Wedding Memorials

Hey everybody! I hope wedding planning has been treating you well. Anyways, on a different note, my mother passed away when I was seven. While I am twenty and have learned to deal with it as a part of my life ever since I have been planning my wedding I have noticed that I have been missing her more and more often. I wish she could be here with me to plan things... but now I am planning everything by myself. It would mean a lot to me to have some sort of memorial at the wedding for her that wouldn't be overly depressing. I have seen lots of ideas online but I figured that maybe some of you on here have gone through the same thing and have something unique that I could use. Thanks so much in advance for your help!

Posted On: Mar 7, 2009 at 12:37 AM

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Not-A-Bridezilla
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Wedding: 05/15/2010

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monarchmom
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Posted On: Mar 07, 2009 at 6:37 AM | Flag As Inappropriate
I got married outside in a gazebo & inside the gazebo there was a little table with a picture of my mother in her wedding dress, I had a candle lit by the picture & had a rose by her picture as well. During the ceremony the officient said during the unity ceremony that today we are not just joining 2 people but 2 families those that are here with us & those that are only here in our hearts. It wasn't depressing & actually I could not have had any more or I would have been a blubbering idiot.

CelticChick831
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Posted On: Mar 07, 2009 at 9:26 AM | Flag As Inappropriate
I played in a string group back in high school that did weddings and at several the couple had a candle set up decorated in the passed loved ones favorite colors. during the ceremony the minister spoke of the importance of family then a classical song was played while the bride, groom or both lit the candle in honor/memory of their loved one lost. I gave this idea to some friends who both lost their fathers and they made the taper candles for the unity candle represent there fathers. Their mothers lit the tapers during the ceremony to music and when the time came for the unity candel, the bride and groom lit their candle from their fathers tapers. So many people there loved the idea. One person had a picture of there dad in the chair he would have sat in, and everyone just cryed the whole time.
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brynnhayes
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Posted On: Mar 07, 2009 at 3:03 PM | Flag As Inappropriate
well, one thing that some people do is memorial candles. I however am doing something different. First, my dad passed away this past summer and his father is no longer with us either. Well what we are doing for my grandfather is playing his favorite song. When the grandparents are being seated they will have one song and the my brother is going to play "O'Danny Boy" on his baritone with noone walking down the aisle in memory of him not being there. And for my father, well, right after his death I heard a song by Jim Brickman and Lady Antebelum called "Never Alone". At his funeral I recited his funeral i recited the lyrics in my speech. So, I am having a close friend sing it during the ceremony. It is if he is speaking to me through the song. You should listen to it if you havent heard it, I promise it will make you feel your mothers love around you and make you feel a bit better. (even if you dont use it for your wedding)

mr&mrs
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Posted On: Mar 07, 2009 at 5:38 PM | Flag As Inappropriate
Hi, My fiance lost his father when he was three so we're doing a memorial also. We have planned when the guest sign in for the guest book, we'll have a photo of his parents when they got married and my parents also. Good Luck.
Brittany

steeler74386
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Married: 04/25/2009
Posted On: Mar 09, 2009 at 10:06 AM | Flag As Inappropriate
ya the in memory candle is good. that is what we are doing for my one gram and his grandparents. ....but i liek the one post where you have a picture of her with a candle and flower that sounds like a realy good nidea.

JulyBride
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Posted On: Mar 09, 2009 at 11:48 AM | Flag As Inappropriate
I feel the same way... my mom died when I was 17, and I have been missing her more than ever now. :( I considered doing a candle with her picture, but decided against it, and figure out a more private, personal way to have her with me. I have a pair of pearl drop earrings that belonged to her, and since they are kind of big and not the style I want to wear, I am going to pin one on the back of my bouquet, so that while I am walking down the aisle, I have something of hers with me. Not everyone else will know about it, but it will be meaningful to me.

Jessica C.
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Posted On: Mar 09, 2009 at 12:21 PM | Flag As Inappropriate
I agree with the last poster about doing something more personal and private. My dad died when I was 16 and my grandpa when I was 17. My dad left his cross (family heirloom) to my sister who has worn it every day since (she was 17 when he died). It's too big and clunky for me to wear that day (plus I'm not religious), so she offered to have me wrap in in my bouquet, and I thought it was an excellent idea. Also, my grandpa was a Shriner Clown and one year they had pins made up in his likeness as his clown counterpart. I'm going to pin that to my bouquet too. Just a nice way of keeping them both close. Then in our family acknowledgement portion of our ceremony our celebrant is going to say "There are also those dear to Dan and Jess who are not present, but who rejoice with them in Spirit. We know you are with them and we love, acknowledge and appreciate you as this marriage begins." Anything beyond that and I'd probably start sobbing like an idiot! Best of luck!

firefly620
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Posted On: Mar 10, 2009 at 11:43 AM | Flag As Inappropriate
My father passed away when I was 10 and my mom has since remarried. It's really important to me to acknowledge my father at my wedding publicly because although I love my stepfather, I get really upset when people act like he is my "real" father as if my father did not exist. I know I will be especially sensitive about it on my wedding day. I plan to have a memory table with the guest book where I will place framed pictures of my father and grandfather along with candles and a framed note saying something to the effect of, "Let us remember those who are here with us today in spirit." and then list their names. I am also listing my father in the program as deceased, then followed by my mother and step-father. It's my way of paying a special honor to my father and it's important to me that he has a role in my wedding day whether he is here or not. My sister set a place setting for him at her wedding, but I think everyone needs to express it differently.

DebbieB
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Posted On: Mar 10, 2009 at 11:47 AM | Flag As Inappropriate
My dad passed away 2 years ago so my wedding day is going to be a bittersweet day for me. I plan on remembering my dad and other loved ones that are no longer with us by having a memorial candle lit for them. I'm also putting a yellow rose (my dad's favorite flower) in the middle of my bouquet as well as having a small cameo made (they have them at exclusivelyweddings.com) that will have my dad's picture in it. I'm clipping it to my bouquet so it's like my dad is walking me down the aisle.

loconuts
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Wedding: 06/01/2010
Posted On: Mar 11, 2009 at 9:56 AM | Flag As Inappropriate
I am in the same situation, my fiancee and I have lost more than enough family members in the last few years and want a nice, not overbearingly sad way to remember them at the ceremony. I have ordered a photo charm for my bouquet to put my dad's picture in it and attach it to my bouquet, since he would have been walking me down the aisle. We are also putting a picture and a flower on a chair in the front row for each family member that is not with us. I love the idea of putting a picture of your mom on her wedding day, or pinning something special of hers to the inside of her dress. Whatever you think would honor her in the best way, and in your own way, is best. Hope this helps! Congratulations on your nuptials!

shell26
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Wedding: 10/10/2010
Posted On: Mar 13, 2009 at 11:53 AM | Flag As Inappropriate
I and my FH have both lost family members so we are going to make a picture collage of all of our family members who have pasted. I have also found a couple of poems I was thinking of putting in front of the picture or putting it on a candle and lighting it at the ceremony. I was also going to make a table at the reception for the picture and candle. I hope this helped you a little.
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