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Aaaaagh! That's me going crazy. My guest list has grown from 80 to 120. Is it wrong to invite only some of my co-workers...the ones I like? I have 2 negative co-workers I'd rather not deal with on such a happy day. I feel on my day I shouldn't have to see mean and rude people. I also have no intentions on hurting anyones feelings regardless of how they have treated me. Keep in mind I have to work with these people 5 days a week. My lovely groom said he is not paying for a chance for me to be unhappy on our wedding day. Thanking you all in advance for your help!!!!

Shaunya

Married: 12/11/2010

Posted On: Oct 26, 2008 at 4:49 PM | Vendors are allowed | Add to My Watchlist | Flag As Inappropriate

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ana c.

Married: 08/11/2009

Posted On: Oct 26, 2008 at 5:56 PM
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nickel05

Married: 03/21/2009

Posted On: Oct 27, 2008 at 12:17 AM \| Flag As Inappropriate
I would not invite anyone that you do not feel comfortable around and that you do not like even if you have to work with them through the week. They should not even expect to be invited unless you are close. Hope this helps!

Micki N.

Dream Weddings

Posted On: Oct 27, 2008 at 12:49 AM \| Flag As Inappropriate
A great way to manage your guest list is to think about whether you would invite these people to your home for dinner on a Saturday night. If the answer is NO, then they are off the list. Chances are they would probably answer the same question about you so please do not worry about who to include and who to leave out. This is one of the most important days of your life and should be yours to enjoy!

Sarah M.

Married: 05/16/2009
Reviews: 10

Posted On: Oct 27, 2008 at 1:12 PM \| Flag As Inappropriate
My guest list is small too but remember that people do say no. I only invited people that I know were important in my life and had some impact on our relationship. Immediate family and close, close friends only. I am inviting my bosses but not my other coworkers because I just can't afford it. Don't invite those other coworkers, if they get pissed oh well. Remember you are not only inviting them to share in your big day but you are paying a pretty penny for them to enjoy themselves.

evergeneva

Married: 09/06/2009
Reviews: 7

Posted On: Oct 27, 2008 at 1:37 PM \| Flag As Inappropriate
I feel your pain, my guest list went from 60 to 80 to 99... I work in an office with about 30 people, and I am only inviting 3 co-workers and our boss (and all of their partners, who I have spent time with and like) to my wedding. To avoid any animosity from the uninvited co-workers, I had a conversation about it with the folks I am inviting and we all agreed not to really talk about my wedding in the office. I'm pretty sure that the folks I am not inviting do NOT expect to be invited, but just to be safe, I don't really mention my wedding and when it comes up I'll say things like "we're having a small wedding with close friends and family." You have to do what is right for you and don't feel pressured to invite folks you don't want there in the first place just because you think you have to. Good luck!

Dallas C.

Married: 11/01/2008
Reviews: 6

Posted On: Oct 27, 2008 at 9:40 PM \| Flag As Inappropriate
first off, calm down, you still have a YEAR!!.. we invited like 125 people but when push came to shove only half of those are actually coming... just because you invite someone doesn't mean they will come. only invite the people you want there, its your wedding.. no one else's. just relax, you're ok :-)

L. D.

{stellar.sassy.social} Wedding*Belles

Posted On: Oct 29, 2008 at 2:56 PM \| Flag As Inappropriate
Congrats!... Co-worker or otherwise, invite only those that will take part in making YOUR special day one to remember. No negative energy allowed.

Gabbi Grace

Gabbi Grace Events

Posted On: Oct 30, 2008 at 5:39 PM \| Flag As Inappropriate
Congratulations on your up-coming wedding!!!A wedding is a very special occassion that should be shared with the couple's closest friends and families you are not obligated to invite someone just because they work with you keep in mind you are paying for these people to attend (invitations,programs,favors,dinner,etc.) so if you would not normally spend at least $100.00 on these people any other time I would not spend this type of money on them on my wedding day I would reserve that for people that are closest to the couple.

11709

Married: 11/07/2009
Reviews: 5

Posted On: Nov 02, 2008 at 5:18 PM \| Flag As Inappropriate
I can understand the not wanting to hurt people's feelings issue. If your work is small enough so people there know who you are closer too, then it should be fine. If other people ask about it, just explain that it is going to be a pretty small affair. I always emphasize the point when people talk to me about it that we are keeping it very small b/c of the location and costs and keeping it under a certain number is tough. I think most people will be pretty understanding.

Keyna's special day

Wedding: 10/05/2013

Posted On: Nov 07, 2008 at 9:17 PM \| Flag As Inappropriate
I agree with everyone else first of Congrats second and mostly I have people in my office I will not be inviting to my wedding even if they ask to come any unnecessary negativity I would not want around and its your day and your choice. Again you have people you will invite and wont show up so you can keep them on stand by if you choose but you invite who you want to share your day with

Julie AZ

Married: 04/11/2009
Reviews: 5

Posted On: Nov 18, 2008 at 9:21 PM \| Flag As Inappropriate

Julie AZ

Married: 04/11/2009
Reviews: 5

Posted On: Nov 18, 2008 at 9:23 PM \| Flag As Inappropriate
I have my own small business and i am in the same boat about my clients. i am only going to invite a couple of the big-wigs that actually make the decision to hire me. But, I also work mostly with them. If I'm paying over $140/person to be there, they have to be important to me! And my fiance!

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