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I don't think its too early to ask ppl to be in your wedding. I think you should start thinking about what type of theme you may want or what type of colors you want. Also what type of a venue you may want for ur reception, Good luck!:)

if you woud like to ask them now i dont see a problem with it. its an exciting time! i was engaged for 18 months so your would be just a bit longer than that til your wedding. why not start with making your budget out and you can start to look for venues and churches in maybe january? then after i did those three things i took care of all the big stuff right away. i found a florist and phtogrherss atc by the end of the summer of 2008 (got engaged in april 2008). im glad i did alot of big things right away so i could relax and take time with some ofthe smaller stuff. i ws basically done everything by june 2009 so i could then enjoy my summer then got married in october and did all the last minute stuff in september. hope that kind of helps!

Thanks, I just always hear of people suggesting to wait.... we've already booked our location and it's going to be a summer wedding (August) so I'm thinking a yellow color theme... not sure yet...if I had BM's they could help me with these things! I was thinking 6 BM's is that too many or too little? We'll probably have approx. 225 guests

I asked my bridesmaids right away even though the wedding was more than a year away. I am booking the ceremony and reception sites now, but I am not going to worry about the rest (cake, dress, flowers etc) until 6 months before.

If you are real close with them and know for sure you want these people to stand by you, then ask away :)

i think you shouldhave as many as you like. y freind is having 6 in june and her wedding is 140.

I don't think it's too early to ask. I asked my bridesmaids over a year and a half out. That being said, a lot of things change in that much time. You may decide later on that you want a smaller wedding party (big if, but worth the consideration). I would say, if you can wait, do it. Ask them about a year out. They don't need to order their dresses until 4-6 months out (and even that is a very generous estimate). You could take this time to plan a special way to ask them!

That's true... I would like to ask them in a unique way... any suggsetions for that? Also, my best friend is getting married next Friday in Mexico but she is also having a local reception during the first week of December so I was thinking I might wait to ask her to be my MOH after her wedding is all done with...maybe in January after the holidays?

The timeline is really up to you. It is your wedding and you can do whatever you think is best! It's never too early to ask.
I am a procrastinator. I got engaged last Thanksgiving. My wedding's in October, 2010. I just asked my best friend to be my MoH today. (I was nervous for some reason :o) All I've done for my wedding so far is book the church and the reception hall. If it wasn't for my friends and family pushing me to plan this wedding, I don't know when I'd start!

I actually took an idea from someone who posted on the wedding bee. I created a collage of pictures of me and my fiance, and a bunch of meaningful things to us and sent it to a company that made it into a puzzle...when they put the puzzle together it asked them to be in our bridal party.

Here's how my puzzle came out

http://photos-f.ak.fbcdn.net/hphotos-ak-snc1/hs156.snc1/5815_124997577604_560622604_2443298_3636515_n.jpg

(I'd have to look for the puzzle site if you were interested). Then I went onto snap fish and made them each a little picture card of me and each of them with a personalized poem for them.

That is such a cute idea! I love it...... I found some poems on different sites that I like and I was thinking about using a different one for each girl. I really like the puzzle idea

My wedding is also a long way off but I'm asking my bridesmaids now! That way, they can also plan their time and budget to make sure they can be the best bridesmaids ever!!! :)
I'm standing up in my best friend's wedding about 7 months before mine and I just am so excited that we get to go through the wedding planning process together!

Okay it's comforting to know other brides are asking their girls now. I've never done this before, ha haa so I don't want to screw it up! LOL. I think I'll prob. ask my girls after the holidays... I'm just so excited and want to ask them soon. I've heard lots of different suggestions on exactly HOW to ask the girls, are you asking yours individually or as a group?

I asked mine individually

Well, my sister already knows that she's the MOH and she lives out of state ...
I'm asking the other 3 all at once. We're going to dinner as a group with all our guys on Nov. 21 and I'm going to give them each cards and a little gift that asks them to be my bridesmaid. I can't wait!

http://www.greetingcarduniverse.com

Has great cards if you want to go that route ...

Hmmm, I kind of like that idea, to ask them all at dinner. I was thinking about maybe making cards with pictures of me and each girl on them at walgreens.com or something that says on the front "We've shared a lot together..." and then on the inside ask them to share my wedding day with me.... ?

Okay, here's one more question.... my FSIL already knows she'll be in the wedding but I haven't really officially asked her. She is about 6 years younger than me (I'm 25, she's 18, almost 19)and we don't know each other too well but I like her a lot and am excited to have her as a SIL so I kind of want to make it special but not too mushy if that makes sense...

I would advise on making sure that your bms are dependable, supportive, reliable and have the time, money, and enthusiasm to invest in your wedding. Other than that, plan away!

You should take your FSIL out just the two of you and ask her. Take her to lunch, or to a movie (Twilight?!?) or soemthing else she'd like. Without being too mushy, you can explain how much it means that she stand up and how excited you are to be family.

Thanks! I love that idea. She's obsessed with Twilight, ha haa so maybe we could go see the new one together or go get our nails done together. :o) Thanks!