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I'm not married yet, but I got my first piece of mail addressed with my will-be-married name. I was SO thrilled!

Eh, I'm not married, but I've never ever ever practiced writing any last name but my own. Not even my FHs. I'm still not completely sold on the whole name change thing, so it's not surprising. People seem awfully shocked by it, but at the same time whenever someone dares call me by FH's last name in front of my in-laws they always make a point to tell the person who dare mention it that I'm NOT a part of the family. Maybe that has something to do with it...

I have had friends keep their name. I plan to drop my middle name and use my last name as my middle name and take my husband's name. wow junkie, I'm sorry about your future inlaws, have you talked to your fh about it?

FH is not happy with it either, and has talked to them about it, but they just keep telling him that they don't mean it to be offensive. How is it not offensive to tell people I don't even know that you haven't accepted me? The strange part is, they treat me like family in literally every other respect. So needless to say we're both confused and it makes me very upset that they put so much weight on my changing my name when I never really planned on changing it to begin with, but was going to because it meant a lot to FH. Now it feels like the decision isn't mine or FH's, but our decision will be a direct result of them, ya know? Not the way I wanted to officially start my family.

It wasn't that hard for me. My signature was just my first name anyway so that didn't change and my old last name was a pain so its nice to have an easy name now :)

Before we got married, one of his friends sent us a card addressed to Mr & Mrs Hislastname. I was horrified. Like wowjunkie, I had NEVER wanted some guy's last name. It was really important to my husband that I take some portion of his name, so I had been considering using 2 last names. After seeing it written though, I realized I couldn't go through with ANY name change. It has been a huge source of drama for H and the in-laws, but it is worth it to keep a name I love and the identity I have established.

I only had problems signing it once. I was distracted and out of habit signed my old last name. Otherwise, it helped that I had to sign all the checks from the wedding with my new last name. Definitely got used to it then! Lol. I'm used to saying it and signing it, but as for hearing it, it's still weird. When we first found out I was pregnant I had some complications that I had to get bloodwork done a few times, and each time I heard it, it took me a second to realize they were talking to me :)

I'm converted in Canada, but not yet in the US...so it's a bit confusing! I have to think twice before signing something.

I haven't had any problems signing it or saying it, but I still keep wanting to call him fiance, instead of husband, lol. We were engaged a long time and I got so used to saying fiance that it is still a little awkard to say husband.

I had to think about it every time for at least a year! If I'm tired or distracted, I still sometimes start to sign my maiden name, and I've been married almost 25 years. It's funny how your brain works!

my new last name starts with an S and i havent figured out a good S to sign yet, its still alittle scribble-ish lol

Well we ended up hyphenating. At first we were just going to take mine but then he realised he really did want to keep his too so we went oh lets just hyphenate lol. His name goes first then mine which has annnoyed some people because apparently my name should have gone first??? We both said it sounded better if my name went last and were happy that way lol. His family arent too happy that I didnt just take his last name but oh well. Neither of us has figured out how to sign it yet lol so it gets funny everytime we need to sign.

I've been married 2 months and am still getting used to it. I love signing it because its shorter/simpler than my maiden name. But actually knowing myself as Potter will probably take a while to get 100% used to.

I am just now getting use to it but its not yet automatic. When people ask me my last name even though I say it right away, I still think about it. When signing, I pause for a second because I want to do the M for Mcguire when my new last name is Guy. My middle initial is M so I find sometimes my signature now has my middle initial in it. LOL
I think it will take me a good solid 4-6 months before its an automatic thing. never know.

My BFF has been married for 7 months and the other day the word 'boyfriend' came out of her mouth. lol It is definitely a major life change and something that will take a while to get used to. But when I talk to friends at work who have been married 10 years they say it is so weird to hear their maiden name because they're so used to their married name.

LOL! It has been almost a month that i have been married now. And I am still not used to it. But I do love my new last name!

This is my second marriage, and I haven't changed my name for either of them. Having recently reconnected with some elementary, high school, and college friends, I am appreciating all over again one of the reasons I didn't want to. The men are easy to recognize, since they all have the same names. However, I could scroll right by "Ann Smith," not realizing that she was the one I knew as Ann Jones.

Plus, a name is so much a part of one's identity. People talk about "preserving your good name," or "making a name for yourself." If I'm going to do those things, I want it to be a name I get to keep for life, not a name I have to change.

I've been having a hard time with changing my name. My FH wants me to but I don't want to. I like my current name and with his last name and my first name my new married name just sounds like an old Irish woman LOL