Dont know what to do?? HELP!!!

So I have 9 months to my wedding! I feel like time is flying by and July 31st will be here before I know it. I have picked 1 maid of honor and 4 bridesmaids. I love them all BUT one of my girl is not working with me! She was the second girl I ask and she accepted and was very happy for us! I have been trying to talk to her about the wedding for over three weeks now. I text her and call her all the time but WHEN she dose answer she never wants to talk wedding! I have people begging me to be in the wedding and are helping so much! WHAT DO I DO??? I don't want to sound like bridazilla, but I am sad that she is not there for me how I would be for her!!! Any advice??

Posted On: Nov 4, 2009 at 1:23 PM

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Comeaux824
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Soon2BeWifey
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Posted On: Nov 04, 2009 at 1:41 PM | Flag As Inappropriate
I would just ask her straight out like "hey, seems like you don't want to be in the wedding anymore, which is fine, not a problem, but I just need to know if you're still in or not." Or something like that ;) There's really no way around it.

Traci A.
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Posted On: Nov 04, 2009 at 1:42 PM | Flag As Inappropriate
When I was a MOH back in May for one of my best friends it was hard. The only time she called me or text me was to tell me something wedding. There was no friendship anymore. She only wanted to brag about her wedding and when she would ask for my openion I would give it to her but she would never use any of my ideas. Make sure there is still a friendship with her (not just all wedding talk) if in a few months there are no changes and you are sick of trying, ask somebody else. She could be jelous of you. I know I kinda was with my friend.

Konichiwa
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Posted On: Nov 04, 2009 at 1:45 PM | Flag As Inappropriate
Just sit her down and talk to her. Maybe she's got other stuff going on right now and just needs someone to listen. Find out what's going on and if there is anything you can do to help. Like Traci said, she may feel like you don't have an interest in the friendship anymore and are only thinking about the wedding (Not hard to do! It's easy to get caught up in the details!)

Dan's Future Wife
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Posted On: Nov 09, 2009 at 1:01 AM | Flag As Inappropriate
ok.. beetween these comments which are all good. you can mix it up. Built your friendship(if it was there) there may be somehting in her life happening. Then nicely could ask

T.F.
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Posted On: Nov 09, 2009 at 6:23 AM | Flag As Inappropriate
Have you tried talking to her about non wedding stuff? I agree with Dan's Future Wife that there may be something else going on. What is she doing that is that is so bad aside from being a bit standoffish when it comes to the wedding?

Marcelle
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Wedding: 06/25/2010
Posted On: Nov 09, 2009 at 10:45 PM | Flag As Inappropriate
I agree with the ladies! Try talking with her about 'friend' stuff. I've learned that not because my wedding is all that I think about means that everyone else is on the same page. Lol ... good luck!

JJ
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Posted On: Nov 09, 2009 at 10:52 PM | Flag As Inappropriate
oh i'm sure she is having her own problems that she is dealing with---maybe a crazy personal life and she just can't get into the discussion of talking about a wedding, even yours. see what is going on. ask her directly and see what she says. ppl may surprise you on your wedding day....the only thing is that you need to let her know that you are disappointed and hurt by her disinterest.
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