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It might be "the right thing to do" but the question is if you can afford it. If you can't afford it then you don't have to ask.

If you are close, and have the space, it's a nice idea. However, a nice thank you note and maybe a small gift would do the trick here as well.

Is your mom close with this friend? I would consider it, maybe see if you can fit her in but if your mom isn't close with her and you can't seem to find room for her, I wouldn't worry too much about it.

If it isn't in your budget but you want to do it because it's the nice thing to do then ask your mom to give you say like 100 dollars to go toward the extra food, drinks, etc. If she doesn't like that idea and your budget doesn't allow it then I agree that a small gift and a nice thank you note will do just fine.

I agree with everyone else. If they're close friends and your budget allows it then do it. But if not then just send her a nice thank you not and a small gift

I read this article about inviting.. stated if you haven't had a meaningful converstation with someone in a year, no need to invite them.
although she suggested the venue and you chose it, you are not obligated to invite her. She isn't, after-all, paying for it... :o)

I think analy's suggestion of a thank you note or a small gift is perfect. No need to invite if you are not close to her.

Thank you all.

Lovely! Where were you with that analogy a few months ago when I was doing my guest list?!?!?! OoO that would have saved me thousands! LoL

Yeah.. I agree with others. If you're the ones paying for the wedding there is no "obligation" to invite anyone you don't want to. Period. Now obviously it's nice if you can but if it's not in your budget or if you don't want the person there than don't bother.

Yeah you are under no obligation to invite them even if they suggested your venue. If you aren't that close to them then their isn't no need. If it means a lot to your mom and it is within your budget then sure but if you know it is going to make everything tight then send a thank you or something. That will do.

I agree with the other ladies there is no need to invite her. After all she was just suggesting the place, its like after your wedding there, you would either recommend it or not. Its what vendors like their clients to do. It is called "word of mouth". I mean if you suggest it to some one you are not close with, let say a you over hear some one asking for a place to hold their wedding, you might say, "I know this place called_______ their service is great!" You wouldn't expect an invite....

LoL Bayridge ... It's helped save me a bunch and cut my guest list

So, if I suggest a bakery to you, are you going to invite me? Sorry about the sarcasm, but it's the first thing that came to my mind. :)
As the others have said, there's no need to invite her unless you're close. If your mom feels really strongly about inviting her, then she needs to pay for it. But I would think that sending a nice thank you card would be all that you need to do.

VANE

what have you decided to do?

I agree with Tara and 3.6.10. People should do things out of kindness. I'm sure that woman doesn't exoect an invite because she made a suggestion. A thank you note is more than sufficient.

I would think it depends but don't feel obligated. The lady who sits next to me at work refered a florist. I see and talk to this lady every day but I didn't invite her because I don't have room to invite co-workers.

I think a small gift would be enough, even just an email saying "thanks. we appreciate your efforts or referral for us."
but maybe you will have less people rsvping "yes" than you thought? put her on the b or c list?