do any of your friends have wedding envy?

A co-worker recently got engaged. Before she did, she would always make comments about how we didn't date long before we got engaged and that may cause problems. Now that she is engaged, she asked had I set the date. I told her we set the date for May 16 2015. On Monday, everyone in the office received a Save-The-Date (100 employees all with a plus 1) for her wedding on May 16! When I saw her later that day, she asked if I received mine. I said, "Yes. They're very nice." We discussed her guest list (according to her 450) She then asked if we would be able to attend. I told her, "As of right now, we're wide open." She looked really puzzled. As I walked away, I said, "I can't wait for your celebration." I walked away laughing to myself.

I don't know if this is exactly what you had in mind with this forum topic, but I think it goes. I had a friend I planned to ask to be a bridesmaid. Shortly after I got engaged I had dinner planned with some of my closest girlfriends, but she was over an hour late because she stayed at the office chit chatting with a coworker. Then, by the time she showed up she avoided talking about wedding plans to the point where she deliberately changed the subject once or twice. Since then she's bailed at the last minute on multiple occasions, which is something she didn't used to do. The only explanation mutual friends, FH and I have is that she's jealous or envious because she's been with her boyfriend for years without hint of an engagement. It just makes me sad now. I was so excited to have her as part of my wedding.

I actually have a very good friend that started wearing a flashy diamond ring right after I got engaged and all my girls friends made a huge to-do over my ring (as is normal-and I love them for it). I had lunch with my friend the following Friday and asked about her ring...she said "Oh, I wear this all the time". I have known her for like 15 years and she has NEVER worn that ring-ever! My friends all say she is jealous. I guess that is some sort of wedding envy.

It sounds super self absorbed but, that's the only logical explanation that I can come up with. WEDDING ENVY !!

Bitches be hatin' lol

Definitely. I sent out my STD's and a friend's gf said "That's what I was going to do!" and other things like such. That was when I decided to make all my Pinterest boards private and not give away too many details. I hate that your friends aren't acting like they're excited.

BunnyLove, that's ridiculous! Thank goodness you didn't tell her the real date!

I'm getting wedding envy from my sister, she's been married for a little over a year and didn't have the big wedding nor did she wear a wedding gown all she had was a pastor to marry them and then a little dinner with family afterwards. Now my wedding is the total opposite there will be 200 ppl attending, a dj, photographer, 2 videographers, and much more. Sometimes she tries to talk me out of doing certain things at the wedding and when we went dress shopping (me,her our mom and other sister) she had an attitude the whole time and then felt bad afterwards because she said we wouldn't be able to get that moment back since I found the gown. We're only a year apart so we're really close and she's my matron of honor so it bothers me when she behaves like that but at the same time I try sympathize with her because she didn't experience all of this. My mom told me that I can't worry about that because she chose to have that kind of wedding so I shouldn't feel bad if she's jealous of mine

Yes! A lot of co-workers made snippy comments like, "Why is your ring bigger than mine?" By the way, I'm not joking when I'm saying that question above LOL!

Then, I have a friend who I've been friends with forever. She makes snippy comments all of the time regarding my wedding or anything to do with the wedding. People are insane!

I never understood why some women cannot find it in them to be happy for another woman.

Monica, I know! But the best part is she's stuck with that date. From what I've over heard, so I don't know how true it is, she paid $1500 for her Save-The-Dates. And that does not include postage. I ain't one to gossip, so you didn't hear that from me. (From anyone who remembers In Living Color)

FMIL made comments about my placeholder ring (my e-ring was my mother's, we wanted it valued and insured before I wore it anywhere I might lose it) being bigger than hers (825 silver and a created sapphire. her's was white gold and diamond). She also snapped at FH while he was describing my dress ideas to his sister - apparently he's not supposed to know anything about the dress even though the designs will be completely different to how it looks on.

I'm notching it up to wedding envy because the alternative is she's LOOKING for reasons to get uppity.

Wow. Y'all know some rude people.

Yup pretty sure one does

I can admit to having it. Fh and I are engaged, been together for almost 6 and living together for 5. We still have not set a date as we want the money in the bank first and have other things we want more. For the longest time I disliked attending weddings because it allows felt like when is my time? Never was mean towards the couple, but yes I was kealous

I agree with Leanne, I've definitely had it. We were together 5 years before we got engaged (in college for most of is, so it wasn't unexpected that we weren't engaged) but every time someone got engaged I was secretly jealous. I wished it was me so I asked a ton of questions because I wanted to be a part of it.

Now that I'm engaged, I haven't really experienced any outright jealousy. I think my sister is a little jealous because she is recently separated from her husband and they had a JOP wedding (not what she wanted). She hasn't been mean, distant, or vicious though, so I'm lucky.

We do. One of our couple friends just got married two years ago. Pretty much everything that could go wrong did. We're talking snow in May for an outdoor wedding, to missing flowers, flaky caterer, and a majority of the bridal party went MIA after the ceremony. They're both in our wedding now since we've been close to them for years. She's made comments before about how it's slightly unfair that we're having her be in our wedding when we know what happened to her wedding, and how about we are trying to spend too much money (FH was furious, we're paying for the 15-20K ourselves so it's no ones concern, they were the ones who didn't save up for their wedding and had to use whatever their parents would gift to them to pay for everything). As of a few weeks ago they've decided that since they didn't get the wedding they wanted they would be having a vow renewal the month before our wedding and would like us both to stand with them. While we're more than happy to do so it seems like this is all being brought on by the fact that we're getting married.

Nope. My friends are all married. I'm the first to have a second marriage! Yeah! Trailblazer!

That sounds super self absorbed just because your friend wants to get engaged or they don't like your wedding ideas.

One of my bridesmaids actually.

She has been with her boyfriend longer and they just moved in together not too long ago. When FH and I moved in together, (before them), she gave me the cold shoulder. When FH proposed, she seemed happy, but there was still something there, (wants her bf to get on that shit).

I NEVER talk wedding stuff to her unless she would ask first, (because I know its a touchy subject and I dont want to upset her), and she does ask pretty often, (so, hey, I'm in the clear right?).

Well, she got drunk the other night and went on about how jealous she is and she hates it when we talk wedding stuff. NEWS TO ME DAMNIT!

I love the girl, shes great, (been a spectacular bridesmaid). Just gets a tad jealous sometimes.

I have one friend in particular that i just do not know what to do with. i don't know that she's jealous per se, but good lord. it's gotten to the point that i don't talk about the wedding at all with her or her partner and we have both stopped really hanging out with them because the conversations get really awkward fast (which is horrible because my FH is really good friends with hers but... seriously. even FH is not amused)

and it makes me sad because I have pretty much no one to talk about these things with. Which is why I'm here with all you crazy ladies.

FH is convinced that my BM with a bad attitude has envy.. not so much wedding envy as relationship envy. She has a history of shitty relationships.