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I was just at a wedding show and at their fashion show they had there was a model wearing a black mothers dress and it was actually my favorite one. If thats the one you both like and it doesn't come in another color I'd say go for it! People do have their wedding color as black now days to, I don't think it would have that meaning...unless maybe if she wore a black veil : )

My mom was going to wear a black dress for our wedding because it was the only dress she felt comfortable in, she ended up with a dress that complemented mine because she wanted to feel more glamorous. I personally wouldn't have cared if she had worn black. I mean black is used as a main color in weddings these days.

Black is still a color of mourning but it doesn't have a strong stigma of mourning as other colors are worn at funerals now.

I say tell your mom to wear what makes her comfortable!

I personally like black dresses a lot but I think that if someone important like the mom or sister or something is wearing black it would be like they were mourning the wedding....especially if its my FMIL. I am going to be asking them to wear any shade of blue or green other than the exact colour my bridesmaids are wearing. I know that a navy blue or deep green would look so nice on the women in my fiance's family and my family. I also want to put that suggestion out there because I know his mom will either wear something crazy flashy with her boobs hanging out and bright red or something..or she'll wear a drabby black dress..but still with her boobs hanging out :(

If you are okay with black though it should be fine! Its just a personal preference of mine ya know? But If you feel its okay then I'd stress that to her. but if she's still uncomfortable with it maybe they have a dark colour in the same dress? so she feels more comfortable in it! :D Hope that helps!

another thought is maybe she can have a shawl or sash that blends with the wedding? That would show she isn't in mourning. A nice touch is if your parents are still married and your dad is wearing a tux she could wear the color of his vest as her accent color that way the black would be intentional to match your father.

I saw Go with the BLACK, I think if it's something that compliments her and she is comfortable with it, go for it, I mean either way if you wanted to make the main color black and have her add accents to her dress not Broaches or maybe a HAT, or something, I mean I don't take black as Mourning depending on the colors it's complimentary to alot of things.... but it's your choice.....

I agree with the thought of adding various accents that are a strong color, shawl/broach/her flowers/jewelry/etc.

I have seen moms in black and the smiles on their faces left no doubt that it was a happy occasion. Black is always elegant in a formal dress. I am a MOB (twice) and each dress was as different as the daughter...one was champagne and one was magenta. I know your mom appreciates your help!

My mom wore a black dress to my first wedding 13 years ago. I didn't know what she was wearing ahead of time (I was in Europe) and was shocked to see what she'd bought to wear. It seemed so wrong. I would have been really upset if we were having a formal church wedding, but since it was in a courthouse, it wasn't as bad.

Fast forward to this year when my brother got married. I went dress shopping with my mom and saw a very pretty black dress that she would have looked nice in. When I showed it to her, she replied, "I can't wear black to your brother's wedding!" Um, okay, you did to mine, but whatever.

Anyway, back to your question. My thought on that would be, if you and her both like it, it doesn't really matter what color it is. People wear black all the time now, so it's not so weird. But if it bothered you, or she thinks its wrong, then I would look for something else. You both want to be comfortable on such a big day.

Blk seems to be great for almost all occassions!! like others have mentioned maybe some nice jewlery to dress it up,,she could also where a very eleglant updo if her hair is long enough if no she could even have maybe a small piece of hair jewlery and with elegant makeup she will look fab!!!

if your dad wears a white vest or shirt(idk, some men are opting for the total black look, which looks really cool!), maybe your gift to her could be pearls, or something with swarovski crystals? that way, it turns the dress into something festive. the pearls seem more formal, but but there's so many ways she could accent your father, it's crazy! get a dress she's comfortable in. if it's black, i'd just suggest something that isn't long sleeved or business casual, because that's what OUR families condier funeral wear: covered up, and black business skirt suits/slacks, sweaters. see what i mean? and i could be wrong, but i think back in the day when mothers were mourning the wedding of a virgin bride, they wore black veils, and so did the brides. although, i think that's mostly a hispanic culture thing. a girl i worked with had the big to do about how the grooms family wanted to force her to wear a black chiffon/lace veil with a big blusher, because that was their culture for virgins.

my mother in law wore black to our civil wedding and then later told me no one was good enough for either of her kids... so i dont think thats the moms of the bride and groom should wear black.. but thats just me personally.. try to get her to add some color to it

Our wedding colors are black and white. My bridesmaids are supposed to be finding black dresses (they are my 3 nieces), the groomsmen are also wearing black pants and black shirts with white ties.(they are my 3 brothers). FH is going to be wearing black pants with a white shirt with a black tie. My dress is white.

I love black dresses! For my mother on my wedding day?!? Not really sure how I'd feel about that tho. Is it a night wedding?

Oh & if it helps. My mom is a tom boy & will be in a suit! Lmao. A girly one but with a turtle neck to cover all her tattoos. (Her choice) I told her be herself who cares if she's got tatts.