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This is something I've been thinking a lot about lately. I always thought that I'd want to be married for a year or two before starting on kids...but now I'm 33, and don't want to wait too long. I wouldn't want to look back and wish that I started sooner. Sooo...yeah we're thinking we'll start trying within a couple months from the wedding! As long as you're both ready...then why not?!

I think it depends on how old you are and how far along you are in your career (if you want to work). For me, I'm going to be 21 (almost 22) when I get married and if I get the job I want then I would have only been working with them for 5 months. Though I really want children (2 maybe 3, just like you) I want to be sure I can provide them with a good, stable home and therefore I don't want to jeopardize my job stability just to get pregnant right away. I think that if everything goes according to plan we will probably wait 2-3 years after the wedding before we even think about kids. My FH and I haven't discussed this in detail, and since he's 4 1/2 years older than me he may want to start earlier. Honestly, I think it's all a play it by ear thing. I say we should wait that long, but if we have a stable living environment and feel we are ready before that then we'll probably just go for it. I definitely am bringing my birth control on the honeymoon with me!

i already have a 3 and a half year old and a 5 month old (she was adopted tho - i gave her up [well i gave her better]) and after the adoption experience, it made me want another baby so bad! i don't know why.. but i do. so we are going to start right away.. infact he promised me. lol!

I'm not married...yet, and I don't have any kids either, but I would love to have kids right away, but, I perfer to be married for about a year and the start trying, or If we change or minds we'll just start trying. But I would like to enjoy my marriage for about year..My brother and sister in law did that.

Why not if you are ready :) I love kids and cannot wait to have my own. We wanted to wait until we get married which is this July :) I will be almost 27 and FH will be almost 29. So I think it is a perfect age. We plan on trying on our honeymoon :)

Im gonna be going to law school about 3 months after we get married so we definitely cannot start right away. I guess this is something that you kind of realize when it is time. For example, we have been together for six years and one day we just decided that it was time to get married so he proposed and we started planning. I guess one day we will feel like we need to take the next step and form a family but we both first need to get our careers in line.

He wanted kids before the wedding =) I want to wait till we get our own place. It's not how long we want to wait... I just think we need to have a place for our kids before we have them. I would say unless you really really want kids now, I would say wait a year. take some time with just you two spending time together.

my husband and i have been married for almost a year now and we are now trying for our first kid. we have been trying since chirstmas with no success yet. but once we do have a kid . when that kid is in school we may try for a second it just depends.

I was married before and we waited till we were married, I was ready he wasnt. I had our daughter 2 years after we were married. We meaning I tried for 2 years and finaly got my baby. My future husband and I had a agreement years ago and we had our son three years ago.Now we are getting married, all I can say as long as you talk about when and are on the same page go for it.But if you wait till everything is just so....you will wait forever.Life changes

You need to decide what's right for you guys. No one can tell you if you are ready or not. I've talked about it with my FH. I LOVE kids and struggle with myself on when to have them (don't know how that will change my career). I do want to have my first before I'm 30. I will be about to turn 27 when I get married.

We've lived together for the last 3 years, we've been in the house we purchased together for 2 of those years. I don't mind starting soon after we get married, because we've been together long enough and both feel that the wedding isn't going to change much. We've had our time as a couple and are getting ready for the next steps of our life together.

kids are great and they really complete the family. my fiance and i moved in together when we got engaged in 2006 we wanted to wait until after the wedding to have kids but i got pregnant with my daughter in 2007 that really put a hold the whole affording a wedding thing. we decided on having two children and we wanted them to be really close in age so they would play together really well so i got pregnant with my son when my daughter was four months old. now we are done having babies and we are continuing with our wedding. so what i am trying to say is kids are great but make sure the two of you take the time to start your lives together first! good luck

My Fiance and I have decided that we will wait at least a year after the marriage. We ant to aleast enjoy each other before the babies come. I am 26 yrs and he is 29 yrs. So a year will give us a time to enjoy each other. We are planning on having 2 kids.

We wanted to start trying right away even considered stopping birth control a couple months before the wedding and winging it but I am afraid of starting my period on the big day or having some weird spotting so I am going to throw the b.c. away the day before and we'll be trying real hard... ;o) I am 25 (will be one month shy of 26 then and he will be 32) He just started a good job w/ the government so we'll have great benefits! Hooray! I always wanted to wait untill I had money saved and a house, but if you keep waiting for the right circumstances you may be waiting forever. I love him severly and we both look forward to being great parents and sharing our love with our children!! Untill 2 years ago I thought and was fully decided on NEVER having childrent hen I met the right man and I can't wait!

Hello and CONGRATULATIONS on your wedding! All of the previous comments are great! There is no right time to have your children. My wife and I married 3 years ago and we became pregnant 1 1/2 months after the wedding. Although our kids are our lives and we would never take them back, I will share a few things with you so you can decide accordingly. My daughter is 2 years 7 months old and my son is 1 year old. There are times that we stay up all night with one or sometimes both crying and not feeling well. (It is never the same as staying up all night as a married couple....:)!) When we leave the house, we travel, literally. Stroller, Diaper bag with all necessary items......diapers, lotion, wipes, ear drops, tylenol, thermometer, etc. in case we need them). In escence, kids are the BEST gift you can receive but be aware that it comes with the requirements of unconditional dedication, attention and love. Alone, romantic time will be lost to some degree! BEST WISHES!

I think it depends on your age and place in life... for example i'm going to be 22... I have time for kids... i want my husband for my self for a while :) . but the thing is we both really want kids so if we say in a year (less than a year of marriage) deceide we are ready then i won't be against it. in fact if we have an "accident" i won't care at all. gods will.

To be flat honest with you I was 7 months pregnant when I got married and our son came out a month and 2 days after we were wed:) My sister got pregnant 2 months after her wedding and her twin baby boys arrived this past Sunday (which from her wedding date they arrived 3 months before her 1 year Wedding Anniversary).

The thing with me and at least my husband understood that before I got married, I was looking not only for husband material but father material, since early Menopause runs in my family and my chances of not giving birth past 33 was extremely likely. Both my sister and I both became moms's at the age of 24, but that was completely by choice. At least my husband understood that my biological clock was ticking and I wanted kids of my own. We want 4 kids together, however right now we're enjoying our son still being little. We're waiting a little bit before we even try for baby #2.

i have to say that my comment was some what wrong it turns out that when that was post that we were pregnant we just didn't know it yet. b/c few weeks later we took a test and it was positive. i go to the doc the 21 of this month yay

If it was up to me, I would have a honeymoon baby. I have been baby crazy for ever. I have worked with infants and toddlers for the past 10 years and loved every part. I current nanny for 15 month old twin, and it just makes me want to have my own even more. However, I always wanted to wait at least a year before trying, which would really be like waiting 2 years for a baby, but my fiance and I have been together for 7 years already and lived together for the past 4 and honestly, I don't want to wait. But, I made a deal with him. The deal is we have to buy a home before we start our family. As much as I want to have a baby, I also want to bring our baby home to our very first home.

Thank You all so much for your answers i was just so curious as to if anyone else was as baby crazy as me haha! I have always known that i wanted kids and i want to be a young mother! We have already purchased our own home together and in June a month after the wedding we will have been living together for a year! We are going to try soon after the wedding! Both of us are super excited! 29 days until the wedding!