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Here's mine (well, the first. I will probably come up with more).

I am not sending STDs because I don't want people blocking our wedding date off on their calendars. I also like that it's a holiday weekend (Saturday after Thanksgiving) knowing that some people wouldn't be able to or wouldn't want to come because of family traditions/holiday plans.

This date truly worked best for us and our immediate families, but the fact that it's a holiday isn't hurting my cause any either.

I wanted a small wedding and I aim to have one :-)

(we have 85 guests on the list: adults, children, and vendors)

I've lied about how much we're spending on the wedding (under and over estimating)- mostly because I choke when people ask and I don't know how to politely say it's none of your business.

I am sad that we are not doing a first look, or not seeing each other before the ceremony (we are getting ready together and driving together to the ceremony) I kinda secretly want that moment of surprise and intimacy

Lynzey - people ask you?!?!?!? How do they justify that it's okay to ask this. Do they also want to know yours and FH's annual salaries? I would NEVER ask such a thing. Weird.

I downplay the cost too! It's so awkward because even though we're well under the local average (about $26K in my area), we still get the judgmental look. We already bought a house and got our degrees, can't we have the wedding we want to have?!

Oh, and it drives me NUTS that FH's extended family takes up a huge portion of the guest list, yet FH and I and my parents are footing the bill. We can't invite our coworkers and college friends, but so-and-so's second cousin twice removed just HAS to be there? Ughhhhh.

I just moved in temporarily with FH this week, until we can move into the new house in a couple weeks. I am ready to strangle his cat, who has kept me awake every night scratching at the bedroom door and the vertical blinds in the LR all night long. With apologies to any animal lovers...the first time he shreds something of mine will be the last day of the cat!

One of my bridesmaids is driving me crazy (with non wedding related things). She just had her first baby, so naturally her life revolves around him. However, she doesn't seem to grasp the fact that I both work and go to grad school at night full time. I LITERALLY have no life and if I do have a moment to spare I want to see MY family, not hers. If I get one more text from her saying "Baby misses Aunt Jules! Come visit soon!" I'm going to flip. I told her my next Saturday off was March 24th, but I don't think she believes me.

I did not kill it at the gym today. I let myself go home after a couple exercises I could have done at home.

@We'llAlwaysHaveParis- I have two friends getting married, so I understand why they asked. The other two women are nosey. My FH and I own a business, so they don't know how much we make, but I think they assume it's more than it actually is. I'm not sure why they are doing this, but I hate it. I've tried thinking of things to say, but they all come off so brash.
EDIT: Maybe it's an orange county thing? I don't know. But it needs to stop. Someone asked me how much my dress cost and then informed me I could have rented a "much nicer one".

Julesieeee - she doesn't want you to come ogle the baby - she is desperate for adult company. Those newborn days are THE HARDEST for a new mom. It's a huge huge huge transition.

She probably wants you to hold him so she can shower for the first time in 3 days :-)
new moms don't know that it's okay if you put a baby in a crib and he screams for 15 minutes while you shower (okay, maybe that was just me for Kid #1).

I'm pissed my FSIL and BM is staying an hour away from our wedding location with her family - 3 out of 5 are in the wedding.

We still haven't told FHs kids that we're getting married, and we've been engaged for almost 6 months already. They need to know eventually, but we have to hide everything because of the ex wife. She maintains that his daughter is having a terrible time with the fact that he and his ex aren't getting back together (she left him for her current bf back in 2008 - and they started seeing each other long before that). So I can't get vendor calls to the house, ask him his opinion on something, and we can't leave any brochures or magazines in the house when the kids are around.

I'm ready to march over to her house and tell her to quit meddling in our lives!

I am still torn between having the wedding Memphis and San Francicso. Even though I have been set on having the wedding out there for two years. I still would like have at my church and then again at times I just want to elope.

@Paris - her mom is actually living with them at the moment, her husband is home full time with her right now (he works seasonally), and her husband's sister is also there most days. She has plenty of adult help/company!

ETA: I came off snarky and didn't meant to. I shouldn't have said plenty, I don't know if it's plenty or not. But she is definitely not home by herself all day with the baby! AND I love her and adore her baby, but when I've explained 6 ways to Sunday that I literally cannot come over I don't know what else to do but get if off my chest. :)

I'm with the gym confession- I did not go this morning... *for shame* :(

I really wish FI would ask those he wants as GM. I know there's still time, but he already knows who he wants, so why not ask?? We saw one of them (my bro) this weekend & I purposefully gave them some time to themselves to facilitate the asking, but it didn't happen. I'd just like to know for sure who'll be in the WP and see what arrangements we can make with tuxes. (FI's been really great about everything else though, so I'm trying to cut him some slack.)

I'm also a little afraid of being judged or asked a million times if FI is really "the one" (so far only been asked once, but I can forsee it coming up)...my parents were each married & divorced twice....this will be my 2nd marriage. And some seem to think we should downplay everything since I was married before (FI wasn't) - I really do think FI is the one and I want this wedding to be special.

I lie about cost also because I hate seeing that face like are you serious when people askk take our cake for example I know its a little over priced but she does great work so when people ask I tell a little white lie!

@ Miss B- FH and I are staying in the same place the night before and going to the ceremony together but are still doing a first look. He'll get ready in another room and he's agreed to be blindfolded for the drive to the first look spot so we can still have that moment and special pictures. Just an idea if the first look is important to you!

My confession- I'm really frustrated that FH's sense of deadlines is much less urgent than mine....I'm just ready to have it all planned so I can relax!

The best man is a piece of shit. Unfortunately, he's Jared's brother. But he's a broke douchebag and I just know he's gonna have Jared cover the costs on something that is his responsibility.

I'm about to call the BM and tell him he's a major a** hole! FH and the BM have been friends for 7 years. They've been through all the ups and downs life can through at them, BM loosing his license due to too many DUI's and back child support, loosing his house, recovering from being a 10 yr alcoholic, and all of FH's stuff too. The BM has now turned his life around (yay!), found an amazing woman (who he is now engaged to), but now has ZERO time for FH. They used to talk 2-3 times a week...despite FH calling or texting (we live 1600 miles away) at least 3-4 times a week they haven't spoken in 3 weeks! FH is pretty upset about this and is trying to play it cool. But I see how hurt he is and I'm so ready to rip into the BM, but I'm respecting FH wishes and staying out of it.