How to tell Dad I want to walk down the aisle alone
So I had decided awhile ago that I did not want my dad to walk me down the aisle. My parents are divorced, and my dad is remarried, but we aren't very close. I usually only see him at holidays and a couple other times throughout the year. I don't even talk to him very much because he doesn't call me back or seem to make much of an effort to make our relationship better despite my past attempts. Because of this, I just want to walk down the aisle by myself. However, I have a feeling that when it comes time to tell him this, my stepmom and him will flip out. Any suggestions on how to break it to him, or has anyone else been in this situation?

Married: 09/04/2010
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Posted On: Feb 16, 2010 at 10:26 PM • Vendors are allowed • Add to My WatchlistFlag As Inappropriate1 like

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Feb 16, 2010 at 10:31 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
We are in the same boat! My father has not really been there and I will feel terrible allowing him to have this moment when he doesn't deserve it. I want my brother to walk me down the isle! I do feel a tad guilty because I don't want to hurt him BUT I don't want to feel like a fraud on our day either and my brother has really been more of a dad to us in terms of emotional availability! We are getting married in the DR I doubt he will show up so that makes it easier but if he does...IDK how I will do it. So, I'm no help with the question but wanted you to know you're not alone!

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Feb 16, 2010 at 10:38 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
I want to walk down alone also. I'm sort of in the same situation, but our relationship has been alot better lately. However, he defied tradition when he kicked me out of the house (it is in my opinion that daughters should be allowed to live at home until either they go away to college or get married, and should be allowed to return home in the case of a divorce or job loss; this is just MY opinion, no one get mad, k), and also, he hasn't offered to pay for any of the wedding (another traditional custom), so why should he be able to take advantage of the tradition of walking me down the aisle (or in my case, up to the boat)? I am just going to break it to him if he asks, if he doesnt, I will just show him where he will be watching the ceremony from, kindly of course. He is my dad and I do love him, and will even share the tradition of father daughter dance with him.

Married: 09/26/2010
Feb 16, 2010 at 10:42 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
just tell him that you want to walk alone. Not that you guys are not close or anything(for the sake of his feelings) and that you look at walking own the aisle as an intimate moment between you and FH when you just gaze into each others eyes as you make your way to him.

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Feb 16, 2010 at 11:15 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
My daughter is in the same predicament...your story is very much the same. My daughters said "you can't give something away that you never owned". She asked me to walk her down the isle of which will be an honor. She is very close with my current husband and would like for both of us to walk her down the aisle however she does not want to hurt her fathers feelings. She will be splitting the father daughter dance in half to respect her father and honor her stepfather of which I think is a wonderful compromise however she hasn't informed her father of any of this yet!

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Feb 17, 2010 at 12:34 AM • Flag As Inappropriate
Leah, I like what you are saying. Why is it when these occasions take place people tend to act a little fake, sweeping the reality of situations under the rug. Good for you for standing up for yourself and walking alone! If anyone has a problem with it remind them that it is not about them. It is only about you and your FH, be true to you!

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Feb 17, 2010 at 11:33 AM • Flag As Inappropriate
If you "don't know how to tell him", then you're still worried about hurting his feelings. If this is really the case, then ask him. You won't regret it later in life. This is called "taking the high road". And, you're keeping the "door open" for the future.

If, on the other hand, you REALLY don't care, then just tell him he's only a guest, and let it go. He'll work it out by himself. But, keep in mind that you are "closing the door" forever.

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Feb 17, 2010 at 11:41 AM • Flag As Inappropriate
I had a similar issue, I wanted my stepdad not my real dad. I sat down and told my real dad, I also asked that my real dad give a speech at the wedding (to soften the blow). It didn't affect our relationship and he understood. I say communication is definitely the key. You could also make something up, like you think it's old fashioned and you're a "modern" bride and don't want any to give you away?
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