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We are having our rehearsal dinner in a small back room of a local bar/restaurant. Fh's mom is paying for food, but everyone is on their own if they want alcohol.

I think given the atmosphere of the whole event, no one is going to get crazy. It's just a dinner out, and if people want to have a beer with their meal, then why not.

*Had to edit my spelling. I hate when I miss letters. :)

My family would think I had lost it if I didn't have alcohol at my RD! lol Not that we are a bunch of lushes or anything but we do enjoy a nice wine! I agree with vinlars......I think the atmosphere of a RD is more relaxed than crazy. I say go for it and have alcohol!

Be careful with this post you will have people here jump your a$$ about "not trusting your guests" and being a "bad hostess" and all. I know because that happened to me recently.

To your question.... I say, it is your big day and you know what will work best for you and your guests

Well if u want everyone to look their best even tho u are having an afternoon wedding then don't have the alcohol at the rehearsal dinner but at the reception tho

One idea would be to pay for enough bottles of wine for everyone to have 2 glasses each (so that's 1 bottle for every 2 people, generally, with a little wiggle room) and have them on the table already when everyone arrives. I don't think you can police how much any one guest drinks, but if the bottles are on the table from the start, people may get the hint that what's there is it, and when it runs out, the drinking is done. Polite guests won't hog more than their share, or complain when it's gone. For 13 people who would be drinking, I'd get 7-8 bottles (for wiggle room) and space them out on the tables appropriately.

I would bring some wine, and maybe a few 6packs of some nicer varieties of beer. That way there is enough for people not to complain but not enough to break your bank and have them all tipsy.

Is Top Golf a restaurant? If so, is it fancy? If so, I think alcohol would be appropriate for a somewhat formal dinner. There won't be too many people there, so budgeting for 13 people shouldn't be too bad. If it's not formal (fancy), I would say don't worry about it. It isn't really necessary.