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A couple of questions

First of all, there are two GM and two BM in our wedding party. That includes MOH and Bman. Is it appropriate to ask the GM to be ushers, or should I get someone else so they can be with my FH? What's the normal way to do it? Also, are there any Atlanta Brides out there? I feel kinda like I'm stuck with one real venue option (Marietta Educational Garden Center) which I like, but I need more choices/outside opinions on this venue. And another one: I'm writing our ceremony beginning to end and having a friend perform it. So far, it begins with the story of our first date, but that's about all I have. Is there anything I MUST include? Is it okay to just say "I do" instead of repeating vows? I want the ceremony to be very personal and tailored to us (and UNIQUE), and I bartered with FH for this. He gets to pick our first song if I can write the ceremony. I'm an avid writer, so I'm not having much difficulty, but I wanted to know if there's anything that typically has to be included.

Mrs. Carmen

Married: 1+ year ago
Reviews: 4

Posted On: Nov 24, 2009 at 10:00 PM | Vendors are allowed | Add to My Watchlist | Flag As Inappropriate

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cnmnfe44

Married: 01/23/2010
Reviews: 5

Posted On: Nov 24, 2009 at 10:08 PM \| Flag As Inappropriate
you can have your ceremony how ever you want my fiancee wants short simple and not traditional like everyone else we are just saying i do not repeating vows

Traci&Bob

Married: 02/26/2010

Posted On: Nov 24, 2009 at 10:14 PM \| Flag As Inappropriate
Hi :) 1st ask your fh if he minds GM being ushers, if not, go for it :) If he doesn't need them for anything, I don't see a problem with it. As for your ceremony, do it anyway you want, it is your wedding, no rules apply :)

ladylee

Married: 06/05/2010

Posted On: Nov 24, 2009 at 11:00 PM \| Flag As Inappropriate
i read some place not long ago (can't remember where) that it's not uncommon for groomsmen to double as ushers until time for the ceremony to begin. as for your friend who'll be performing your wedding, is he/she ordained? if you want it to be legal make sure you check the requirements for your state.

Mrs. Carmen

Married: 1+ year ago
Reviews: 4

Posted On: Nov 24, 2009 at 11:57 PM \| Flag As Inappropriate
Yeah he's ordained.

MNBride2010

Married: 07/24/2010

Posted On: Nov 25, 2009 at 12:05 AM \| Flag As Inappropriate
Carmen that's awesome that you are writing your ceremony! What a great gift to give your FH. I think if I wrote one or even my own vows it would come out as "well, I love you and um I want to be with you, and yeah I'll be your wife" haha.

revcatey

Rev. Catherine Black-Ward

Posted On: Nov 25, 2009 at 12:07 AM \| Flag As Inappropriate
As an experienced custom ceremony writer, I am happy to help you if you would like a "sounding board". Just PM me. As for your GM being ushers, it may depend upon how many guests you are expecting. Small wedding--sure. Many guests--you may want to have two family members or friends take on the job. Great duty for teenagers, by the way.

Married: 2+ years ago
Reviews: 6

Posted On: Nov 25, 2009 at 12:08 AM \| Flag As Inappropriate
there are your vows, ring exchange vows and blessing. you could include your love story and first impressions are always cute! ours was a hit! and you can just say "i do" if you like but i think if each write their own vows, it's so personal and sweet. i could barely finish saying my vows since all i heard all around me was crying and i was kinda choked up too but did not cry. it was great though...................as for the ushers, can you ask your brothers, nephews, cousins, other male friends, or the s.o. of your bms to help? it's nice for the gm to take pics with the groom.

Mrs. Carmen

Married: 1+ year ago
Reviews: 4

Posted On: Nov 25, 2009 at 2:46 AM \| Flag As Inappropriate
@ JJ: Yeah, I mean the ushers thing isn't a huge deal. I'll ask my brothers (21 and 16) if I need to. We're budgeting for 300 people, but I think it's gonna be able half that, realistically. I just wasn't sure if it was going to inconvenience anyone or not. As for writing our own vows, we both agreed we'd prefer to say "I do", just because we're both almost guaranteed to be crying. Haha. We're softies like that. How I manage to land such a romantic guy is beyond me. lucky lol. @ Revcatey: Actually, I might end up doing that, if you don't mind. Like I said, I'm not even half done, but when I am I might shoot it your way. If Stephen's not going to tell me what our song is, then I wanna surprise him with our ceremony. He's always said he likes my writing, but I'd like another writer to check it out and let me know if I've completely bombed it or not. lol. I'm used to writing novels and essays. This is new to me.

Mrs. Carmen

Married: 1+ year ago
Reviews: 4

Posted On: Nov 25, 2009 at 2:48 AM \| Flag As Inappropriate
@ Morgan: Thank you! I'm really hoping it turns out well. You should give yourself more credit though. If you wanna write it, go for it! We could compare notes. haha. So far, my only guide is asking myself, "Okay, what's all the stuff that would choke me up if I tried to say myself? That way I can have someone else say it, but everyone will be like, 'aww, she wrote that?'" lol

Mrs Knight

Married: 09/18/2009
Reviews: 2

Posted On: Nov 25, 2009 at 3:32 AM \| Flag As Inappropriate
http://www.themonastery.org/jcontent/training/2-wedding-training/139-a-three-step-guide-to-performing-a-wedding That is a good resource for making sure you really are married ;) I wrote our ceremony but kept it VERY traditional then we did a toast to each other at the reception.

Mrs. Carmen

Married: 1+ year ago
Reviews: 4

Posted On: Nov 25, 2009 at 5:39 AM \| Flag As Inappropriate
sigh We don't need to worry about whether we're really married or not. We're not going to tell anyone we know, but we'll be eloping in about a month. We can't stand to wait any longer, but we know how important the ceremony is to both of our families. So we're just going to pretend it's the real deal even though we'll have already been married for 9 months

southerngirl

Married: 12/28/2009
Reviews: 9

Posted On: Nov 25, 2009 at 8:43 AM \| Flag As Inappropriate
With 300 guests you are going to want more than just two ushers so be sure to enlist the help of your brothers and a few more (1 usher per 50 guests is what I just read). If you're already legally married then there really is no limit to what you can say at the ceremony. I'm terrible at creating things from scratch and find I can get the best final document when I look at lots of other sources and creatively blend them together with my own personal flair. Look for other ceremonies online and take the best parts of it.

ladylee

Married: 06/05/2010