Virtual Bridal Shower?
My Matron of Honor/Sister has asked if I would like a virtual bridal shower. I live in CA, she lives in MA and my friends and family are everywhere in between.

She is considering building a website based on a Kitchen Shower theme. Having links to add recipes for me, answer silly questions a la shower games, registry links and i'm not sure what else.

She is thinking about mailing postcards with the shower website on it.

My biggest concern is that this will seem like gift grubbing. Am I right?

Danielle
Married: 08/07/2010
Posted On: May 31, 2010 at 11:08 PM • Vendors are allowed • Add to My WatchlistFlag As Inappropriate1 like

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Married: 10/20/2012
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Jun 01, 2010 at 12:12 AM • Flag As Inappropriate
It's a cute idea in theory. But I feel like if someone is buying you a gift they should be able to greet you and watch you open it.


Plus, they get a meal out of the deal normally and it almost seems like you're skimping out of it -- even if that's not how it REALLY is.... Plus, I doubt you'll have the participation of any older members of your family....


I understand the distance is the issue, I just worry that it might be misinterpreted by some.

Danielle
Married: 08/07/2010
Jun 01, 2010 at 12:26 AM • Flag As Inappropriate
I fear the misinterpretation, as well. My niece also mentioned the possibility of skyping. Like I get a few of my friends here together and we skype with those back east and anyone in between.

I don't now anything about skype though... do they have chatrooms so people all over the place can all be in one chat?

Ugh. It seems like it might just be more of a headache than what it's worth. My sister's intentions are good, but I don't want to be remember as a grubber.

Married: 10/20/2012
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Jun 01, 2010 at 12:32 AM • Flag As Inappropriate
I don't know TOO much about Skype. I know there's an option to video chat. As far as how many people can participate in the video chat, I have no idea.


I agree that it's a complicated situation. What if you had a combined shower/rehersal dinner kind of concept? If your family is flying in for your wedding, how about having the shower a day or so before? It could be more of a "Fling Before The Thing" and be less formal and gender-specific than a traditional shower. That way there's no special trip and you're still able to have family give you any gifts in person.

Danielle
Married: 08/07/2010
Jun 01, 2010 at 12:38 AM • Flag As Inappropriate
Hmmm.... that's not a bad idea. We are having a welcome campfire the night before the wedding which we planned on inviting all the guests to and handing out welcome tote bags to everyone. Is it weird for that to be a shower too? Maybe I can have my sister set it up as a "surprise shower" as we obviously know that the event is happening because we're throwing it, but my sister could make it a shower too?

Married: 10/20/2012
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Jun 01, 2010 at 12:45 AM • Flag As Inappropriate
I think it would be a wonderful idea. Although I would give guests a bit of a heads-up. Nobody wants to be surprised with something like a bridal shower. Hahhaa. And since you're not having a traditional shower anyway I think the campfire would still be appropriate. Like I said, it's more of a combination of many wedding events because you're so far from the majority of your guests so I don't think there's much of a template for you to follow. And besides, people will enjoy the rustic, outdoors-y elements. It goes along with your theme from what I can tell.


I know it's so overused, but I'm going to say it-


It's your wedding. You do what you want. And to hell with anyone who has anything negative to say about it.

Nicci
Married: 2+ years ago
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Jun 01, 2010 at 12:48 AM • Flag As Inappropriate
Do you like the idea of a card shower or have them bring recipes as part of the rehearsal thing? I really like the shower with the rehearsal dinner. We weren't able to do a bridal shower so we did a card shower and my sister announced it in my hometown newspaper and church bulletin and I actually got a lot of cards from older women at the church who (since I moved) didn't know much about the wedding etc.

Danielle
Married: 08/07/2010
Jun 01, 2010 at 12:50 AM • Flag As Inappropriate
Ha... thanks. I think I'll let my sister know about this route. She can send invites letting guests know that we don't know that it's a shower in disguise or something. Heehee. That feels a little deceptive... but we've already posted the welcome campfire on our website, so not too terrible, i guess.

JJ
Married: 2+ years ago
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Jun 01, 2010 at 12:50 AM • Flag As Inappropriate
I like the in person aspect of a shower or get together (or campfire) maybe a couple of days before the wedding...depending on when everyone gets in for the wedding.
You could do breakfast, lunch, tea, or just a cocktails and dessert party?! :)
skype is great but I still like the feeling of meeting up in person, gabbing, and celebrating an important point in your life, right before you become a married woman.:)
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