Dumped two weeks before the wedding!

Help! One of my best friends/bridesmaids just got dumped by her groom and their wedding was in two weeks. I am trying to do anything I can to help her through this. But if there are any ideas please let me know. I am flying to be with her still the weekend of what would have been the wedding. But I feel like I should do more. I am just so upset for her and I can't believe she is going through this. She is probably the sweetest person I know and she wouldn't hurt anyone. Any ideas would be great.

Posted On: Jul 3, 2009 at 9:17 PM | Vendors are allowed to participate

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Angela B.
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Jennifer W.
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Posted On: Jul 03, 2009 at 9:29 PM | Flag As Inappropriate
That is so sad. I think just being there with her is going to be a great help to her.She'll need someone to talk to and it's probablt best that she's not alone.Good luck with that.

wowjunkie
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Posted On: Jul 03, 2009 at 9:35 PM | Flag As Inappropriate
Probably the best thing you can do for her right now would be to call her vendors and try to find out if you can get the money back. Or, try to bank it all for a later event and then have a family reunion. The next course of action is calling everyone on the guest list and telling them that the wedding is off. This is definitely something you will want to spare your friend, and it needs to be done as quickly as possible so people can make other arrangements.

Angela B.
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Posted On: Jul 03, 2009 at 9:39 PM | Flag As Inappropriate
Is kicking the Ex-grooms butt an option? Cause it is very tempting. I just can't believe she's going through this.

Laura K.
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Posted On: Jul 03, 2009 at 11:13 PM | Flag As Inappropriate
if she's any kind of fan bring "Sex and the City movie" for you all to watch together and drink. It could make her laugh and feel better to see someone else go thru exactly what she's going thru. Or you could just watch it before hand to get some tips on how her friends do such a great job nursing her through the pain. It's about being there to listen, not to tell her how it is. And anything she's feeling is ok to feel, and remind her that not matter what, the pain WILL end one day. Think of her favorite chocolate treat you could bring her or some silly memory of your friendship that would cheer her up, like a stuffed animal you won together at a carnival. Just let her know she is cared for and she is special. Just that you are flying out to be with her will mean the world to her. You're doing great

Laura K.
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Posted On: Jul 03, 2009 at 11:17 PM | Flag As Inappropriate
be careful not to bash on him TOO hard, it might make her feel defensive of him and we don't want that! Plus it makes her feel even more stupid for being with someone so horrible. SO do more listening and letting her guide you. I she is saying he did something horrible you just say "yes he did so we're happy that you'll never have to deal with that again now" If she says how wonerful he was with something just say "yes he did have his good moments and in his heart he loved you but he just wasn't capable of loving you the way you deserve to be" breakups SUCK no matter what!

Carmen M.
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Posted On: Jul 03, 2009 at 11:19 PM | Flag As Inappropriate
Hi Angela,
My sister's ex-fiancee called off the wedding two months before the big day. The invitations had just gone out. I agree with all of the above mentioned. She'll need someone's shoulder to cry on as well as someone who will make all the difficult calls to the guests. My mom took care of that for my sister. I'm sure that your friend would appreciate you contacting the vendors. If at all possible, plan out what you guys will be doing on what would have been her wedding day. Even if it's just sitting at home with a tub of ice cream and a bunch of movies, anything just to get her mind off the wedding. AND...remind her that everything happens for a reason. I've been married for 18 years. We've been through A LOT. She will want someone at her side who will be there for her no matter how rough things get. Obviously, he's not the man for her. Her prince charming is out there. This too shall pass, but it is something that will take time. Be patient with her. I wish you luck!

Carmen M.
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Posted On: Jul 04, 2009 at 12:14 AM | Flag As Inappropriate
By the way. My sister is now happily married to a great guy, and they have a beautiful one year old daughter.
Again, best of luck.
Carmen

kbwilli1
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Married: 07/16/2009
Posted On: Jul 04, 2009 at 4:57 AM | Flag As Inappropriate
this happened to my best friend, but it was about a month before the wedding. Me, another friend, and her sister all took her to CA on the weekend of the supposed to be wedding and laid on the beach all day. Whatever you do, don't let her sit around at home on the day she was supposed to be getting married. Get her outta town if at all possible!

Libragurl
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Posted On: Jul 04, 2009 at 5:27 PM | Flag As Inappropriate
OMG! My heart breaks for her....she is lucky to have you. I agree with all the other posters on here...I would also add that we want to sometimes just feel like you are doing something....you are....you will be there and for some, that is enough she may just want you to listen. Again, I'm so sorry.
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