Is it ok to keep old picture/mementos etc from past relationships after marriage?
Do you think its ok to keep pictures or mementos etc that you may have collected over the years from past relationships after you're married? Let the controversy begin!

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Posted On: Apr 23, 2007 at 3:11 PM • Vendors are allowed • Add to My WatchlistFlag As Inappropriate2 likes

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Married: 10/02/2004
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Apr 23, 2007 at 3:39 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
I think it's alright, past relationships are in the past and your partner should not feel threatened if you keep old mementos . Just as long as their in an old shoe box , and not on your nightstand!

Married: 09/30/2006
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Apr 23, 2007 at 4:17 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
That depends, how long do you want your marriage to last?

Dawn G.

DLHG Photography
May 17, 2007 at 12:51 AM • Flag As Inappropriate
You had a life before your married life, and you (and your spouse) has every right to remember it. Those mementos and pictures tell the story of your life, and are part of what led you to your new spouse. Keep them in a photo album, hope chest, shoebox, journal, etc. The other poster is right, the nightstand is probably asking for trouble. ...and if those mementos are somewhat inappropriate (lingerie, etc), it's probably time for something like that to hit the road.

M. Gail Williams Coordinator

Simply Elegant Weddings
May 24, 2007 at 1:05 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
there is nothing wrong with it if your fiancee is ok with it. but if you have found the true love in your life, those mementos are not even necessary because your finance is all that you need want and desire. and when you get married it needs to have no ties to the past for either of you. it will be better if you don't give place for conflict in the marriage. ultimately the choice is yours. but if you love your fiancee then why chance it.

Married: 07/13/2007
May 25, 2007 at 6:31 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
I have thought about this also. The only thing is, I just have pictures, since the boyfriends I had before my finace was back in like middle school and early highschool. HAHAHA. I think that you both should talk about it. See how he feels. It all depends on what your both wanting to keep.
Jun 06, 2007 at 10:33 AM • Flag As Inappropriate
I think it's OK. I personally have pictures from my past that I feel were a part of what makes me, well, me. I don't think there is anything wrong with hanging on to a few momentos. :-)

Married: 07/29/2006
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Jul 11, 2007 at 4:25 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
I'm in the keep-it camp. That said, I think mementos should be kept in a way where they're safe, but not being constantly accessed. For instance, we both keep photos/mementos in boxes under the bed or in our backyard shed. Honestly, though, neither of us ever looks at these things at all. I'm not even tempted to, and when I happen across an old photo, it's really more of a reminder of a time in my life, rather than of an old boyfriend. My husband knows there is no man on earth that presents a threat to him, and I feel the same. But we both come with histories. In fact, even though we both have previous relationships that have ended (in some cases badly), I know that I am a product of my history and that he is a product of his. I think that the fact that he had these past relationships has helped make him into the man that I married. So, why be afraid of those memories? :)

Married: 06/07/2008
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Sep 09, 2007 at 4:51 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
Funny, as I was unpacking old photo albums, I asked myself the same question.

I think that if you aren't "taken" by photos or tokens from a past relationship, it's OK to keep them around if they are not put out on display. They are a part of your past, your life, and ultimately you - the woman he fell in love with.

That being said, be sensitive to your husband's feelings as well, and if they upset him - by all means, put them away in storage or get rid of them.

philschic
Married: 11/01/2008
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Oct 28, 2007 at 9:29 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
Well if you decide to keep them..then they need to be put away where no feelings get hurt. I found some old things here when I moved in and my fiance (we weren't engaged at the time) but he got rid of them...b/c he said they didn't mean anything to him. So just be wise and don't hurt anyone.

Married: 05/20/2007
Feb 24, 2008 at 12:56 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
i think you need to know where your spouse stands. if they are bothered by it then you need to take that into consideration and get rid of them. after all they are who you are with now. if they don't care then think about why you want to keep them. as long as there is no sentiment there, i don't see why not. i've kept some. not mementos because those are from a past relationship but pictures and i don't see a reason to keep something that was significant like that but pictures, especially if they involve other people, why not.
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