I'm getting married in August. It's a 5:30 p.m. wedding in a garden setting followed by a 5 hour reception of dinner and dancing. My fiance's brother (his only sibling) has 3 children...they'll be 6, 4 and 14 mts. by then. They're unruly. They can't sit still and have to constantly be entertained. When my fiance told his family 'no children' it got ugly. My future father-in-law said it was "tradition" to have children of the immediate family there. My future brother-in-law said he was hurt and disappointed, and his wife said if they couldn't go, she wouldn't go either. And they don't trust their children to babysitters. She also said not to expect the kids to behave if they did go because kids that age are expected to run around and carry on. I don't think an evening affair is any place for little children. Is there etiquette to follow when dealing with the children of immediate family?