who gets invited to the bachelor party?
1. my dad be invited
2. my uncles - 7
3. his uncles - 2
4. his brother - in - law
be invited?
are they gonna expect to be invited?

Ms. G
Married: 04/30/2011
Posted On: Jan 25, 2011 at 1:44 PM • Vendors are allowed • Add to My WatchlistFlag As Inappropriate1 like

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FMS, the barefoot wife!
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Jan 25, 2011 at 2:01 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
Same as the bridal shower and bachelorette party, all the guys that are invited to the wedding, so yes, both dads, yours and his, brothers, brother in-laws-, future brother in laws, etc.

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Jan 25, 2011 at 2:08 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
I think it depends who is throwing it and what type of party it is. I would also talk to your FH about who he's comfortable inviting. I don't think it follows the same rules as a shower, where all the women are invited. I know my DS wouldn't have been comfortable with my dad there!

Hayley C™
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Jan 25, 2011 at 3:04 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
I agree, depends on what they are doing.... if it is golf, then you could extend the invite out to any/ all of the men. A strip club... might not want the bride's dad sitting there....

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Jan 25, 2011 at 3:17 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
my dad went and fil went to the strip club with my hubby. haha.

i think he can invite whoever he wants. if he is close with all of them and wants them there then ask them.

Married: 10/16/2011
Jan 25, 2011 at 3:21 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
i think its just up 2 you guys

Shannon S.
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Jan 25, 2011 at 3:23 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
I don't think there's a strict rule. FS is just having his groomsmen and a few other close guy friends for a dude's weekend in Miami.

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Jan 25, 2011 at 3:23 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
It's up to the groom. He decides who he wants there and how many people. He shouldn't feel obligated to invite people he barely knows.

Ms. G
Married: 04/30/2011
Jan 25, 2011 at 4:05 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
thank you for your feedback....

so there is no etiquette concerning this?
because i don't want people expecting an invite then they don't get anything.

just as a note
he is not close to my uncles (only met them ones or twice)
but they might be expecting to be invited
he has gotten close to my dad
he loves his uncles and his bil

the party is not gonna be wild at all

Private User
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Jan 25, 2011 at 4:30 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
Just think of it like an ordinary night out with guys and figure out who he would invite to that. If he'd invite your dad and uncles out with his buddies to have a drink on a saturday night then it should be fine. But don't MAKE him invite your family, just ask him what he wants to do. It is his party...and your family should not be offended if they don't get an invite. If I did something with my girls for my party, I wouldn't want my FH mother there or even mine!

Ms. G
Married: 04/30/2011
Jan 25, 2011 at 4:58 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
but i just figured thats how it should go since his family has to be invited to my shower...
i don't understand why is it like that for me but not for him
thats kind of unfair....

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Jan 25, 2011 at 5:06 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
I don't think the shower, bach or bachette are the same at all. I think yes teh Shower is for all the women being invited, but the bach parties are for just that. I wouldn't want my FMIL around while we did crazy things - though she would love it. I think I wouldn't want my dad to see my FH while he is drunk and crazy with his guys and I wouldn't want his mom to see me like that. I know that both my sister and I created our own list of who is invited to the bach parties but eveyrone was invited to the showers.

Ms. G
Married: 04/30/2011
Jan 25, 2011 at 5:36 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
i'm not having a bachelorette party....

FMS, the barefoot wife!
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Jan 25, 2011 at 6:01 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
I guess we have strange bachelor and bachelorette parties here! Any lady who was invited to the wedding, was more than welcome to come to the bachelorette party. my Mom and FMIL also came. And one of DH's Aunts. But I've known his side of the family for many years at that point.

Ms. G
Married: 04/30/2011
Jan 26, 2011 at 10:58 AM • Flag As Inappropriate
see now....thats the thing i guess you knew them for a long time.
i opted out of the bachelorette party because I didn't want my moh to be overwhelmed......esp financially.

anyway thank you everyone for your help. I really appreciated it.
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