For the people who didn't know the correct way to ask for money Instead of a gift.
Wishing Well Poems:

A lot of couples have already set up their home when they decide to get married, so a gift registry for household items is not always ideal. For this reason some couples choose to have a wishing well at their wedding so that guests can give a cash gift instead. This is also great for couples who live overseas, or who are planning to travel after the wedding - it isn't always possible to carry all the gifts around the world. Asking people for money can be awkward, so wishing well poems offer a less direct (and also more fun) way of phrasing this. Over the years we've come across a few poems and these are shown below. Some are a bit more direct than others, but feel free to mix and match the poems, or use part of one of them if you prefer. Another option is to work the word "vouchers" in there instead of cash.

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Dec 19, 2010 at 5:27 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
More than kisses so far we've shared,
our home has been made with Love and Care,
most things we need we've already got,
and in our home we can't fit a lot!

A wishing well we thought would be great,
(but only if you wish to participate).
A gift of money is placed in the well,
then make a wish… but shhh don't tell!

While enjoying our honeymoon we'll feel brand new,
we can look back and say it was all thanks to you!
And in return for your kindness, we're so sure,
that one day soon you will get what you wished for.

We don't want to offend but we have it all,
all household goods and so much more.
To save you shopping, sit back and rest,
a gift of currency is our request.

Don't go overboard and rob any banks
any little thing will make us smile with thanks.
We'll supply the wishing well,
just add the envelope and who can tell.

Now that we've saved you all the fuss,
we'd love for you to come and celebrate with us.

To save you looking, shopping, or buying
here is an idea, we hope you like trying -
in lieu of gifts we have a great deal,
pay for your dinner at $... a meal.
Please don't be offended at this type of request,
as our day will be complete having you as our guest.

We are trying to grow a money tree
A difficult task you would agree
But it's something that we really need
Perhaps you would care to plant a seed.

Soon you will hear our wedding bell
As friends and family wish us well.
Our household thoughts are not brand new,
We have twice the things we need for two.

Since we have our share of dishes and bedding
we're having instead a wishing well wedding.
So instead of hunting for that special dish
a well is supplied for a monetary wish.

But more important we ask of you,
Your prayers of love and blessings too!

We've been together for many years now
and at last we've decided to make that big vow.
Our worldly possessions they do us just fine
so our wedding gift list is only one line.

A present of travel is all we require
to grant us the honeymoon we both desire.
When you are with us to share our big day,
a wishing well we will have there on display.

Donate to our travels, that would be great,
but only if you wish to participate.

Because at first we lived in sin
we've got the sheets and a rubbish bin.
A gift from you would be swell
how about a donation to our wishing well

On the road to married life
we've collected all we need to be husband and wife.
The honeymoon, however, is another thing
we had to choose between it and the diamond ring.
So your donation will be appreciated in every way
as it will help send us on a romantic holiday.

We made the commitment some time ago
that together through life we were destined to go,
we purchased our furniture, linen and bedding,
in the fulfilling years leading up to our wedding.

We are blessed to have you with us
when all our dreams come true,
so please know that 'presence' over 'presents'
will certainly do.

If we are honoured with a gift from you
along with wishing us well,
you can pop a little monetary token
into to our wedding wishing well.

They have their dishes and towels for two
they have pots and pans and oven mitts too.
So what do you get for the Bride & Groom
whose house is setup in every room?

Their house needs repairs and some upgrades too
But you cannot register for carpet and glue.
If you were thinking of giving a gift,
to help us on our way.
a gift of cash towards our house,
would really make our day.

However, if you prefer to purchase a gift,
feel free to surprise us in your own way.

Whilst in a foreign land,
(Brides Name) had many adventures grand,
none of which could ever compare,
to the wonderful love
that she and (Grooms Name) share.
The couple will marry
whilst traveling once more,
and her family shall come to foreign shore.
(Bride) and (Groom) have considered the options,
as guests bearing gifts,
will come to considerable exertions.
And the airline restrictions will also apply,
to the bride and the groom when home they must fly.
In the place of a gift with traditional style,
a paper gift would bring many a smile.
A gift of paper has many a meaning,
it may be cash,
or a voucher for their favourite store,
the promise of a special favour,
Whenst the couple return
to settle into their lives
as husband and wife.
Many thanks for your consideration,
in receiving this request,
as surely you will realise
it's definitely for the best.

So what do you get for the bride and groom
whose house needs things in every room?
When shopping for a present please don't be rash
as there is always the option to just give cash!
We hope you don't find our request to be funny
but we really would appreciate a gift of money.

We've been together for a few years now
we have pots and pans and linen and towels,
we have glasses and toasters, really quite a few
so instead of more gifts, we suggest this to you.

If it doesn't offend and it won't send you running
what we would really appreciate is quite simply money.
We know choosing gifts can be such a pain
And this way there is no chance of bringing the same.

We made a commitment some time ago
that together through life we were destined to go.
We purchased our furniture, linen and bedding,
in the fulfilling years leading up to our wedding.
What else we might need is not easy to foresee,
But we will be blessed by your gift on our money tree.

Now we are to be Mr & Mrs
we don't need a wedding list of dishes
we have two kettles, two toasters, two microwaves
we require a house for which we have to save.

If you would like to give us a gift,
a cheque or vouchers would give us a lift
we like to think of it as our 'wishing well'
which will be filled with your love, we can tell.

To save you looking, shopping or buying
here is an idea, we hope you like trying!
Come to our wedding, to wish us both well
and make some use of our little wishing well.

Just put some money into a card,
now make a wish...see that wasn't hard!
Now that we have saved you, all that fuss
we hope you will come, and celebrate with us.

Please don't be offended at this type of request,
as our day will be complete having you as our guest.

Our home is quite complete - we've been together long,
so please consider our request and do not take us wrong.
A delicate request it is, we hope you understand,
please play along as it will give our married life a hand.

The tradition of the wishing well is one that's known by all,
go to the well, toss in a coin and as the coin does fall
make a wish upon that coin and careful as you do
as the well's tradition goes, your wishes will come true.

So on this special day of ours, the day that we'll be wed.
Don't hunt for special gifts but give money instead.
As you drop the envelope with money great and small,
Remember make a wish as you watch the money fall.

Alas! Friends and family, in sin we've been living
and if you're not yet sure what you plan on giving
we have dozens of towels and a toaster or two
plenty of cutlery and glassware too.

Some memories to last forever
is what these newlyweds will truly treasure.
We dream of visiting faraway lands
so come to you all, begging bowl in hand!

The gift we require needs no wrapping or tags
but we hope it will help us to pack our bags
and fly away on our first trip together
a honeymoon to remember forever.

Unique
Married: 02/11/2010
Dec 19, 2010 at 6:01 PM • 
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Sharon
Married: 06/04/2010
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Dec 19, 2010 at 6:03 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
@Unique - i think it's a bunch of different poems. Poem or not, I still don't like the idea of asking for money in any way.

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Dec 19, 2010 at 6:08 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
Yea they are different poems. I know I would not ask for any money, but there was some pple who did not know the correct way on how to ask.

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Dec 19, 2010 at 6:12 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
I'm a very laid back person... but if I received an invite with any of these poems, I'd be slightly offended. I think it's better to have the bridal party or even family members spread it by word-of-mouth. Or better yet just put a few things you do need on your registry. If you keep the list small, people will understand without having to be told.

FH and I have a full house and have been living together for quite some time, but you can never have enough linens and you can always replace those old small appliances with newer ones.

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Dec 19, 2010 at 7:25 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
I'm not comfortable even asking for gifts & I'm not even expecting them, I wouldn't be able to do it in any way. I do however believe that the best way to not ask for gifts is to not have a registry or a bridal shower of any kind and everyone will get the idea. My brother was moving to another state so they didn't do either & they didn't ask anyway for money in any way. When they were asked where are u register or when's the shower? They simply responded that they didn't register & there won't be a shower, they didn't even go into detail as to why unless they were asked. At the reception, everyone who chose to, brought gift cards & cash. I still believe that word of mouth & your reason behind it is the best way but to each his/her own.

Unique
Married: 02/11/2010
Dec 19, 2010 at 7:35 PM • 
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Married: 07/24/2010
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Dec 19, 2010 at 7:39 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
I am with Sharon on this one. I do not like the idea of anyone asking for money as a gift (for any reason).


Heck, I want cash for Christmas this year, as I am putting my home back together after the neighborhood fire. Insurance doesn't cover everything, nor upgrades. But I am not asking anyone for anything. I will wait and see...and keep my fingers crossed. LOL!

Shannon S.
Married: 2+ years ago
Dec 19, 2010 at 7:47 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
I'm not sure when it became fashionable to use a cutesy poem to get around awkward wedding-related conversations. They make me cringe, honestly. If this spreads to non-wedding situations, things will get weird:


We know you're a good worker
So this is a tearjerker
Funding's been cut,
So you're out on your butt
No time to cry, whine or scoff
Congrats, you've been laid off!

2d Bride ®
Married: 10/06/2009
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Dec 19, 2010 at 8:43 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
The real answer is, there is no correct way to ask for money instead of a gift, because that is something you are not supposed to be doing at all.

Mrs. Endres
Married: 12/16/2012
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Dec 19, 2010 at 8:53 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
I would ask for money and wouldnt be offended.....i didnt fiind the poems offensive

Married: 07/24/2010
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Dec 19, 2010 at 8:56 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
@Shannon S. That is priceless. Unless, of course, you are the one receiving that poem.


When I was in college, there was a sign that said "We have no idea what we would do without you. But, starting Monday morning, we are going to try."

Married: 2+ years ago
Dec 19, 2010 at 8:58 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
I don't think its something you are or aren't supposed to be doing. And it depends on who you are inviting. Some people prefer to give money or gift cards instead of gifts. (my family is like this. - because we are all just a bunch of hard buys).


There is no harm in asking for help where you need it most. (Hence the Dollar Dance?) I mean, if this is something you are "supposed" to be doing... why is the dollar dance such a big tradition for weddings?


I don't know what FH and I would do, because we do have what we need. Just my two cents though.

Married: 2+ years ago
Dec 19, 2010 at 9:02 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
that was supposed to say "aren't doing" when I was referring to the dollar dance.

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Dec 19, 2010 at 9:04 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
The dollar dance seems to be a regional thing. I have never been to a wedding (on the west coast) where this was done.

Married: 2+ years ago
Dec 19, 2010 at 9:05 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
@Kathy - Quite possibly. =)

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Dec 19, 2010 at 9:07 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
What is the dollar dance? I've never heard of it

Michele
Married: 06/11/2011
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Dec 19, 2010 at 9:09 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
I think that you should not ask for money..if you don't register anywhere I think people are more likely to give money. I thought about it and spoke to several different people about it and they all said the same thing, that it is rude and tacky. I think people are going to give you money anyway even if you don't ask for it.

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Dec 19, 2010 at 9:10 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
People have a right to ask what they want. And for the ones who do ask kudos for them. Who are we to say there isn't a correct way to ask for a monetary gift??

What people are suppose to be doing is planning their wedding there way! It is 2010

Michele
Married: 06/11/2011
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Dec 19, 2010 at 9:12 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
Dollar dance (thumbs up)
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