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I agree, maybe if theirs wedding was after yours but I'm with you no way would I let someone family or not use my decorations before me, not only might they get ruined but then everyone has already seen them and when they get to your wedding it just wouldn't be the same.

I have two cousins, their actually brother and sister, and they are both getting married around the same time (not to each other) as me I'm not sure when exactly but my grandma had to tell them more then once when my date was and that they can't have the same date because it wouldn't be right.

I would suggest to your cousin to check out craigslist.org and look for decorations on there, they will find a lot of stuff for cheap and just explain as nicely as you can that you would rather not lend yours out before your wedding.

oh i explained as nicely as i possibly could lol ok maybe it wasn't nicely... it was more like "HELL NO! GO BUY YOUR OWN, YOU HAVE MORE MONEY THEN I DO. YOU NEVER ONCE HELPED ME SO WHY SHOULD I CONTINUE TO HELP YOU?!" and a few choice words were thrown in there too. (i don't have respect or nice feelings toward people who treat me like dirt and then have the nerve to tell me when my pap died that i didn't take good enough care of him and that my gram belongs in a nursing home. i'm sorry i gave up my last bit of childhood to take care of our pap while he was out boozing it up and getting stoned.) sorrry... still mad about all that stuff.

Understandable, in that case I think you did the right thing!

thanks but i sorta feel like i should have said sorry. but at the same time he's the older one i should be the immature one not him! lol that just proves that girls do mature faster... (although i don't know what is up with his girl she didn't mature at all.)

yeah that happen to me but my cousin his girl only been together for only six months and ryan and I been for five years their wedding are going to be two months before ours

ok. now i'm thinking that they see how happy we are and how us being first down the isle out of the entire penrod side of the grandkids is going to look. (the youngest, without a child of her own, being married and doing things "right") so there for they want to be first down the isle too? how is this fair to the one who respected what their grandparents and parents taught them? they already beat me at having children now they want to try and beat me at getting married too. lol i hate to tell them i don't care if they do beat me at all of that. but the one thing that i will beat them at is that my marriage will last a lifetime. so go ahead and beat me down the isle and beat me on having kids that's not going to stop me from being happy and nothing will ruin my day.

i'm sorry...family can be trying, to say the least and nicely...oh my goodness.....
forget about him...don't let him ruin or put a damper on your day....just remember all the ppl who truly love you and care about you and are happy for you and your FH!
be strong, stay strong, and surround yourself with supportive ppl and create a cocoon for yourself. :)....also keep your cousin away from you on your wedding day and keep him busy and otherwise occupied or something.......

lol so asking him to come and look at the fish then pushing him in the creek would be bad? lmao. sorry evil thought. i was sorta hoping that he won't show. and if he does maybe he can sit in the far far far back... like maybe the other side of the road?

yes, i agree, you did the right thing!

Um, yeah, I'm with you. He should get his own decorations. Wtf is up with him even asking???

Yes, same here that happen to me as well, lol. My friend and her 11 yr relationship all of a sudden decided to get marry after I annouce my engagement, and wanted it a month behind mines but change it to two months, lol. Then another friend that's already married for a year decided hmmmm maybe I should plan mines as well since we went to justice of the peace. I am like can I have my DAY. But hey that's life.

Mrs. Gamble you are so right. But focus on your own wedding marriage and don't let them ruin your day. And like you said your marriage you know will last a lifetime, theirs....well good luck to them.

yeah, i was just wondering if it was just my nutz-o family or if everyone had one or two like mine. lol. i have no idea what made him even ask to use my stuff. but he's an idiot nothing i can do about that.

I have noticed this two but not quite like yours. After I got engaged 5 of my friends all got engaged right after me. Its like hmmm...I wonder what set off this sudden burst of engagements. Luckily for me everyone who got engaged after me are also getting married after me. It still would have been nice to be the only one because it would have been more special but that isn't how its happening so oh well.

Yeah, two of my cousins got engaged way after me, but got married before me. Then one of them had the nerve to tell me congrats on my recent engagement in their thank you card, I was like WTF I have been engaged for a while now & was before you even were!

i just don't understand why everyone has the feeling that once i get engaged or set a date for my wedding that they have to beat me. it's like i have to put up with a 5 year old cousin instead of a 28 year old one. now i'm waiting for his brother to do this too lol.

You know, I actually noticed that about my photography business too. None of my friends had expressed their deep passion for photography until I started my business. Suddenly about a month later they had started one too. I don't really care as long is it makes them happy and they play fair, but it seemed kind of strange to see more than 3 of my friends do that. :)

Maybe this is why I have only mentioned it to a chosen few!

Everyone else will get the invites when it's time and by then most things will be said & done so I won't have to worry about much crap.

I know it's suppose to be an exciting time and you just want to tell everyone, but if you know your people are CRAZY, then less is more!

Good luck!

I definitely think you should have a chance to use YOUR stuff first.

haha, when i was reading about how they had kids first, and want to make it down the aisle first, in your little "poem-ish" sentence, it made me think "first to get divorced" rofl...sorry, but i've learned from personal experience, if you rush something because of others(in which, for them 2 it would be each other, and then your wedding), it's not going to last, or if it does, it'll be out of pride and misery will rule the day ;) and DO NOT let anyone use anything! you're not a damned rental company! let her parents help them out! there's no way i'd let someone use things before i did! a few things i bought, were on discontinuation, or clearance, and the only way i was able to get them! so if i had to replace those, because of someone else's guests, i'd be issuing invoices rather than a wedding gift! i totally would, i'm just like that! "my gift was all those glass hurricanes your drunk brother in law broke. RIGHT THERE was like $100, so happy wedding day to you!"...rofl!!!