Reception Only Invitations??
my ceremony and reception are at the same place, but the room that the ceremony is in only seats 100, which is barely big enough for both families. but the reception room seats 220. we're going to have about 175 people for the reception. How do you do your invitations for the guests you're only inviting to the reception? Do you have separate invitations or what??

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Posted On: Jul 8, 2011 at 2:40 PM • Vendors are allowed • Add to My WatchlistFlag As Inappropriate1 like

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Hayley C™
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Jul 08, 2011 at 2:48 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
Either 2 kinds of invites, all same reception cards
or same invites and 2 kinds of reception cards. Depends on your preference or which would cost you less.

Bride Middle Last
and
Groom Middle Last

will be married in a private
wedding ceremony on
Saturday, the fourth of October
two thousand fourteen

Please celebrate with us at our
reception following the ceremony
at six o'clock in the evening
Harbor view Golf Club
8710 Harbor view Club Drive
Hilliard, Ohio

-or- another way to have all the same invite?

Because you have shared in our lives
by your friendship and love, we

Bride Middle Last
and
Groom Middle Last

together with our parents
invite you to celebrate
our new life together
at our reception following
our private wedding ceremony
on Friday, the ninth of May
two thousand fourteen
at six o'clock in the evening
The Hall of Casa Monica
Four North Bend Avenue
St. Augustine, Florida
Edited On: Jul 08, 2011 at 2:58 PM

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Jul 08, 2011 at 2:49 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
hmm, i like that. thanks!

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Jul 08, 2011 at 2:49 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
I think the "rule" is that whoever is invited to the ceremony, should also be invited to the reception, and vice versa. I think that would be kinda weird to invite people only to a reception, especially if it's in the same place as the ceremony. Most people who have destination weddings have a home reception, which is different than this situation. If you must have a different guest list for the reception, then yes, do separate invitations. But I think you will probably receive a lot of questions from your guests about this.

Edit (I pressed submit too fast lol): I don't know if it's okay or not, but that's my guess!
Edited On: Jul 08, 2011 at 2:50 PM

KRISTINA
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Jul 08, 2011 at 2:54 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
I don't think it's uncommon for this. Some people want to celebrate with everyone with a reception, but want only close family and friends for the actual ceremony. Pretty much no different from a destination wedding.

I like Hayley's idea/wording. Just word your invitations like that and instead of having a reception insert, you could do a ceremony insert for those who are invited to the ceremony. That may save money VS buying two different invites and then additional reception cards for the ones who are invited to both.

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Jul 08, 2011 at 2:57 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
Okay then I was wrong lol..my bad! I've never heard of it, so I wasn't sure. You learn something new everyday :-)

In that case, go with Hayley's idea..she will never steer you wrong!

KRISTINA
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Jul 08, 2011 at 2:57 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
The ceremony insert could say something like

You are invited to the private ceremony of
Bride Middle Last
and
Groom Middle Last
which will take place at
TIME
name of ceremony location
address of ceremony location
city, state of ceremony location

FMS, the barefoot wife!
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Jul 08, 2011 at 3:00 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
Are you able to have the ceremony in the reception room? Guests could sit at their tables for the ceremony.

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Jul 08, 2011 at 3:04 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
I'm in the same boat! I think it's okay to invite some only to a reception but the opposite of only the ceremony and not the reception is not okay (which you're not doing anyways) But I definitely like Hayley's wording and might use that myself!

Hayley C™
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Jul 08, 2011 at 3:06 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
I like that Kristina.
The only reason I said 2 Reception cards was if you wanted to put any other info on it.

The pleasure of your company is requested
to help us celebrate

Cocktails 6:00
Dinner 7:00
Dancing until 11:00

***Now that I think of it, that is kinda redundant.

but I really like that the Invitation will be more like the "reception card" telling of time and place, and that the insert will be the "Ceremony card" Great Idea Kristina.

(and I had the ceremony on the dance floor... so everyone was able to come to both, it turned out nice and saved money from needed to rent a 2nd room. Didn't need to pay for chair set up either)

Edited On: Jul 08, 2011 at 3:08 PM

KM
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Jul 08, 2011 at 3:10 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
I think it's OK to do this (and I like Hayley's suggestions) but I would be afraid that some people might get confused and show up to the ceremony anyhow OR they might be offended that they aren't invited to the ceremony.
I could be completely wrong, but it seems a bit dicey.

Hayley C™
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Jul 08, 2011 at 3:27 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
visuals if you want to have the ceremony in the same room. That way if someone comes early they are not offended if they didn't get invited to both.

Since the room hold more than you are inviting, maybe they can set up some chairs on the dance floor to make you and aisle? and then others can sit at the tables?


KRISTINA
Married: 06/21/2014
Jul 08, 2011 at 3:33 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
Thanks Hayley. =) Your idea was good too though, just thought it would save her more money to do it the way I suggested.

She can also place the ceremony insert card in front of the reception invite so that those invited to the ceremony will see/read that card first.

Edited - I've also been in a wedding where it was same location. She just had all the guests sit at the tables which would be their seats for the whole wedding. My FH has suggested we have ours at the same place, but for a couple of reasons I'd rather not.

1. I'd like an outside ceremony (reception is inside)
2. It's a nice place, but could get better formal pictures & such at another location
3. I just am not thrilled over doing it that way or "kicking them out" while we rearrange the tables and such. Not having professionals come in to set up so I'd be in charge of transforming the room myself while all guests were standing outside waiting.
Edited On: Jul 08, 2011 at 3:37 PM

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Jul 08, 2011 at 5:43 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
Re the invites...I would go with Hayley's suggetion.

I dropped the idea of an outside wedding when I saw what the cost of a tent and chair rental would be. Everything that is taking place for the wedding weekend, including the accomodations for our guests are at the same inn. We are being married in the same room as the reception. We are simply turning the chairs that are normally pushed into the table, side ways to face the fire place. The look is roomie and works out quite well.

KRISTINA
Married: 06/21/2014
Jul 08, 2011 at 6:49 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
*rolls eyes*

Anyways.... she might not be able to use just one room. Or perhaps she just doesn't like that idea. I think if she'll be fine using either Hayley's idea or mine.

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Jul 08, 2011 at 6:50 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
I'm just going to have different worded invites for those who are invited to both and those who are invited to just the reception. Basically the same, just different time, one says ceremony & reception, one says reception, etc. They are at the same place I just wanted a small wedding, but have so many people coming, so I figured I could have the best of both worlds! Also there will be set up going on while FH and I take pictures so I wouldn't want to "kick out" the guests like Kristina mentioned.

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Jul 08, 2011 at 6:57 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
There is a big religious group around here that holds private ceremonies in their temples (which you have to be ordained to go in) so generally the cards say something along the lines of,
[bride] and [groom] are to be married on [date] at [place], you are invited to a reception in their honor on [date] [info].
And if they want to invite you to the ceremony they put an insert card in saying
please join us for the ceremony on [date, place]

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Jul 08, 2011 at 10:54 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
thanks so much ladies! I really had no idea how to go about this. Im doing separate rooms because i didnt like the whole idea of kicking the guests out and re-setting up, and the ceremony room is so perfect for a winter wedding so i HAD to do it in there:) I really like the idea of reception invitations and a ceremony insert.
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