Guests that didn't give a gift
Our wedding was 9/12/09 and we had about 5 people who came to our wedding but did not give us a gift, not even a card! Did this happen to you? I don't expect something expensive, but at least a card or something. I feel somewhat mad at those "friends" who didn't bring something for us.

Married: 09/12/2009
Reviews: 8
Posted On: Sep 28, 2009 at 3:00 PM • Vendors are allowed • Add to My WatchlistFlag As Inappropriate1 like

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Shell
Married: 06/27/2009
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Sep 28, 2009 at 3:02 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
yep. and from some of out closest friends. thats just how it is tho. its lame to be mad, the shouldnt have to bring us a gift, but i kinda was annoyed. oh well it happens.

Married: 09/03/2010
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Sep 28, 2009 at 3:04 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
i dont think it would matter, as long as they are here to spend my day with me is all that counts. with the way the econ is i would be surprised to get anything lol

Married: 10/03/2009
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Sep 28, 2009 at 3:06 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
Times are tough, and I am thankful that people care enough just to take time off of work and drive out to be with us for the day (after all, that costs money). Gifts are nice, but not necessary. The gift of their friendship and time is more than enough.

Jessica
Married: 09/05/2009
Reviews: 6
Sep 28, 2009 at 3:07 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
I know what you mean. We had some. But we weren't too surprised by who some of them were because we know times are tough for some of them. I was a little shocked to not at least get a card though! And others, well, was a little shocked to not get anything, but then you feel bad for thinking like that. So, I just enjoy what we did get and are still getting from others. However, do you still have to send a thank you to those that didn't even give a card????

Married: 09/12/2009
Reviews: 8
Sep 28, 2009 at 3:07 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
I am more annoyed than mad. And somewhat hurt. One who didn't give was my best friend's Mom whom I've known for 14 years. I gurantee when my friend gets married that my Mom will get her an awesome gift. I think you need to bring something no matter what. Make a card if you have to! :o)

Married: 06/12/2010
Reviews: 5
Sep 28, 2009 at 3:13 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
I understand your feeling completely, and I know I'll share the sentiment as well when my big day comes, but it's REALLY expensive to get to weddings nowadays, and then you have to have clothes, maybe even hotel accommodations. Some people can put out upwards of $300 just to show up - not including a gift. Yes, I agree at least a card, but some people don't see it that way. It's still annoying!

Jessica
Married: 09/05/2009
Reviews: 6
Sep 28, 2009 at 3:14 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
That one guest I can really understand! Wow! Even if I can't make the wedding I still send a gift. Oh well.

Married: 09/12/2009
Reviews: 8
Sep 28, 2009 at 3:16 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
Also, this was a $30,000 wedding. All of our guests were from in town. So nobody had to spend much to get there. You came to a beautiful wedding, bring something! Thanks for all your advice!

Married: 06/12/2010
Reviews: 5
Sep 28, 2009 at 3:18 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
It shouldn't even matter how much you spend on the wedding. That doesn't justify it or un-justify it. It's just good etiquette to at least bring a card.

JulyBride
Married: 07/25/2009
Reviews: 5
Sep 28, 2009 at 3:20 PM • 
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Married: 09/03/2010
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Sep 28, 2009 at 3:24 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
like i said i would just be greatful that they took the time to come and share that special day with you. thats all id ask for

Married: 09/12/2009
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Sep 28, 2009 at 3:24 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
We didnt get gifts from a bunch of people. I kind of wonder if something happened to the gift rather than people not bringing one. I personally would never shower up to a wedding without a gift but I really dont care either way, it was more important to me to have the people I love there with us to share our big day than a gift...

Married: 09/12/2009
Reviews: 6
Sep 28, 2009 at 3:25 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
Wow... shower up... ahaha I meant SHOW up.

On another note we got SO much from the people at our wedding we really didnt notice not getting things... I mean obviously we NOTICED but I guess it just didnt matter as much.

Unique
Married: 02/11/2010
Sep 28, 2009 at 4:05 PM • 
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Married: 01/17/2010
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Sep 28, 2009 at 4:12 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
I'd say it's poor form to show up completely empty handed to a wedding. Even if you can't afford a gift I think a card is the least you could do. I know times are tough but really, how long did the people know about the wedding and still can't afford $3 for a card.

Rondo String Quartet

Rondo String Quartet
Sep 28, 2009 at 4:15 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
You may still get gifts. There is a certain time frame that a wedding gift is still appropriate. It may even be a couple of months. If not, just send a 'thank-you for helping us celebrate our special day' card and be done with it. :)

JulyBride
Married: 07/25/2009
Reviews: 5
Sep 28, 2009 at 4:21 PM • 
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Married: 11/14/2009
Sep 28, 2009 at 4:29 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
I TOTALLY AGREE WITH KONICHIWA. ESPECIALLY IF THE WEDDING IS LOCAL AND NOONE IS TRAVELING. IT DOSNT MATTER IF ITS A SMALL GIFT BUT ITS THE THOUGHT THAT COUNTS. I PERSONALLY WOULDNT SHOW UP AT A WEDDING WITHOUT A GIFT. THATS JUST MY THOUGHT AND I COMPLETELY UNDERSTAND HOW U FEEL.

Adriana
Married: 09/19/2009
Reviews: 11
Sep 28, 2009 at 4:49 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
We got a lot of gifts but a lot people also didnt give gifts. I would be embaressed to show up to a party with out a gift.

Married: 12/28/2009
Reviews: 9
Sep 28, 2009 at 4:57 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
It's actually better etiquette to not bring something to the wedding because then the bride and groom have to get it all safely back to their home sometime after the wedding and before they leave on the honeymoon. The better thing to do is to send a gift to their home (whatever address the RSVP says) before the wedding or within a few weeks after the wedding. How long after the wedding is debatable depending on which places you look but personally I think a month should be the max. I know it sounds a little weird since it seems everyone brings a gift to the wedding, but when I was researching various etiquette stuff for a women's tea party this made sense.
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