Money Tree Shower
I'm sure this has been posted before, but I didnt see it on a quick glance. My Fiance and I are in our 30's, we already have maintained 2 households. We have 2 of everything at this point. I have been thinking of having a money tree shower. I know this has been a controversial topic, over the years. We have registered for the people who want to bring an item.
What are your thought??

Thank you very mcuh Ladies!

Married: 10/01/2011
Posted On: Jul 12, 2011 at 11:57 AM • Vendors are allowed • Add to My WatchlistFlag As Inappropriate1 like

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Married: 10/03/2009
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Jul 12, 2011 at 11:59 AM • Flag As Inappropriate
If you have everything you need, then you don't need to have a shower. Host an engagement party, or a bridal luncheon. Asking for cash is beyond rude.

Married: 2+ years ago
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Jul 12, 2011 at 12:05 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
What is a money tree shower? Do you really ask people to come to a shower/party just to bring you money?

Married: 10/01/2011
Jul 12, 2011 at 12:10 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
Candice~ Instead of just putting your registry info in the invitaion, you in a "nice" way ask for money instead of gifts.

Brian Cesario Photography, LLC
Jul 12, 2011 at 12:10 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
There's no "nice" way to ask for money, Deana. Any way you slice it, it's tacky.

Married: 09/01/2012
Jul 12, 2011 at 12:11 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
I've wondered about this.

I know lots of people in their 30s who are getting married, have everything and STILL register for tons of new things and that's not considered rude.

So why would it be rude to do a money tree? I personally don't see the difference.

Maybe you could do a honeymoon registry, though. Extra cash for your post wedding relaxation is always nice for the person who has everything!

Stevie Rae
Married: 07/23/2011
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Jul 12, 2011 at 12:11 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
There is no need for ya'll to be rude she is just asking a question. And even if they don't do the money tree most will still want to give a gift. I personally wouldn't do a money tree and just have your showers, more than likely ppl will bring you money anyways since you are not doing a registry. If guests ask you can just say you are not doing a registry, we will just be glad to see you at the wedding! More than likely close friends and family will give you a lil something.

Married: 2+ years ago
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Jul 12, 2011 at 12:11 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
Gifts are not mandatory, so asking for money seems tacky. IMO.

Married: 10/03/2009
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Jul 12, 2011 at 12:12 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
There is no "nice" way to ask for cash, or ANY gift. Period. And you never, ever put registry info in your invites.

Mrs. S To Be
Married: 10/22/2011
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Jul 12, 2011 at 12:12 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
Agree with Analy, rude AND tacky. Sorry. But if you make a smaller registry, people may get the hint. (Don't judge me here --->) Register somewhere you like to shop frequently and you can return things you really don't want/need too.

Brian Cesario Photography, LLC
Jul 12, 2011 at 12:13 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
Liza, the reason it would be rude is because it sends a very off-putting message to the guests. It says, "We don't trust that you know enough to not give us more things we already have. We also aren't interested in you giving us a thoughtful gift, so just give us cash."

Stevie Rae
Married: 07/23/2011
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Jul 12, 2011 at 12:14 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
I did a money tree and it went wonderful, it had cute lil poem and everything! But we did this bc we just got a house and needed to buy furniture/appliances/etc., my family and friends said they actually PREFERRED this over going through the registry. I say you do what you want Deana, either way its your wedding and you know your family and friends best! Your wedding will be fabulous!
Edited On: Jul 12, 2011 at 12:15 PM

Married: 2+ years ago
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Jul 12, 2011 at 12:15 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
Oh Good God how are we being rude?! She asked a question and we are answering. Would this be better?

Oh course, ask for money. It is not rude or tacky and people will totally love that you did it!! :)

Mrs. S To Be
Married: 10/22/2011
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Jul 12, 2011 at 12:16 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
Who was rude? I'm confused.... I thought she wanted our opinions?

Stevie Rae
Married: 07/23/2011
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Jul 12, 2011 at 12:18 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
It was the way you said it...like I said they money thing went great for us! And my family and friends didn't mind at all! I say go for it!

C2ShiningC
Married: 2+ years ago
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Jul 12, 2011 at 12:18 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
Stevie Rae, I don't think anyone is being rude. She clearly asked for peoples thoughts. Many people, myself included, think that asking for money or gifts, especially on an invitation, is rude. I say just throw a shower, don't register or ask for anything. If you get money or gifts, that's nice, if not that's ok because you have everything you need.

Married: 10/03/2009
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Jul 12, 2011 at 12:18 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
Oh right....we're rude for heeding etiquette, because it disagrees with what you did. Mmkay.

Married: 09/01/2012
Jul 12, 2011 at 12:20 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
If Gifts = Money, Then Registering for Gifts = Asking for Money

Not demanding it, just letting people know if they want to give you something, this is what you like and this is where they can find it and it will be used and appreciated and please feel free to purchase if they want to.

Also, most shower invites I've seen do have the registry information on them, or at least included in the envelope. How else will you know where to go?!?

my friends must be so tacky, and i never even knew it!!!!! omg.
hahaha

Married: 10/01/2011
Jul 12, 2011 at 12:20 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
Thanks for the advise guys. I'm on the fense about this. I dont want to offend anyone, so...

Analy, can i not put my registry info in the shower invite? I know not the wedding invite, but I've seen them in the shower invite, even written on the bottom...

Candice, its fine. Thats why i put the post up here, to get everyones opinion.

tram
Married: 11/13/2010
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Jul 12, 2011 at 12:21 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
In our culture monetary gifts are a norm. However, it is a big no no in our culture to ever imply a gift of any sort is being ask. We don't host party of any kind to get 'gift' It just leave a bad taste in my mouth when I see brides have tons of dif parties n shower and on each of those occasions there's a gift involve.

Hayley C™
Married: 2+ years ago
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Jul 12, 2011 at 12:22 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
In her defense, she did say "Shower" and not Wedding invitations. I agree, no registry info or requesting money with the Wedding invite... but there is usually some info with a shower invite.

I do hope someone is hosting this shower that is not you or your mother.

Also, the point of a shower is to "shower" you with gifts. The Aunts like to OOOhh and AAAhhhh at the pretty things you picked to decorate your home.


So, you are actually having a tree they tie their money to????
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