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I understand this is a very hard time for you. IMO I think you are doing what is best for him, a sign of true love. My heart goes out to you. I pray God has his loving hands on both of you. {{{Hugging you tight}}}

I'm so sorry Violet, I am still keeping you in my thoughts. I just have to tell you when my time comes, I hope to have somebody who has your love and strength by my side. I know it's incredibly difficult, but Dan is fortunate to have you. Many, many hugs to both of you.

You are such a strong woman. Prayers.

Our prayers are with you. I don't think you need to tell him. I am sure he knows you will always do what is best for him not to suffer.

Praying for your strength. You are an incredible woman!

I'm sorry Violet. I agree you are so strong to be making this decision. It is such a beautiful act of love and mercy and I pray that God hugs you both close at this time. Dan knows how much you love him and I know it means the world to him to have your love. I once had a discussion with a medical personal about passing away. She said the body seems to have a way of protecting the mind from feeling the pain at the end. This has brought me some peace in the past and I hope it may to you as well.

Have you ever gotten a chance to talk with Dan about his final wishes? This is such a hard thing to do. I was just thinking if he is able to at all take part in the process or if he has already done so it may really help later with dealing with his mom. I hope this time brings you and his mother closer as a family instead of causing fights. It's so difficult! Big hugs and please know we are always here for you now and in the future!

i am so sorry. I cannot even imagine how you must feel and don't know if I could handle it with the same amount of grace that you have.
I agree with the other ladies about you being such a strong woman. He's very lucky to have someone like you by his side.

Violet, I'm so sorry that this has finally come. You have been so wonderful to Dan, and so strong for the both of you. I'm happy that you got to become Mrs. Endres while he was still with you. My prayers and thoughts are with you. Good luck with Dan and his family. Take comfort in knowing that you loved him as well as you could for as long as you could. Blessings for you both.

Oh Violet! Hearts, thoughts, and prayers go out to you!

we are going to have trouble with the motherinlaw..why cant these moms let go of their chidren?! grrr...i know why...she feels guilty for that fact they hes disabled and that she treated him rotten as a child. but i am willing to pitch in my prepaid furneral..sp he doesnt have to be creamanted against his will.

I have been in your shoes with my 1st husband a few years ago (battled leukemia for 2 1/2 yrs., & was only 35 when passed) & no decision is easy. Please feel free to message me if you need someone to listen or talk too. I will be praying for the both of you

I'm so sorry to hear. I know you've been battling for awhile now. My prayers are with you an Dan though this tough time. Your incredibly strong. I don't think you need to tell Dan anything. I'm sure he knows you have his best interest and heart. *hugs*

so sorry Violet, both of you are in our thoughts and prayers

Violet, you and Dan are in my thoughts and prayers. As odd as this may sound, it takes true love to let your significant other go. Sometimes medicine fails and there is no explanation, it is just the person's time. You are truly an inspiration for your strength and determination. Feel free to message me if you need anything.

My thoughts and prayers go out to you and Dan! You are a strong woman for making those decisions.

I am sorry to read this, Violet. You have done all that you can. You fought hard for the two of you.

Many times, reality sucks.

Sending my best thoughts to you.

I agree with Mags question. Have you and Dan talked about what he wants? If not, do so....and ask someone to be there to witness his wishes.

I do not begrudge his mother her wishes. She is his mother, even if she was not a model Mom. She is losing her son, and that has to hurt.

Stay strong, Violet. We care about you, and Dan.

I'm sorry Violet. You need to know that you're taking the most compassionate, loving path. Big hugs to you.

So sorry to hear this. Prayers with you.

It's hard to let go, it's even harder being the final say in when to let go. But in the end if its going as bad as it sounds he will be miserable otherwise. Follow your heart and it won't steer you wrong. I'm sorry you're going through this, I know it's difficult, but atleast you get to be there for him in his last days, and he knows in his heart that you love him unconditionally and would do anything for him.
Not many people could stick around as much as you have, not many could be as strong and hang on so long hoping for the best, just know when it's all said and done you'll have an angel watching over you, and he'll always be with you in mind and spirit, a much happier a much more at peace spirit.
For what it's worth it definitely sounds like you're doing the right thing.

My prayers are with you and Dan during this time. I am so very sorry.