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Is it ok to put on the wedding invitation that monetary gifts are appreciated?

NO! Not kosher! Don't do it, don't make any references to gifts. No registry lists, and certainly no requests for cash!

I wouldn't put that monetary gifts appreciated on the invitation. Don't send out a registry. Typically when you don't send everyone a registry of things you want the majority of your gifts will be monetary. I didn't send out a registry and we got two bought gifts and the rest was monetary gifts.

I don't think so. You're not supposed to say anything about gifts/registry in your invitation. Although I did put in my registry cards, even though I was told that is wrong. Oh well. But I think requesting money just sounds bad. But I also think there are no rules anymore and you should do what you want to.

If you prefer cash instead of gifts, have your parents spread the word. That's the best way to get that across. You don't want to make it look like you're asking for money on your invitations.

In most cases that would not be a good idea to put on the invitation. Gifts should not be expected for their attendance (although it's certainly customary). Besides having parents spread the word informally keeping a very small traditional registry with the option of gift cards is another way to get the message across. And there are also non-traditional registries you can create that are essentially a way to ask for money (e.g., honeymoon registry, housefunds, etc.)

nope, ask your relatives and close circle of friends to spread the word. or put it on your website only.

No, it's not a good idea to mention gifts in any form.

Personally, I disagree with honeymoon registries and house funds.

No, not a good idea!

Not a good idea at all!

I agree with the ppl on here, I agree when someone says to have your mom, bridesmaids, or FH's parents spread the word.

I would be completely put off and offended if that was in an invitation. It makes it seem as if the only reason you are inviting people is so you can get money. Most people will ask both sets of parents or even you what you want or where you are registered. At that time it would be appropriate to say that cash is preferred but never before that point so make sure your parents know this. You can put your registries on your wedding page and depending on how you word it you could put that money is preferred to gifts. Also if money is a concern you can do a money dance or a money tree. Never both.

Hey Sachele, I just realized something, I am getting married on your one year anniversary, how fun!:)

didn't this person have a different name b.4?

reddiva22- :) It was our 3 year dating anniversary. If you are asking if i had a different name before nope... The D should be a K now though lol

I'm sorry but I would not recommend it unless you are willing to take a chance at offending your guests. I would recommend putting in your invite a separate "registry card". Even if you didn't register for much your guests will see that and opt for the obvious... cash!
Best Wishes!

O no Sachele, honestly I don't remember who I meant, but I didn't mean you.... LOL! O nice, thats awesome!:)