03/06/2010

Posted On: Nov 02, 2009 at 3:14 PM \| Flag As Inappropriate
Its not necessarily cheating, but is unacceptable behavior. I would freak!

Shell

Married: 06/27/2009

Posted On: Nov 02, 2009 at 3:15 PM \| Flag As Inappropriate
i dunno... but i would totally tell his wife. if this was your husband would you want to know? his behavior is totally unacceptable as bay said. and he needs to be called out on it. maybe talk to him and give him the oppertunity to tellhis wife and if he doesnt then you tell her.

Tracey

Wedding: 05/22/2011

Posted On: Nov 02, 2009 at 3:18 PM \| Flag As Inappropriate
I guess it depends on the kind of relationship they have as a married couple. That would be totally unacceptable in my relationship but others may feel differently. If you don't know the GM wife, though I would stay out of it.

Konichiwa

Wedding: 01/17/2010

Posted On: Nov 02, 2009 at 3:20 PM \| Flag As Inappropriate
This is a hard one! I don't know if I'd go so far as to call it cheating but it certainly would be behavior I'd find completely inappropriate! He obviously wasn't forthcoming with your friend about his being married. I don't know, but I think you are right to be mad.

yadayada

Married: 10/30/2009
Reviews: 5

Posted On: Nov 02, 2009 at 3:22 PM \| Flag As Inappropriate
Yeah, unfortunately I don't really know his wife. I met her once for 5 seconds at their wedding...so I don't really feel comfortable calling her out of the blue and telling her about this. If she were my friend, that would be a different story. I am very protective of my girls!

MDLS

Wedding: 10/24/2010

Posted On: Nov 02, 2009 at 3:24 PM \| Flag As Inappropriate
Well, I find it very unacceptable and distasteful of him to do this. Makes me think that perhaps he should not have gotten married if just a few months later (after his wedding) he is holding someone's hand. Drunk or not, I don't think this is acceptable behavior. I don't think my fiancee would be okay with it if he found out I was holding someone's hand. And if I gave the excuse that I only did it because I was drunk, he'd be even more upset that I was using this as an excuse and that I felt it was okay because of that. Is someone going to tell this groomsmans's wife?

Aussie Bride

Wedding: 02/07/2010

Posted On: Nov 02, 2009 at 3:25 PM \| Flag As Inappropriate
I would be furious. My FH knows that I would never accept that sort of behaviour. Im sorry I dont care how drunk a man is that is no excuse to do that and he obviously wasnt drunk enough that he couldnt walk her home so he couldnt of been that bad. I would tell him that you find his behaviour inappropriate. If you are close with his wife then I would mention it but try to not make a huge deal out of it with her but if you arent close then its probably best not to tell her. Technically he didnt cheat and maybe in their relationship that behaviour is okay so it depends how well you know her.

Laura K.

Married: 05/15/2009
Reviews: 7

Posted On: Nov 02, 2009 at 3:26 PM \| Flag As Inappropriate
I don't know if it's your place to tell this woman about her husband if she's not a close friend of yours....but if I were you my biggest concern would be my husband's reaction to his friend's behavior. If your husband is defending this does that mean he condones it and would do it himself? I don't care how drunk I was, I'd never hold hands with another man or be inappropriate like that because I am married and devoted to my husband. There is no excuse for it that makes it ok so why is your husband trying make excuses? Some men do think flirting, etc is ok as long as it's not physically cheating. Make sure your husband and you have a clear definition of what's ok in YOUR relationship. You can't assume that he has the same guidlines as you do so talk about it openly together, trying to not get to defensive in it. She didn't know he was married so does that mean he didn't wear his ring to the wedding? YIKES!

CelticChick831

Married: 10/17/2009
Reviews: 7

Posted On: Nov 02, 2009 at 3:27 PM \| Flag As Inappropriate
I wouldnt concider it "cheating" but at the same time I would be very upset and feel its very inappropriate and see it as a indicator of a problem in our marriage. I dont know if I would tell his wife though. In the event that he was drunk, or maybe they had had a very bad fight and in a drunken state was looking for comfort....anything, he might be beating himself up on how close he got to cheating and it might scare him straight. You are right to be mad and If your close enough to them you can monitor how he acts from here on out. If he continues like this you can always pull him aside and talk to him about his behavior and how it WILL effect his marriage. It will be up to him then if he listens or not.

yadayada

Married: 10/30/2009
Reviews: 5

Posted On: Nov 02, 2009 at 3:39 PM \| Flag As Inappropriate
He is FH's friend from high school and lives in another state with his wife. I had only met him a couple of times and like I said I only met his wife at their wedding, and I talked with her for a very short time. I don't know if he was wearing his ring or not, it may be that my friend didn't notice it. I just found out that he made a comment to a male friend of mine later that night that BM had tried to proposition him or something! I don't know who to believe, they were ALL wasted...

Bayridgeqt

Wedding: 07/02/2010

Posted On: Nov 02, 2009 at 3:44 PM \| Flag As Inappropriate
Since everyone was at your wedding and having a good time I wouldn't worry too much about it. Also since you don't know the mans wife it isn't something you have to be concerned with. He didn't get your friends number or anything did he? :)

The Potters

Married: 09/12/2009
Reviews: 8

Posted On: Nov 02, 2009 at 3:57 PM \| Flag As Inappropriate
It might not officialy be cheating, but it is wrong on so many levels.

Lucky_Girl23

Wedding: 02/13/2010

Posted On: Nov 02, 2009 at 4:01 PM \| Flag As Inappropriate
If you don't know the guy's wife personally I wouldn't say anything to her. She's very likely to defend him or take his side if he says he didn't do it. I don't think that it would be considered cheating but I would say it was inappropriate.

marine's girl

Wedding: 09/18/2010

Posted On: Nov 02, 2009 at 4:55 PM \| Flag As Inappropriate
not cheating per say...but I would def be very ticked off!!

Esgal4life

Wedding: [Private]

Posted On: Nov 02, 2009 at 5:14 PM \| Flag As Inappropriate
it may not be cheating but it is completely wrong and I'd flip out but unfortantlly, I don't think it'd be right for you to say anything to the wife if you are only friends via hubby's being friends.. It is completely inappropriate for him to even go close to holding hands let alone doing so...

Libragurl

Wedding: 10/30/2010

Posted On: Nov 02, 2009 at 5:23 PM \| Flag As Inappropriate
I agree with pretty much everyone else. While not cheating, it was definitely bad behavior. Especially since the woman did not know he was married. To me, actions speak louder than words. Him flirting and holding the hand of another woman is completely disrespectful towards his wife.

Future Mrs. G.

Wedding: 06/19/2010

Posted On: Nov 02, 2009 at 6:21 PM \| Flag As Inappropriate
Inappropriate behavior thats for sure! I agree with pp, it may not be cheating but if it were my fh pulling something like that I would be furious!

Laura K.

Married: 05/15/2009
Reviews: 7

Posted On: Nov 02, 2009 at 6:31 PM \| Flag As Inappropriate
this reminds me of a story that scares the hell outa me. my DH worked with and was close friends with a guy until he saw the guy get prostitutes when they were overseas with the military, the guy is married with kids. He cheats a LOT. So my DH severed the friendship. I met them at a wedding a while ago, I already knew the story so meeting the wife and kids was heart breaking. Worst part was she was awesome and wanted to become friends with me. She didn't know Y my DH hadn't been around in so long and she started inviting us over for all kinds of stuff. Then she starts telling me how she used to have a hard time trusting her H when he was deployed but she realized she was being crazy and let it go!! OMG, I wanted to throw up! We obviously did not hang out with them again. How could I become friends with her and never tell her? But how could I destroy a 10 year marriage with kids?Of course my DH was so disgusted by his friend he wanted nothing to do with him either.This stuff just SUCKS!

Sheila H.

Wedding: 05/29/2010

Posted On: Nov 02, 2009 at 6:41 PM \| Flag As Inappropriate
if i were in this situation i would be pretty upset! wouldnt call it cheating BUT if he is olding another girls hand only a few months after the wedding what is he going to do in a year.....i would let his wife know what happened so she knows and then she can take care of it from thhere.

Shell

Married: 06/27/2009

Posted On: Nov 02, 2009 at 6:43 PM \| Flag As Inappropriate
wow laura that is so hard. i guess my thinking is that if my husband was seen doing this i would want to know. i would want him to tell me of course but i would want to know by anyone. (its hard to even think like this because i trust him so much) if one of my friends saw or knew of my husband doing something that they knew i wouldnt be ok with i would hope they would talk to him and tell him that he needed to change his behavior and let me know about it. Laura- does your husbands ex-friend know why they arnt friends anymore?? has he confronted him or told him that his behavior is not ok?? ive always wondered how i would go about confronting someome if i had to... i know i would want to be confronted if i was doing something wrong.

arlala555

Wedding: 05/15/2010

Posted On: Nov 02, 2009 at 6:49 PM \| Flag As Inappropriate
It's not cheating at all...but if it was me I'd be very mad. In my case FH doesn't drink so I am safe...lol If he did drink though I wouldn't be as mad. Drinking makes people do the worst things. I know first hand of me and past bf. I would tell him to tell her. She may excuse it this time because he was drunk.

Meaghan K.

Married: 10/04/2008

Posted On: Nov 02, 2009 at 6:52 PM \| Flag As Inappropriate
No, it is not cheating in the physical sense. It is, however, cheating in the emotional sense. If my husband made a serious connection with another girl at a party I would be MORE concerned than if he drunkenly made out with some one. Both would hurt and would take a lot of work to get over but the emotional connection he forged with that girl would signify much bigger problems in our relationship then a blackoutmakeout.

Laura K.

Married: 05/15/2009
Reviews: 7

Posted On: Nov 02, 2009 at 6:56 PM \| Flag As Inappropriate
I'd want to know too Shell, thats y it's a scary story. But since she already had her doubts but he weaseled out of them I doubt anything I would say could change anything. He would lie and deny and she would believe him like she always has. I would have probably become good friends with her if it wasn't for this. No, my husband didn't tell the guy why he stopped hanging out with him. He just backed off until they don't speak now. This isn't the first time he's had to end a friendship due to the guy being a cheat. It's sad how many guys he's known that have been like this. My DH has really strong beliefs about it but he's not confrontational, he just doesn't want that stuff in his life so he stops talking to the guy. The guy was even a little inappropriate to me at that wedding I met them at!!! Not like grabbing or anything, but made some comments to me that I feel crossed the line, like he was hitting on me the scum bag!

Laura K.

Married: 05/15/2009
Reviews: 7

Posted On: Nov 02, 2009 at 6:58 PM \| Flag As Inappropriate
oh but at the time that it did happen my DH told him it was wrong....the guy wanted my DH to come with him to get prostitutes!! My Hubsand was single at the time was obviously still thought that was disgusting. He did say to the guy "What are you doing? You have a beautiful wife and daughter at home?" But the guy just laughed about it. SO my DH dropped it and stopped talking to the guy

Aussie Bride

Wedding: 02/07/2010

Posted On: Nov 02, 2009 at 7:04 PM \| Flag As Inappropriate
Laura its so sad how many guys cheat particularly in the military when they are away from their wives and families. My FH had a very similar friend. He had a gf in the states who was battling a brain tumor and he took his time assuring her he was faithful and to trust him and everythig and then cheated on her every night with different prostitutes. My FH could not believe it and stopped speaking to him altogether. So glad that you have a DH that has strong morals.

Laura K.

Married: 05/15/2009
Reviews: 7

Posted On: Nov 02, 2009 at 7:27 PM \| Flag As Inappropriate
it is sad! My DH says in the military it was like the normal way of life! He hated it and lost a lot of friends because of it. His father left him and his mother for another woman when he was a kid so he sees a married man cheating as one of the most loathsome things you can do. He saw first hand how it destroyed an entire family so he doesn't take it lightly at all.

guerita

Wedding: 05/15/2010

Posted On: Nov 02, 2009 at 7:57 PM \| Flag As Inappropriate
I wouldn't consider this straight-up cheating, but it's definitely emotional cheating and deception. Both of which are completely unacceptable. It's not your place to tell the wife, but your husband should definitely have a talk with his "friend." If the guy doesn't care, maybe your hubby should let that friendship go.

Sachele D.

Married: 09/18/2009

Posted On: Nov 02, 2009 at 8:32 PM \| Flag As Inappropriate
I don't see hand holding as a big deal at all. I hold hands with a lot of my guy friends and my husband knows this. Especially at night. I more hold their arms though instead of their hands but sometimes if we are drunk holding hands is easier. I know I am and will be in opposition here but I honestly wouldn't care as long as he didn't kiss her.

icart

Wedding: [Private]

Posted On: Nov 02, 2009 at 8:45 PM \| Flag As Inappropriate
Hi, just a quick note, Yes it is cheating. That person made a promise to forsake all others. Doesn't he understand that means to Not hold someones hand. Ok, I know this might be the same thing but hear it goes. ..I am a Massage Therapist, but ever since Clint and I started talking he had asked me not to do them any more. I promissed I would not. No matter how much of a hardship it is on me with the reduced income. I still made a promise. A promise is not just words but a way your heart feels about the other person. I could do them and he would never know but I know and that would be brakeing a promise. Just like in a marriage, open or not you don't do that. You should just call her up and ask how she is feeling and tell her she was missed, then bring up the her husband left something at house (make up something). So the wife would ask and then mabye he will be so guilty he will tell her. and you just planted the seed of knowing something happened. P.S. Miss you all.

Laura K.

Married: 05/15/2009
Reviews: 7

Posted On: Nov 02, 2009 at 8:47 PM \| Flag As Inappropriate
Sachele, I don't think it's the issue that this guy held hands with a friend.....he clearly had intent to do more since he didn't let her know he was married, was hitting on her, and walked her home alone. Did he cheat? no. But he is obviously opening the door to inappropriate relationships with women. This dude was not out to make "friends" with a girl for the night. He was drunk at a wedding without his wife and he took advantage of that. If my husband walked one of our friends home of course it'd be fine. But some girl he just met at a wedding while drinking and hit on all night long, and never all night let her know he's married?!?! HELL NO!

mahoganieyes

Wedding: 09/10/2011

Posted On: Nov 02, 2009 at 8:51 PM \| Flag As Inappropriate
Very disrespectful. Has he mentioned anything about issues with his marriage? If so, then don't be suprised again if he pulls some crap like this again in your presence.

Laura K.

Married: 05/15/2009
Reviews: 7

Posted On: Nov 02, 2009 at 8:56 PM \| Flag As Inappropriate
ya know everyone has their line. That's Y I was saying it's important for a couple to openly discuss where they feel that line is. Sometimes you just ASSUME that your partner would never do something you aren't ok with, but unless you've clearly discussed the boundaries how can they know? I know couples who are fine with "harmless" flirting, etc...my husband and I are not. I get all the attention and fulfillment from him and I don't want to ever open the door even a crack for a relationship to start with someone else on any level. But that is OUR marriage, everyone is different. It's fine as long BOTH partners are on the same page with it all. If the husband is being sneaky about it, I don't care what he's doing, it's wrong!

Dee

Wedding: 09/17/2010

Posted On: Nov 02, 2009 at 8:58 PM \| Flag As Inappropriate
Someone once told me you shouldn't do something you wouldn't do if your significant other was present. I don't think he would be holding hands with a chick he just met if his wife was there. Totally inappropriate

Laura K.

Married: 05/15/2009
Reviews: 7

Posted On: Nov 02, 2009 at 9:09 PM \| Flag As Inappropriate
Dee that's always a good rule to follow. I remember when I was bartending at a casino when my husband and I were just dating. I had this one manager who sat in front of me and asked me to rub his shoulders. Now we were both fully dressed in public and it would just be his shoulders so if I had done it would that be cheating? Not at all. BUT I knew that if my husband (then boyfriend) were there he would be upset to see me do that so I said no way. The manager couldn't understand what the big deal was, why I said no way. I said exactly what you just did Dee

CelticChick831

Married: 10/17/2009
Reviews: 7

Posted On: Nov 02, 2009 at 9:18 PM \| Flag As Inappropriate
my husband is like his dad and likes to make a woman blush by complimenting her or saying something a little out of the norm. For example: his dad had taken us all out to dinner and the waitress (pretty young girl) came up and said "hi, how is everyone tonight?" father in law stated fine, how are you? when she said good he said "ive heard that about you" of course it took her a sec to catch on and we all had a good laugh and had our dinner. my Husband in not quite as bold and wont do it in person but those poor poor girls answering the phone at dominoes... lol. Half the time I am there when he does it and I find it funny and he knows I am ok with it, and also knows where the line is. Its lines that have to be set early.

Whitni C.

Wedding: 06/11/2010

Posted On: Nov 02, 2009 at 9:22 PM \| Flag As Inappropriate
I agree with Dee! my FH would never flirt with another girl, and i know he would never hold hands with one! i dont think its "cheating" really, but i'd be furious, and would def question my FH ability to hold down his alcohol and be around any girls from now on! The trust would be put into question.

DreamComeTrue

Wedding: 06/25/2011

Posted On: Nov 02, 2009 at 10:06 PM \| Flag As Inappropriate
@ Shell some people know but don't want to accept the facts. For example my little brother caught my cousins (who was raised like our sister) husband cheating. He told my cousin. She didn't want to believe him. He found out more dirt because this guy was just outrageous and blatantly disrespectful and my brother told my cousin again and she defended her man. Her man finally got sick of my brother telling and attacked him. Of course my brother wasn't having that. Long story short this tore the family apart. As a result we lost the cousin for years...untill she decided to stop putting up w/ the cheating and we welcomed her home.

Rev. Carleen

"With This Ring" Wedding Ceremonies

Posted On: Nov 02, 2009 at 10:51 PM \| Flag As Inappropriate
The cheat test: Would you do this action in front of the significant other? If no, its emotional or physical cheating, and they are both equally damaging to the other person and relationship.

cuteangelfan

Wedding: 04/10/2010

Posted On: Nov 02, 2009 at 11:15 PM \| Flag As Inappropriate
I know a lot of yu are saying its not cheating, but what do you define as cheating? I think anything you have to feel guilty about or cant do in front of your spouse or fiance is cheating. lol..i just read the post before mine..from rev carleen. anyway,i consider it cheating and it could do just as much harm in a relationship as the physical kind of cheating.

Devine2Be

Wedding: 08/13/2010

Posted On: Nov 02, 2009 at 11:33 PM \| Flag As Inappropriate
i agree with cuteangelfan... if he were to hold that womans hand in front of his wife and she'd flip out, then its def unacceptable behavior... but every couple and every person is different and defines it differently. for example: my fh and i have the same group of friends. some of the guys ive known forever and if i give them a huge hug or a quick kiss on the cheek he doesnt care at all. or even if i give a girlfriend a peck on the lips. and same visaversa. but alot of people would consider that cheating. depends on everyone involved

Adriana M.

Married: 09/19/2009
Reviews: 11

Posted On: Nov 03, 2009 at 1:38 AM \| Flag As Inappropriate
IT"S CHEATING!!!!

jessica s.

Married: 05/24/2008

Posted On: Nov 03, 2009 at 9:56 AM \| Flag As Inappropriate
well if they had sex then its cheating but they were just holding hands and just flirting its not cheating its wrong and stuiped but no making out and no sex not cheating just being stupied

Flowerfreelancer

The Flower Lady

Posted On: Nov 03, 2009 at 10:12 AM \| Flag As Inappropriate
Drinking. drunk..theres your answer.

CelticChick831

Married: 10/17/2009
Reviews: 7

Posted On: Nov 03, 2009 at 10:33 AM \| Flag As Inappropriate
I think cuteangelfan is right. I think there are different levels of cheating and this qualifies as one of them. I would never do something with a guy I wouldnt do if my husband were around. Perfect example is the shoulder rub, I give my old roomie and husbands best friend shoulder rubs all the time, but I would never give my co-worker a shoulder rub. I love to dance and will dance with guys and girls, but if one gets a bit to frisky I cut it off. My husband doest dance at all and has been to partys where I have been dancing up a storm, and only got mad when one guy wouldnt take the hint that I didnt want to get as "close" as he did. But, my hubby let me take care of it and just watched in case I needed any help. Needless to say that guy was not invited back to the next party (I love all my guy friends. Soooo protective)

MrsWhite

Wedding: 06/07/2013

Posted On: Nov 03, 2009 at 10:56 AM \| Flag As Inappropriate
Cheating..No. 100% unacceptable ...DEFINITELY!

studio-g-occasions

studio G occasions

Posted On: Nov 03, 2009 at 11:39 AM \| Flag As Inappropriate
If you even thought to ask, it probably is! Unexcusable & I'd never tolerate it!

Future Mrs.Schmidt

Wedding: 08/07/2010

Posted On: Nov 03, 2009 at 11:45 AM \| Flag As Inappropriate
I have to agree, it's cheating, I consider emotional and physcial cheating the same thing..Cheating.

Chevon's Bride

Wedding: 09/25/2010

Posted On: Nov 03, 2009 at 12:46 PM \| Flag As Inappropriate
It's cheatin because there was a boundary line that was crossed. Any man in his RIGHT mind knows what the hell he is doing to one when he's married. He had to think up what he was going to do, just like a cheater. So yes, it's a certain type of cheating and yes it's a big deal.

tara98gold

Wedding: 06/26/2010

Posted On: Nov 03, 2009 at 12:57 PM \| Flag As Inappropriate
No it may not be cheating in the way a lot of us perceive cheating but at the same time. You know if their significant other was there they would not be doing that. So in a sense it is cheating. And no matter what form it is whether emotional or physical both are wrong and both end up hurting the other person.

Shell

Married: 06/27/2009

Posted On: Nov 03, 2009 at 1:06 PM \| Flag As Inappropriate
@ DCT- i know, alot of women dont want to hear it or will deny it. its sad but i think even if they wont believe they need to be told. @cuteangelfan- i agree. at first i wasnt sure because i wasnt thinking clearly but your so right. if you wouldnt behave this way infront of your spouse, you shouldnt behave this way when they are not there. what would they think if that saw you? do you feel guilty about what you did? are you able to tell your spouse like its not big deal? i think answering some of these questions with regards to your actions can better explain if your cheating or not.

reddiva22

Wedding: [Private]

Posted On: Nov 03, 2009 at 1:09 PM \| Flag As Inappropriate
I think it is cheating! Its absolutely wrong and horrible!

lauren10

Married: 08/29/2009
Reviews: 5

Posted On: Nov 03, 2009 at 1:15 PM \| Flag As Inappropriate
I like the cheat test rule above for sure. I do agree that it's more about what would be acceptable to the wife. Maybe even if you did tell her she'd say "Oh, that's my Mike, such a flirt!" A big clue to the story is that he DIDN'T do more than hold hands. And from the sounds of your conversation with your BM the next day, she seemed to like him. If he was a bad guy, he probably would have tried to go further. Guys don't really get off on holding hands with with a stranger that they'll probably never see again. I think you should stick to your "I don't know who to believe" theory. He might be a good guy that just walked an annoying drunk girl home. (not saying your friend is annoying, but you know what I mean...) If this was more than holding hands, I'd say there might be a problem, but there just might be more to the story than you know.

lovingit

Wedding: 07/10/2010

Posted On: Nov 04, 2009 at 12:46 AM \| Flag As Inappropriate
i would be on the fence about it being cheating or not but it would for sure show that there is a problem in there relationship. drunk or not he shouldnt want to hold someone elses hand only his wifes. its a way to show affetion.when married thats for one person only.

future Mrs. Gamble

Wedding: 07/04/2010

Posted On: Nov 06, 2009 at 10:41 AM \| Flag As Inappropriate
i would difinately be pissed off! i would be very jelous but if he didn't do anything with her (sex kiss whatever) i guess it's not really cheating, but it would still feel like it to me. hell i get pissed off when my fh's one friend... female btw calls him at 3:30 - 4:00 in the morning!! which is NOT acceptable!!! >:( GRRRR!!! BAD FRIEND THAT IS A GIRL!!!

SoExcited!

Wedding: 08/20/2011

Posted On: Nov 06, 2009 at 10:49 AM \| Flag As Inappropriate
Well cheating has so many various definitions attached to it. It would depend on how "open" he and his wife's relationship is.... in my opinion it's cheating 100% and I would be a wreak if my FH were to do that. Cheating can happen on so many levels including an emotional level and the fact that he was showing so much interest in another girl is just so hurtful. :( Like Future Mrs. Gamble says above... technically it's NOT cheating... but it would sure feel like it and if it feels like it then I'd say it's just as serious as the real thing. Awww, I feel so bad for his wifey.

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